If you are willing to admit to your innermost self that you are an addict, there are a bunch of structured programs that can help you. AA is the one that worked for me, but there are also MA and NA programs, SMART Recovery, and Refuge Recovery/Dharma Recovery. There is also a Women For Sobriety that some on Talking Sober have used.
Take a look at this thread, it is chock full of ideas!
Resources for our recovery
Blessings on your house 
as you begin your journey.