Dirk, it is not what I said. At all. You try to fit my story on a narrative that seems convenient for you for some reason. It’s not the first time. So instead of having you making a bad summary, let me offer a clearer picture:
I did not get in drinking because this job. But because of relationship circonstances.
I relapsed in circonstances due to my job. I admitted it. And reset my counter. I am working on this.
YOU wanted me to quit my job. Which is really something I love doing. Probably the only thing that never failed me until now, in nearly 50y.
The explanation I gave was to illustrate what I love in this job. That’s all.
I am not good at this because of drinks. At all. Never said that. Because it is not true.
I am quite disappointed I must say by what I read in your comment. I thought this was a safe place where people could be vulnerable. Seems I was wrong. I get judged, and quite unfairly in light of the actual data I provided. and maybe my post is not what is out of touch with this community here.
Most jobs come at the expense of health. Talk to firefighters, police men, video game programmers, accountants, care taker, nurses, teachers, train drivers, taximen, doctors, flight attendant, mechanics, factory workers…
No we all don’t do that ….we put our sobriety first .For ourselves and also as an example to our children . Maybe pick up some tools of recovery and try a meeting sometime instead of using business excuses and picking up a drink . You could of got the business without an alcoholic drink, as you said your great at it . Sorry you’ve got covid wish you a speedy recovery
I did not do anything wrong, I did my best, I am not guilty of anything but still, it was not good enough.
We are all substance abusers here… Don’t worry, we have all been the worst in relationships. We have had to take big and smaller responsibility for our harm, our contribution to the failiure in our relationships. Being able to identify our responsibility without the crushing shame or ego blockling our view was the success.
Also, have you ever watched Parks and Recreation? There is an amazing scene where Ron goes into a home hardware store, the clerk approaches him : “hi sir, do you need any help?” and Ron answers “I know more than you”. Ron is an old school fellow, with many tricks up his sleeve and is handy in pretty much everything.
I’m saying this because i thought of this when you swatted away @KevinesKay advice. I urge you to reconsider the advice coming from a person of experience and solid insight.
Actually, many solid cautioning around work too on this thread. I appreciate your passion, I have the same, but my addiction is intricately linked to work, and for many many of us, it is.
I did not abuse any before I was discarded as garbage. I was a good husband and a good father. You assume that I must be guilty of something. Which is exactly what everybody think of men those days. Well, I was not.
And no I don’t watch this show.
