Welcome! Glad you found us! Good luck on the job search, kind of a double whammy there, I’m sorry. Looking forward to following your journey. Congrats on 48 days, that’s amazing!
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Welcome Candace!! Glad you found the forum.
And congratulations on 48 days.
Explore and read to get your bearings.
Good luck on the job search!!
Congratulations on 7 months!
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Welcome! Glad you are here!!!
Welcome, Candace! Keep coming back, this is a great place with a great fellowship of others in recovery!!
Just received this and shared with my kids. These are hard times for all of us, especially young families. Maybe you want to share this. Looking at this time as an opportunity and creating memories…with the read.
A conversation between a child and their Grandad in 2095…
Child - How old are you Grandad?
Grandad - I’m 81 Kid.
Child - So does that mean you were alive during the Coronavirus?
Grandad - Yes kid I was. (about 6 yrs old)
Child - Wow. That must have been horrible Grandad. We were learning about that at school this week.
They told us about how all the schools had closed. And mam’s and dads couldn’t go to work so didn’t have as much money to do nice things. They said that you weren’t allowed to go and visit your friends and family and couldn’t go out anywhere. They told us that the shops ran out of lots of things so you didn’t have much bread, and flour, and toilet roll ‘child giggles’. They said that summer holidays were cancelled. And they told us about all those thousands of people that got very sick and who died. They explained about the HSE and how hard all the doctors and nurses and all HSE workers worked, and that lots of them died too.
That must have been so horrible Grandad.
Grandad - Well kid, that is all correct. And I know that because I read about it when I was older. But to tell you the truth I remember it differently…
I remember playing in the garden for hours with mam and dad and having picnics outside and lots of bbqs. I remember making things with my Dad and baking with my Mam. I remember making dens with my little brother and teaching him how to do hand stands and back flips. I remember having quality time with my family. I remember mam’s favourite words becoming ‘Hey, I’ve got an idea…’ Rather than ‘Maybe later or tomorrow I’m a bit busy’. I remember making our own bread and pastry. I remember having film night 3 or 4 times a week instead of just one.
It was a horrible time for lots of people you are right. But I remember it differently.
Remember how our children will remember these times. Be in control of the memories they are creating right now, so that through all the awful headlines and emotional stories for so many that they will come to read in future years, they can remember the happy times.
Stay home and stay safe!
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,I am enjoying being at home with my three children,we’re learning more about each other and ourselves.
Day 14 for me, would of been day 70 tomorrow but I chose to pick up 15 days ago…I am grateful I started sobriety when I did in February…i practice sobriety everyday…and tomorrow is day 15 … . .tired this evening so early to bed …hugs and virtually holding all of TS hands in a circle saying the Serenity Prayer 
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@trying_hard thank you @Dolse71 I hope one day meeting you. Thank you and let’s start the run again 
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Closing out day 23; today is the first day I thought about drinking, (not wanting to have a drink) just thinking through the what would happen: the initial enjoyment and relaxation, then the urge to keep going which I wouldn’t resist because I’d already be under the influence, the inevitable drinking to excess followed by feeling guilty and frustrated with myself the next day as well as being hungover. The likelyhood then would be me drinking again the next night because I felt awful and repeating the cycle over and over.
I have tried to avoid thinking about drinking, fearing I would give in as I have done so many times and undo all the progress I have made. That didn’t happen and instead I could just let the thoughts happen and observe it without getting involved in it. Looking at it from an outside perspective it is easy to see how unhealthy and detrimental this was; but having lived through it countless times, I also know how hard it is to see a way out when you’re in the middle of it and that brief relief from having a drink is all you can hold on to.
I always used to chastise myself for not being able to ‘just stop’, but looking back on it now I realise how strong a hold it can have over you and how difficult it can be to start to make the right choices and how much more difficult it is to stick with them.
Sorry for the long post, it’s very unlike me! I guess I’m just starting to realise that myself and everyone else here is working really hard and making it through a really difficult process. I’m proud of the progress I’ve made and seeing other people here achieving their goals is incredibly encouraging.
Keep it up everyone; I will if you will 
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@anon60334405
Sounds tough to stay sober with ur stepdad. I often get grumpy with my kids too, or just use technological babysitter. All parents do, try not to give urself too much of a hard time.
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Nice sunny day today, so will get the kids out for a bit today. Also need to cut my son’s hair, which will be torture for both of us.
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One month clean 
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Thank you, I’m certainly trying. I was going through a really nice pink cloud, and lately it just seems I’m always kind of negative. I have a few good days where I’m happy. But idk hard to explain
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Day 18 check in! 
@RX24 I went through the same thing. I felt like I was recovering from brain trauma like a stroke. Luckily the brain and body heal themselves over time!! Daniel Amen has some good books or ted talks about healing the brain. The fastest way is to eat healthy, exercise, and stay sober.
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Day 1.2nd check in going to bed sober 
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Good night!
Checking in on my 30th day sober from the grog. 
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Congratulations!
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Day 526. Been feeling sick today (seems like just a bad cold, like a flu with no fever, but I’m playing it safe anyways). I’m really bothered by people who don’t smoke in the appropriate places and make me feel even more sick. They’re lucky I don’t have breathing difficulties due to say, asthma, or, I don’t know, COVID-19 or something. 
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