Hey my famalam,just an update regarding getting my sponsor but having trouble making a decision to be honest and inform her on my medication situation, first and foremost I knew I had to tell her but tbh I was very torn there are countless ppl in the rooms that have meds for pain or other medical conditions that are in same situation but it’s looked upon by some as not being completely abstinence which tbh I’m torn to agree in one sense I do but in another I don’t so that’s my shit though,it took me 2/3 days to really think it over and then I phone and explained that I didn’t leave that bit of information out purpously it just never crossed my mind right there and then my meds from my doctor are second nature to me so I gave her the truth and how I thought ,she’s not overly sold on idea butttttt saying that she didn’t say know ,I explained on my defense I’ve worked my arse off to be where I am today I attend meetings I do service i meet with my na friends I’m living a drug free life and working hard buuutttt her words were 12 steps is a totally abstinence program but how the fuck are you ever Gona get anywhere if you try your hardest to be clean but have this obstacle for some ppl that are tapering a safe and sensible way ,I’m back to being torn can you tell anyhow she said she would speak to her sponsor and get bk to me I explained if she felt she couldn’t I’m totally ok with that,I’m happy I spoke the truth and whatever happens I can move on from that ok .love your feedback.big love
For me I find it’s important to have a sponsor that for the most part I can trust, and it is an honest programme. For me I’ve had to be as honest as I can with my sponsor, and listen to his advice most of the time atleast.
Well we’re in discussion ATM regarding sponsorship and yes Duncan I totally agree it’s got to be based of honesty but just BC someone is a sponsor or in a meeting not all the say you have to agree with there not some person on a pedestal there an addict same as me and you and sometimes I don’t agree for good reason or I may see it in a different light as ppl have different life experiences and doc ,it’s has to work for both of you it’s a partnership .thanks for your feedback though really appreciate it. Be safe
Everyone’s entitled to their own view and opinion and I get that it’s a programme based on abstinence but her response pisses me off a little of I’m being honest as she almost made it sound like your getting a buzz off your meds which we both know isn’t the case, yes it’s different when you are off of it and your brain chemistry works differently but you should be able to build a solid foundation so that’s it’s in place. This is why I’m glad my sponsor had experience of my specific addiction. You know that your dedicated to it so I hope none of this has a negative impact.
Good for you Em. Honesty is the foundation of every good thing. Now it’s time to wait and see what happens next - but no matter what, you know nothing is hidden or secret here. Everyone is moving forward together. And that means a lot!
Also, I take methylphenidate (Ritalin) for my ADHD, and ADHD was an aggravating factor in the development of my addiction when I was younger - so I personally think my psychiatric treatment of it (with an appropriate dose prescribed by my doctor) helps me in my recovery.
Em you’ve been here a few months now and I remember the early days. There is no question in my mind that whatever program you’re following, it’s working. I think you’ve got a good thing going. I’m sure you’ll find someone who works with you to keep the things that are working, and grow together into the future.
Very true Matt if anything this has been a learning experience to what I really need in a sponsor and what I don’t ,this will not faze my solid foundation if anything it will help be be a stronger in my recovery for what works for me and my recovery.
Yea it’s a tough one I do see it from both sides but I feel as I only had 2 lady’s to choose from so tbh none of them really stood out but I was willing to put that to one side for my recovery as relationship can grow and change ,so will just wait and see now I’m ok either way tbh .
Hey girl! I’m soooo glad you were honest. I don’t actually agree that AA is a program of abstinence from ALL substances - there are plenty of people on prescribed medications that are taken according to medical advise and supervision and I think there is no problem with that. AA has no opinion on outside issues and what medication someone takes under the supervision of their doctor is an outside issue. Sponsors are not your doctor and even if someone in the program IS a doctor, they are not YOUR doctor. At the end of the day, if she doesn’t feel like she has the expertise to sponsor you based on your medical situation, that’s ok, there will be others who do feel able to do so. But the most important thing is honesty, and I am so proud of you for that!!
Sponsors are not doctors. If she can’t accept what you’re taking under doctor’s orders then you need to move on. People with this mindset totally piss me off. Sorry, just had to get that off my chest.
You’re working hard and we all see it on a daily basis. Don’t let this get you down. Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s working for you and that’s all that matters.
Thanks Lisa I completely agree tbh in away I hope she says she can’t do it as like I put before there was only 2 to choose from so if tbh I wouldn’t of choose none of them if there were more women but IL move on regardless .big love my lovely Lisa.xxxx
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anyhow she said she would speak to her sponsor and get bk to me I explained if she felt she couldn’t I’m totally ok with that,I’m happy I spoke the truth and whatever happens I can move on from that ok .love your feedback.big love 
I completely agree tbh in away I hope she says she can’t do it as like I put before there was only 2 to choose from so if tbh I wouldn’t of choose none of them if there were more women but IL move on regardless .big love my lovely Lisa.xxxx