Sorry about what happened to your wife, everything happens for a reason. Just pray for strength and sobriety. 
Blessings and sobriety my friend.
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This one next to my bed
This one i got this week from one of the peopz helping out. 2bad videoās dont fly here, i had an hilarious one where she suddenly started pissing like a boy couse of the male dog she walks with of those people take her out. I lmao when i say her immitating and lifting 1 leg at exactly the same tree where Floki just dus his business
Today i managed to just eat again a few spoons more @GVLNative also so step by step, i will get there.
Gonna need your support though couse the difficult part starts at home, still in pain and recovering.
I keep u posted and hope 2 post a fresh nala soon for you Lisa
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Day 293. Trying my best to not be beyond annoyed, but things just keeps ticking at me. Iām very much of the āif it needs done, do itā mindset, however, when things need done (taking out trash/recycling, doing dishes, cleaning in general) itās me doing it 99% of the time while my s/o sits in her office playing video/computer games all day/night. Currently playing a game of "just how full can the trash can getā¦or like on Friday, our trash day, if youāve been home all day, bring the empty trash can up to the house instead of letting it sit at the road all day for me when I get home.
Sorry, Iām just beyond frustrated, and getting snapped at this morning because she woke up late, didnāt prep a lunch, and I didnāt know where her keys were just set me off.
Have a strong day!
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Thank you ā¦ and a very Happy New Year to you @Dolse71 
Stay strong Paul. Youāve got a good momentum goingā¦ So sorry about your wifeās situation. That sucks, especially as you both worked together 
Donāt stop fighting. Jumping off the sober wagon wonāt help anything. Fight any and all temptations. Please. 
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Day 166. Still here.
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I can relate sometimes I feel like Iām the only one that does anything around here. 
hope it gets better for you!
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I call her my Mrs but sheās not my wife, weāve been together 20 years but sheās not sure yet
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Attended my first online NA meeting today 
Pretty neat actually. Got to share. Felt a sense of relief by actually sharing using my voice. I feel good! Today has been a good day so farā¦ have just been cleaning, went to that meeting and then I will smudge (pray) later. Doing my best to stay recovery focused. Will be getting $$ on wed so I need to make a plan for what I need to do to stay clean
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That stuff would grind on me too, man. Same mindset here. Exact same stuff, and it was the same for me. I was doing 95% of the caretaking of the dogs, and Iād say 80-90% of daily house stuff. These numbers are just arbitrary but you know what I mean.
Sheād be home all day too and yet Iām the only one using the little free time I had during the day to take care of chores or animals, not watching tv. She tries her best but it seemed like it just wouldnāt cross her mind. Just how her brain works different from mine, and thats fine. Free moment? You can bet Iām cleaning, cooking, taking the dogs out, whatever. That way at night I can chill, knowing everything is squared away.
On days where I was feeling ok, I just dealt with itā¦but on days where I was already annoyed, anxious, or feeling underappreciated - you could bet it would be eating at me. I would never go further than a bit of grumbling under my breath in private, though.
All that to say: In retrospect, poor communication on my part if you ask me, and those resentments do build over time. I could have diffused my own frustration with a discussion.
Nothing will change and your frustrations will continue unless you say something, even though it is a hard subject to broach without coming off as a nag (at least thats how I felt). Have you tried talking to your s/o about it?
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Itās come up a few times before, and things change for a whileā¦and slowly itās right back to where it started.
Iām sure Iāll just suck it up and handle whatever needs done, because I canāt stand knowing the trash is overflowing and the recycling is about to tumble over the brimā¦
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Checking in on day one
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You could make up a chart for chores each day, lolš
That or sticky notes! Jkā¦
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Canāt rush these things!
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marriage is so final, next comes slippers and an early night really does mean an early night
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She just wants to fit in with the boys @050Nl. Iām loving the pics as usual. Sheās so beautiful.
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Gorgeous pics Beth! Glad youāre feeling better.
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More power to ya on 50K runs!!!
My body was not built for running.
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