Awesome. Get some sleep. Good fucking job.
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I feel like I’ve been grilled for my post and replies, and everyone has made me feel quite ashamed and so small. But I’m truly grateful, I recognise it’s entirely what I needed to hear. Glad I found this forum.
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I’m sure it was noones intention to shame you but I can see why you feel that way anyway. You made the right decision. This forum will call you on your bullshit in the future, we will be here with advice and with tons of support along the way too. We’re all in this together. Welcome.
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So no chance of anyone blowing up my ego by me posting about “being 7 days sober” when I’m wired to the nines lmao. Perfect.
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We’ve all felt ashamed and small. I never felt smaller than I did after my last bender. That sorrowful look in my wife’s eye…I decided in that moment that I would never drink again.
And I haven’t. The good news is, I will never have to feel that shame again. I won’t drink, because I don’t drink. I became a non-drinker.
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Hi and welcome! First, good for you for trying something new. There is a well used phrase ‘nothing changes if nothing changes’.
There is so much information and support on this forum. This is a really helpful collection of threads Frequently asked questions about sobriety for newcomers
As has been said, read lots, read some more. Find all the stuff you can relate to. Keep checking in and reach out whenever you need to 
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I would also say, this is a sobriety forum and we avoid talking about using here. If you are under the influence, you have to opt in to the seeking help category and post there as talking about using can be very difficult for people who are struggling.
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I fully understand, thank you
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Leave the ego with the cans and the coke.
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I appreciate your words mate, no need for apologies
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For me that feeling was humility. It sure felt like shame at first but it wasn’t. It was the first feeling I needed to start my journey of recovery.
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What you will find here is support but with that support comes honesty that ppl that have just not by talked the talk but also have walked the walk we have 2 ears and one mouth for a reason, All the best.
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Yes! Same!
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Yes. First dont decide to have a blow out. Just don’t. There is no reason to. If you have decided now to stop then stop. You said first thing on your list is triggers?? First thing on your list is to stop. Don’t worry about triggers. They will come. They will happen. For the rest of your life. The only thing you need to be doing Is having a long hard conversation with you self to decide if you are going to decide to stop. It does not sound like you are ready… Having a blow out does not help. I’ve done that. Hundreds of times. And it never changes. You need to find your “why” . Why you are getting clean. And mean it. The rest is just doing the daily work of getting through the day because of your why… Find your why and you will find intention and clarity 
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Well… If it makes you feel any better… Many of us have relapsed many times. You can nip this in the bud! This is a great community! I can’t personally speak on cocaine… Only anecdotally.
My bartender friends who have dealt with coke for years are a wreck! Anxiety, depression, guilt… It’s not worth it! You have a ton of life to live! Don’t put yourself through the ringer waiting on a bag! Additionally, dealers aren’t your friends! They are co dependent. See how fast they disappear when you stop buying. Just saying.
Take care of yourself 
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He didn’t and he flushed the stuff.
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This is great. You feel ashamed, but instead of feeding your ego and going full defense, you are humble and listen to advice. This is simply wonderful and gives me hope for your future. Good luck Ben, see you around
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For me that would be to remember that there will be good days and bad days. To remember that if you fall that you need to get right back up and continue on. Sitting on the ground (figuratively) and thinking about how I’ve failed or messed up will be no good.
There’s a lot that I wish I’d known but that’s a big one. I’m glad you decided not to have your blow out and in glad you’ll stick around here for a while. We all want you to succeed, whihh is why some people have been so upfront with you. You’re the only one who can do it for you, but you’re about to start on a road that others here have already traveled, and the best they can do to help is to give advice.
So welcome, and here’s to a new you. 
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He told you this privately?
No it was posted above and already talked about.