Vent here as needed

I came across AA meeting locally that does Skype… every Saturday at 7.30pm AEST… If you have a look through your local AA website u may get lucky. It was call in only so no video. Missed it tonight so was going to check out next Saturday. :thinking:

I made it to 3 days sober yesterday and had a drinklast night and this am. Your not alone.

I am just about to hit the 3 day mark after screwing up after ten days, its not easy but three days is better than none! You will get there take in to account you made three days so you will do it again and more… I hear you though it can be tough… :persevere:

@Ash

I guess all we can do in those moments is think of why we choose to drink and why we choose to stop. One weighs heavier on us then the other at all times and not always are we ready for that battle. Is that our fault? No…should we feel held to blame? No…
We as addicts are forced to fight a fight we had no idea we were choosing to fight. We had no idea we were addicts when we started until it was too late and now we blame ourselves for something we really had no control over to begin with. We fall to get back up and sometimes just to fall again…but instead of beating ourselves back down we need to learn to pick ourselves up with the knowledge of how we fell the last time. Lessons in acceptance teach an understanding until all mistakes are learned once and for all.

Stay strong!

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That’s too bad, man. We’ve all been there! Hopefully you can find the strenght to start the fight again, believe in yourself! How about trying therapy or speaking to another professional of some kind? I like you don’t care for big crowds and talking openly about myself in groups, so I’ve had good experiences with psychologists earlier in my life. Whatever you choose, know that you can come here and receive support!

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That’s a great idea! Can we not just start a new topic titled “Reset” or something?

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Sounds like a great idea @Fubar84 !!! :triumph:

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Dido! Staying busy is key! Boredom can so easily be a trigger.

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OMG, I wish you had an opportunity to cyber-slap her! That’s like a really crude thing to say to someone trying to stay sober. :rage:

I’ve yet to find any other forums like this, I think I’m ok with just you guys. But I have googled a lot with regards to finding more information about this disease we call addiction and mainly alcoholism. Found some handbooks and such, not all helpful but my mission was to understand more about why we become addicts and how to live a clean life. Don’t know what you’re searching for spesifically but as always; google has the answer :wink:

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Bloody hell what a cow. Thats terrible, it makes me angry that someone who should know better would make such a stupid remark…

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You vented in the right place…

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Hey @Oliverjava

Thanks for the suggestion. I can try and work something like that into the next feature update I do for Sober Time.
I’m very busy with Sober Time for iOS now, though. It’s taking up the little free time I have.

Would you mind posting this, and any other improvements/requests in this topic?

Oh and yeah, be careful of those recovery sites. A lot of them are just trying to hook you into their recovery program and get some money out of you. Definitely looks like what she was trying to do. They also try and take advantage of addicts who are often desperate and in a bad state

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Reset…here is to 6secs. Drank at an Indian graduation party. Too much curry on their meats. Seemed like it was almost a game to see how hot and spicy you could eat. After eating lamb with some type of fire sauce on it…I was handed a beer to cool my American senses. “We give this to babies” one man said while laughing…shit…

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Doing well nearly into day six, however I am getting really bad anxiety, and also starting to almost imagine some of my past actions, I am staying strong but these feelings of impending doom are really hard to deal with, I know it will pass as everything does. But I am having my first moment (since joining forum). Currently trying to go to a positive place, emotions can be a BITCH!!! Hopefully this will pass soon and I can get on with it… DEEP BREATHS… Shine, Shine, Shine…

@Ozdownunder All things must pass… Stay strong and you will do it!! :trophy:

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Cheers - Just had some chocolate and a cigarette, seem to have a bit of a calming effect. Thanks @Nutrock :grinning:

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Hey you have made a start and that is the most important thing to, I have in the past treated my partner like shit, however sometimes he has enabled me so it is a learning call for all of us. Try and not be to hard on your self. My partner has stayed with me for so long is because he knows what a devil the booze is, however I am lucky… you have to learn to forgive yourself as its a big part of the disease of addiction. 2 bottles of wine WOW that used to be my starting amount, when I was really bad 6 - 12 months ago I could do 6 bottles of wine in one go which is crazy, so thumbs up you are getting there, everything takes practice so baby steps… :smiley:

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Thankyou @Ozdownunder I don’t think there’s a worse feeling than the disappointment we feel in ourselves! You’re right I have made a start and I will try to be a bit kinder to myself! I’m going to buy myself an embroidery kit today. It’s a hobby I used to have and have given up cos it’s not easy sewing when drunk or coked up!!!

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There was a topic before you should read (Art as therapy) pretty interesting…and you can post pictures ect…

I’m at exactly 24hours again. Trust me your not alone. I’m trying to focus on the positive of being 13 days off drugs

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