The last time I was really involved in this group a gentleman had messaged me and I was recovering from a hard hangover. He mocked me for my recovery foods basically which to me was extremely odd as i went out of my way to share what made my stomach feel better, it was a rough time, i know that. it was quite awhile ago.
I just want everyone to know, that not everyone on here is looking out for you, there are a lot of people who are still really sick in their recovery and dont have the best frame of mind when communicating.
That is so sad that people actually do such negative things when all were trying to do is better. Especially when everybody on here should be open to new sober friends. I’m sorry you had to go through that.
I am so sorry that happened to you. My experience here has been nothing but kind and positive and helpful. I’m glad you’re back and hope you find it to be more supportive.
It just stinks when you see the dark side of recovery. No anger toward the individual, but as someone who already struggles with appetite having someone mock me for what I found to aid stupendously in my recovery during that hangover was sickening.
Ive also had bad experiences. I dont remember who it was on here but someone was asking what I was struggling with and i said Porn and Masturbation. They in return laughed at me for dealikg with something so weak and pathetic. Thats one of the reason why im a quiet shell of the person i used to be.
When there’s something inappropriate or against form rules please everyone message it via PM to @moderators. They will have a look at the situation. Please remember: @moderators does only function in PM, not as tag in posts.
A good reminder for all here to be polite, share experience and care for each other. Take what’s for you and leave the rest. Not every topic and issue is for everyone. Be respectful and let opinions be what they are: individual.
I remember I muted you @donut89 in spring because your tone was too aggressive for me allthough I appreciated your posts. Everyone please remember that you can mute threads and persons to make your personal TS experience more comfortable. We are all here for recovery.
It speaks volumes that they went for the private message attack rather than the public forum. They would not have got away with that rudeness in front of others.
Talking Sober is an open forum so it’s possible, although I don’t remember ever seeing it here. Whenever content occurs that you think breaks the rules, please contact the moderators, either by flagging said content or sending a private message addressed to @moderators. Private messages can also be flagged, which is the only way for mods to see private messages.
I have to remind myself that what people say and do has everything to do with them and nothing to do with me, in real life, here on the forum, same as social media. Someone’s reaction to us is simply that, THEIR reaction, its not yours to own. Your sobriety is more important than someones opinion. Your opinion about you is all that matters.
Therein lies a huge problem with the internet and online communication. People create a username then say things they would NEVER say if people knew who they were. Cowards, right?
I hate that you had that experience; please keep an open-heart & open-mind. There are a lot of people who have abstinence (sometimes multiple decades) but they still haven’t Recovered from themselves. For those, try to deal with them in Grace and keep-it-pushing.
My experience here has been nothing but kind and positive and helpful. I’m glad you’re back and hope you find it to be more supportive. 