Why do people say...call me anytime then not answer

Life in Recovery
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.i don’t get why people do that shit…even if you make up an excuse it’s better than just ignoring someone…

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I’m sorry you had that experience. You can be positive and think that people have good intentions, but then get busy with life. I know I am often at work, with family, or just don’t have my phone in me. This forum is pretty good for having someone online at pretty much all time.

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When this happens to me, I try to put myself in their shoes. Maybe something very important is going on in their life at that moment. Maybe they’re driving, working, sleeping etc. Everyone has busy lives so I don’t take it personal. Instead, I’ll drop them a text saying “hope all is well, call me when you have a minute”.

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Great advice Lisa 07

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I’m doing the same. I’m a reliable and good friend but I also have my boundaries I need for myself. For example I mute my phone silent in the evening. I text or call back in the morning when I missed a call.
I don’t take it personal when people don’t answer my call. When I need to talk I text them and put out briefly what’s on my plate. Often this little text helps to ease the issue a bit.

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I don’t know if you’ll find this useful. People do all kinds of stuff I don’t get. But I do know that I’ve had to work hard on learning to not be so affected by what others think donor say.

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I appreciate when I get a text like this. A brief explanation let’s me know if I need to call back sooner rather than later. If a friend is in crisis, their call is important and I’ll make it a priority, but if they’re just calling to chat, I’ll get back to them when I have time.

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Thanks for looking out to me …a stranger reaches out n I can’t even get a text

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Yeah…I’m not taking it personal i’m more butt hurt than anything…thanks tho

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My go to text is…hey are you still alive n believe it or not…I’ve gotten a no response before

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Thank you so fking much :heartbeat:

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I know the feeling myguy n its fking sucks…
No body likes feeling alone especially at this point in my life…fuck it im just gonna take my dog for a long walk (kinda bullet in leg) …

People keep your word :100:

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Yeah i do …anything is better than not responding…thanks

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I totally get it…n… understand stuff happens.
But it literally takes about 5/10 seconds to say yes or no

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Thank you so much for that…means a lot to me.

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Some mean well n others talk just to hear themselves talk

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That sucks i feel so bad for you… I can’t imagine losing a parent not that i’m close with them but still…people take advantage of anything they can…including getting some attention …
From someone else’s Tragedy

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Thank you again…im like new to this app n format n still trying to figure it 3…so if u get multiple replies from me I apologize

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I often get calls at the most inopportune time, like when the dentist has 2 fists in my mouth, for example. Same with texts. I often see the text but am not able to respond, and being that I have the attention span of a goldfish, I forget about it. When I remember, it’s been days or weeks later and to save the embarrassment of responding late, I sometimes don’t respond at all. I’ve become what I hate… But I am an adult in 2023 and there are many of us.

I’ve started telling people to go ahead and text me, I may not reply right away or at though. Gotta set realistic expectations. lol

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I totally agree you…i get it people get busy shit happens …in my case im literally 7 days clean…so were are all those dudes that supposedly have my back
Yeah bro call me anytime especially if yr gonna…
Thank god i didn’t use …just Disappointed in people

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