no it won’t, i promise you! he needs to learn that aggression is leading nowhere and is false behaviour. you would use that bottle when he attacks you 
even lashed to a tree and with muzzle this is scary. interactions get better but still a looong way to go.
at home with me & cats he is the lovliest cuddlebug.
mostly me is in training. my skills to notice when he starts to get into attack mode are still poor. even the trainer say he is difficult to read sometimes and they are brilliant.
I understand, hes a big boy to be aggressive isnt he so totally get why your having training for you both, its very responsible actually, he is adorable though xx
he is, i saw him and saw a wonderful character and a heart of gold 
i was not impressed by his attack (he attacked everybody exept 3 animal keepers at the shelter). i asked him if he had other hobbies too 
then i walked him daily for about 7 weeks to build up trust. he learned the hard way early on that this end of the lash will not easen the grip or let loose sorry boy, you are big & strong but i’m nearly double your weight (then) and i look fat but under the fat there is a mass of powerful muscles too and i know how to use them
i earned his love and trust by bringing him water (he drinks a lot) and brushing him 
because i came back every day. with his nonexistant social skills & aggression (he is insecure and doesn’t know how to handle situations) he would still be at the shelter.
now he is safe, loved, pampered, has the structure he needs and a human to trust unconditional. i love him to pieces but allow no shenanigans, train daily and we both thrive
other than my ex Bruno is willing to work on himself, enjoys how things change for the better and gives a lot of love 
What a beautiful love story between the 2 of you, he needed a firm hand and a big heart to give him a chance at becoming himself and in return you get to give and recieve unconditional love, well done to you both, that warms my heart so much xx
My mum has fibromyalgia, another reason why i feel guilty for not putting up with her behaviour and keeping my boundries up, what if this is because her brain is affected so much? Am i twisting the knife in an ill woman or am i making excuses for her? Honestly yesterday she was like a mad woman, we speak over text when id much rather talk to her in person but that is because i cant talk to her in person because she will storm out or get really aggressive, like she literally tells me shes not gaslighting while gaslighting me…i dont know what to think today
Good morning from me to you 
May I suggest you stop thinking?
It leads you nowhere.
My opinion might be unusual, so I’d like to explain.
I never ever understood the concept of pity or feeling pity for someone. I’m capable of deep compassion and sympathy though.
From this pov i always, since i can remember as a child, called people out on their shit despite everybody told me “you can’t say that, she is ill”. having compassion for your illness is one thing, calling your bullshit behaviour exactly what it is and hold you accountable for it is a totally different thing. they are not interlinked.
of course we all cut some slack for behaviour influenced by pain, meds or other conditions. but it’s no excuse to be an asshole. dealing with dementia is out of this equation as the affected persons are no longer masters of their brains and speech. but even there i don’t tolerate too much shitty behaviour (all of it speaking from experience).
You do you, she does she, focus on what is under your control and be gentle, kind and pampering to yourself. How she deals with the issues in her life is not your business unless you are asked to support in detail. You love her, that’s enough.
HUGS
Good morning lovely friend 
Yes, this, this is what i need to do, Adam said the same thing this morning too, thank your for steering me in the right direction, you are both correct, i tie myself i knots over thinking…
I agree about the separating the illness from the behaviour, to be fair she was like this even before her illness but its probably the first time ive called her out and actually stuck to it, i was ready to throw the towel in for a moment this morning because shes not well so i wrote on here instead, that and if i was to then i feel everything will just go back to exactly as it was because she wont accept any wrong doing.
HUGS
Sigh, it’s a hard codependent fight to stay off the toxic people we are bonded
I want to encourage you to stop engaging, answering, asking how she is etc.
I also want to encourage you to replace thinking about her and your relationship with things that brighten your life! Hugging your partner instead, giving your daughter 5 mum-minutes where you just focus on her (sitting in silence is also great), put yourself under the shower to wash off the overfocussing. In the long run, those actions add up and work their cummulating magic 
I think you have come a long way already, congrats 
i need to get up now, the dog needs his walk
Ok, im am going to just do exactly what youve said because im not very clear in my head today, Adam and Sofia are at work and school and im at home with lots of chores to do so im going to start with a list of those and do not think, when they get home i will give them my focus, thank you for the direction i sorely needed that, love to you all, i hope you have a wonderful day, youve really helped, thank you
Always welcome
I got through my shit with the support from here abd I’m glad I can give back.
I stay with you on the chore side! Need to catch up, a weekend mostly away leads to a long list of chores
I appreciate you so much, thank you
‘Just stop thinking’ is serving me very well! I have gotten loads done in the house, lots of sorting out, i have my daughters craft stuff all organised (no mean feat), lots of recycling ready to collect, 2 massive bags of unused clothing to go to charity, house clean as a whistle and ironing done, im feeling good and very accomplished, i know i cant ignore whats going forever but for now its definately helping, who would have thought something so simple to do which hadnt even occurred to me was exactly what i needed! 
I’m happy for you
Well done, this sounds like a loooooot 
I love this feeling, the house feels so neat and tidy after doing what you did! I will take some inspiration from you and proceed here … when Missi gets up, she purrs on my legs and I must not move on the couch
All because i took yours and Adams advice!! So thank you xx