Well tot day has turned into a serious struggle , loads of my friends are out at the pubs and asking to me join them , even though I’ve said I’m not drinking, the cravings are very powerful , it’s the horse racing so everyone is out and about and I’m struggling .
Deep breaths and trying to distract myself . Very hard work but I haven’t caved yet
Stay focused on yourself. You don’t miss anything. Do thingsyou like and go to bed early. Nobody ever regretted to wake up sober 
Stay focused and find something fun that you can do. Trust me going to the pubs isn’t fun. I remember feeling the same at first, and now I don’t even talk to those same people, friends I grew up with since 13 year old and partied with. Once I got sober that was it we hardly talk and honestly it turned out to be a blessing.
It is hard but you got this!
The pubs really aren’t fun and just think of how great and accomplished you will feel tomorrow knowing you didn’t cave. I used to think I was “missing out” but now I have realized I just have different priorities for myself.
Find a good show or book! Stay strong!
Thank you for getting me through this period , I have got home from where I was and removed myself from the situation. Put their numbers on mute and opened a good book .
Later me and my partner are getting food and watching a movie. Looking forward to the days when this will get easier lol
Well done everyone , we go this 
Few of my fellowship friends came round to watch the grand national had a good time ,
As much as any advice or suggestions help (which there are great examples of on this thread), it’s you who got through it. Don’t forget to credit yourself for the hard work. I struggle with giving myself credit where credit is due, but when I do it’s incredibly empowering 
THIS! 
TRUE
I think is easy to not give ourselves credit when we should. Great point.
Definitely far too easy! For me it’s in the same “we are our own worst critics” vein, I can point out all my failures and mistakes in a heartbeat without acknowledging all my successes and genuine, healthy behavior!
Working on being “our own biggest supporter” is a challenge, one that I’m still struggling to cultivate!
Very wise point there and you’re right I did get myself through it and I’m very proud of myself. I really did fight my own demons to settle at home and not give in to temptation. I’m stronger than I realise .
Thanks for pointing that out to me and to others .
Let’s all keep on supporting Each other to become our most empowered and best selves 
Happy Sunday 
I’m struggling , I have a ‘friend’ who is messaging me and trying to plant the seed , he’s a neighbour so it’s very close to home .
We used to spend a lot of time together drinking and taking coke it came had in hand . I have distanced myself and I haven’t heard from him in a while but today he had put the suggestion in my head that he’s opening a bottle of wine . And it’s my favourite kind … his words!
I said I’m trying to be sensible but I’m struggling to get it out of my head now . And he’s only a few doors down from me .
My partner doesn’t return from work for a couple of hours yet , I’ve told him what has been said and he’s very supportive. Any advice to pass a couple of hours
Weekend struggles indeed 
Got any hobbies or activities that you enjoy doing? Healthy distractions have been a big help for me, like reading, painting, cooking and exercise
Concerning your neighbor, that is a difficult situation. I’ve never dealt with this scenario before, be it that the temptation is so close. I’m almost exclusively in the “cut out the negative influence” camp though!
I’ve got one of my favourite funny programmes on and I’m cooking tea for me and my partner, which is helping a bit. I’ve just stopped responding to the friend now after I made it clear I wasn’t intending on drink at all this weekend .
I didn’t want to say I’m trying to give it up all together , thought it might open a conversation that I don’t really want to have and also I don’t really feel I owe anyone an explanation anyway lol .
I’ve got out one of my Lego projects to make a start on with my show in the back ground .
And I’ve changed int my pjs cos my thinking is I don’t think il be bothered to get changed again haha
It’s a difficult one because if I block him and what not I still have to live here so I’m just hoping that he’ll get bored of asking me if I keep saying no all the time lol 
Thank you for responding to my message I appreciate to advice .
You certainly don’t owe anyone an explanation. But if this person is a friend, an explanation could benefit both of you. I do understand not wanting to open that can of worms though. Prioritize your recovery first and foremost! 
I agree, the more honesty we can exhibit, the better off we are. But, especially in early recovery, doing uncomfortable things is dangerous. This forum is a great place to practice honesty in a safe manner.
Right there with you!
We’re so close to the two week mark, we can do this together
I started painting today, and I almost couldn’t put it down, but I had to put the kids to bed
Dive into those Legos, and if possible, go to sleep early. You’ll be over one more obstacle in the morning:)
Stay strong, you got this!
I have neighbors that were drinking buddies literally right next door to us. While you owe no one an explanation, I will tell you…once I told them I wasn’t drinking anymore the phone calls, texts and invites stopped coming.
Sometimes it just takes a simple “thanks for the invite but we are busy this weekend” or “I am not drinking right now” You will get more and more comfortable telling people this as time passes. It is hard in the beginning but it does get easier.
Hang in there. For me a good audio book/podcast always helps or a new show.
I’m so angry at myself right now …..I caved I had a drink with the friend 
I’m so ashamed and embarrassed he turned up at my door with a bottle of. Wine and 2 glasses even though I already told him I wasn’t drinking.
But I’m not making excuses I made my own choice I should have got more angry and told him to leave but I just couldn’t resist .
Back to square bloody one, I feel like I’ve let everyone down you we’re all so supportive and believed I could do it .
I’m going to bloody tell him this morning how mad I am and not to do that again because I just won’t be speaking to him if he doesn’t respect my boundaries
Hope you’re all having a great weekend
Hey, I’m glad you’re still on this app!
Every time I’ve caved, I just stopped coming, and you what happened then. I gave up completely, and always kept drinking for months before next reset.
I completely get the feelings of self-accusation, but remember to show yourself mercy, you are human Through trial and error you shall overcome.
It’s new day and a new start:)
The path to breaking an addiction can always be positively moving while also being non-linear.
I also have found that any length of time is a win - just keep working toward your goals of breaking this addiction and you should be proud - 1 day or 1 year.
I hope this helps!