Why do people say...call me anytime then not answer

Life in Recovery
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.i don’t get why people do that shit…even if you make up an excuse it’s better than just ignoring someone…

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I’m sorry you had that experience. You can be positive and think that people have good intentions, but then get busy with life. I know I am often at work, with family, or just don’t have my phone in me. This forum is pretty good for having someone online at pretty much all time.

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When this happens to me, I try to put myself in their shoes. Maybe something very important is going on in their life at that moment. Maybe they’re driving, working, sleeping etc. Everyone has busy lives so I don’t take it personal. Instead, I’ll drop them a text saying “hope all is well, call me when you have a minute”.

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Great advice Lisa 07

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I’m doing the same. I’m a reliable and good friend but I also have my boundaries I need for myself. For example I mute my phone silent in the evening. I text or call back in the morning when I missed a call.
I don’t take it personal when people don’t answer my call. When I need to talk I text them and put out briefly what’s on my plate. Often this little text helps to ease the issue a bit.

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I don’t know if you’ll find this useful. People do all kinds of stuff I don’t get. But I do know that I’ve had to work hard on learning to not be so affected by what others think donor say.

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I appreciate when I get a text like this. A brief explanation let’s me know if I need to call back sooner rather than later. If a friend is in crisis, their call is important and I’ll make it a priority, but if they’re just calling to chat, I’ll get back to them when I have time.

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People mean well, then life gets in the way…

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It seems like a common practice unfortunately @Barber508 . I call bullshit. Because it’s a pile of stinkin shit. A similar occurrence for me. In my group (Refuge Recovery). I post my number 5 days a week and only a few have called me,I know I’m fuckin 'scary! The good news is 2 of them are incredible friends. I speak with my friend Andrew every day! My theory is that our peeps mean well but when it comes right down to it there’s some fear of real connection and the “what ifs” come into play. What if they don’t like me. What if I don’t appear to be cool. All that shit. Don’t give up!

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Thanks for looking out to me …a stranger reaches out n I can’t even get a text

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Yeah…I’m not taking it personal i’m more butt hurt than anything…thanks tho

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My go to text is…hey are you still alive n believe it or not…I’ve gotten a no response before

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Thank you so fking much :heartbeat:

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I know the feeling myguy n its fking sucks…
No body likes feeling alone especially at this point in my life…fuck it im just gonna take my dog for a long walk (kinda bullet in leg) …

People keep your word :100:

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Yeah i do …anything is better than not responding…thanks

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I totally get it…n… understand stuff happens.
But it literally takes about 5/10 seconds to say yes or no

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Theres always someone here for you :hugs:

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Thank you so much for that…means a lot to me.

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Some mean well n others talk just to hear themselves talk

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Sadly thats part of life these days, when my Dad passed away some people would be so kind and helpful, bring dinners, cards, practical help etc . Yet some would appear to be kind by their public words (messages online etc) but their were no actions behind it.
And as we all know… actions speak louder than words…

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