That’s the problem with alcohol, you will always VERY SLOWLY AT FIRST want more, you will always find a reason for a drink. Don’t kid yourself and just stop.
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I’ve been sober for nearly a year and a half. Never could identify with those who said they were jealous or resentful because others were drinking and they couldn’t.
Until the other day. I had a fleeting moment of resentfulness at my family picnic. As a matter of fact, the last several occasions i felt a tinge of jealously watching my mother & sister drink their wine when we were out to lunch and dinner.
But I really didn’t want it. Nope. It would lead to my death.
Lol I said all that to simply say I Identity Now. Man I love this app.
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I feel you…
…real talk. I just try not to be around it at this point and if I am I just leave or tell the truth about my issues. Keep up the good work @Mavvy
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Thank You So Much @deaineric
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I’m able to successfully socially drink now, I prefer a coke or rockstar, I leave the boozing to the boozers.
I have young kids, and it’s amazing watching them at a birthday party or over at a friends. They don’t need a drink to socialize either, just like I didn’t way back when, somewhere along the way a drink became the only way for me to socialize. 19 months sober, and I’m back there, I can chop it up/shoot the shit or have a genuine conversation without any chemical assistance.
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Nope. Hasn’t worked for me in the past 8 years of trying (and failing) to be sober
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No. Never tried and won’t risk it.
Some days ago I met a good friend and I was late. So he already got us some drinks. 2 big glasses of beer 
He had to drink those alone, I had something alcoholfree.
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Kids show us how to do it right (mostly).
We’re born without the need of a drug. Nobody needs alcohol to socialize
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Kids are pretty amazing little creatures. They can be emotional at times but their ability to basically live in only the present is a thing of beauty.
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Moderation is a no for me. Not just because I can’t but honestly, it’s too damn frustrating to try. It’s exhausting, irritating, and takes a lot of mental effort to moderate. When I can just be abstinent and it alleviates a lot of unnecessary suffering.
And…sobriety is fucking amazing anyway lol
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The thread wording does not seem quite right to me…but I know of many people who have acknowledged that they have a problem with alcohol and have tried to moderate; I was one of them! I failed to moderate every time and just got deeper into the hole of abusing alcohol! I don’t know of anybody who has done this successfully…
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Probably not. I would play it safe. Something made you quit in the first place. I would too back and think about what that was. Maybe reach out to your higher power 
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speaking for myself, i cannot. sure, there were a few one-offs that were successful but very rare. i’m just an all or nothing gal, i guess. 
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I was always successful at drinking. It was the not drinking after I struggled with.
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I am not prepared to try. My life has never been better than now. Being sober is just amazing. Alcohol has no place in my life now. That’s my choice and I am so happy about that.
I never had a choice before I realised I that I am an alcoholic. Choosing to be sober is the best choice I ever made.
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thanks for the laugh!
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No success here. And believe me I’ve tried every which way possible my brain is like a scummy lawyer looking for a loop hole to use and it be okay. Everytime I started drinking and using again it made me lose everything and start over without fail.
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I tried to be a “moderate” and “social” drinker many, many times. Failed each and every time. Always ended up back at the B&B (bingeing and blacking out). From personal experience, any person that wonders whether or not they drink responsibly… can’t.
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Um, nope…unless you do not have drinking problem. But you’re here, so nope…
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I want to add that addiction should not be measured by how often I use but rather
am I using as a means to escape and/or is it creating unmanageability in my life?
This holds true for me regardless of whether I use every day, once a week, or even once a year.
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