That is fantastic Mel!! Nothing like having a happy healthy nest to feather!
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Big hugs to you 
as you approach an emotional time for you. The first anniversary is the hardest in my experience. We have our Independence Day holiday this weekend and I will not be drinking. Funny how close the holidays are to each other. Stay strong lady. 
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Thank you 
it will actually be 6 years since she passed. Wow, doesnāt seem that long ago. I think I had delayed grief with her; the first year. Right after she passed, I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant. Turns out I was during the time I was home caring for her while she was dying & I didnāt know (wasnāt drinking then as she hated alcohol and I wanted to be present & clear headed caring for her). Then dad relapsed bad after her death, and my energy was focused on trying to help him vs. grieving. I miscarried at about 10 weeks. Then pregnant again soon after, and the first anniversary of her death, I was dealing with a super colicky newborn, essentially by myself. So I feel like that first year or two, I kept pushing down my grief. Oh myā¦ Howās that for over sharing 
sorry about that. Kinda rambled on. As sad as the anniversary of both my parents passings are, I have so many good memories of them and carry them in my heart. And I know their blood runs through my little guyās heart too Iāll still be sad this anniversary. But Iām making a promise to her and myself not to drink over it
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I had a doctorās visit today; blood pressure is still high. She asked how home life was and I said just me and my cat, lol. I didnāt say how much my son stresses me but I think thatās part or most of it.
I wasnāt too far from him so I texted and called to see if we could meet up and maybe do grocery shopping. No response. I finally just now texted and asked why is he ignoring me. He says heās not, he slept late.
I go from saying f%$# it I canāt worry and stress about this everyday to praying to everyone up there to help.
No urge to drink though; itāll be 30 days in a few hours.
I couldnāt do it without you guys, hugs to everyone whoās helped me.
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Check in! After the night I had woke up early to lift weights then went on a 4 mile hike run. Meditated twice already about to go for my 3rd one in a few minutes. Plan on doing Step work later today! Life is just awesome!
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Thatās the best thing you can do. Sorry I was off on the time frame. Sounds like you really had a rough go there for a while! No worries here about how much you shared. I think knowing the history of our sober buddies helps everyone in the long run. Iāll still be sending you some positive thoughts and vibes.
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First off Yay on 30 days lady!! Youāve worked hard for that!
Secondā¦ Youāre not doing yourself any favors not being honest with your doctor. High blood pressure is nothing to mess around with. My sister had a stroke at 47 because of high blood pressure and stress. Donāt mess around. Get on some meds if you need to. Thereās no shame in it. Iāve been on them for 19 years because I got high blood pressure with my first pregnancy and it never normalized. Please take care of yourself.
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She asked me to monitor it for the next few weeks and Iāll see her then with results of it. I bought a monitor for home, lol. I agree with you, I guess Iām always a little shocked when itās high because I donāt āfeelā it.
Thanks Cristel, love you.
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No worries about being off on the time frame. Not sure Iāve mentioned when she passed on here. My dad passed before Christmas and Iāve likely mentioned that a few times in passing so that might have been what you were thinking about. I appreciate your kind words & thoughts, and your friendship very much Thanks for being you! 
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Day 14. Still cruising along nicely. Iām enjoying keeping myself busy. My coping skills are definitely getting a workout. Times are groovy now but Iām glad Iāll have this community when the bad times come.
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Awesome blossom, Donna!!! So happy for you. Congrats!
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Thank you!
285 Days. Started DUI class today on zoom. They have 1 instructor and 2 others to watch everyone. The camera needs to be on at all times and you have to ask to use the restroom using the chat feature. If they catch you using your phone or sleeping, youāre immediately thrown out and have to see the judge.
I got pulled out for an evaluation. They wanted me to do further treatment. I flipped out. Iāve been to detox, IOP and AA and sober over 9 months. What more do they need? They finally agreed that as long as they get a note from the IOP center tomorrow, theyāll restore my license. Of course, I couldnāt get anyone due to covid and had to leave messages. I also have to attend AA meetings for the next 4 months which is no problem since I go anyway.
They emailed the AA contract at 4pm telling me to sign and return before 9am class tomorrow. The ink runs out on my printer. Go to the store to get more and they forget to put it in my bag but I donāt notice till I get home. Rush back before they close and finally get it. All this with no license, praying I donāt get pulled over. Ending another hectic day sober.
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Day 604. Apart from the Zoom meeting today, Iāve been struggling with my emotions. And physically Iām just tired and feeling shaky and canāt focus and just want to lay down and do nothing. Probably doesnāt help that my eating has been way off schedule today. Sigh. Better day tomorrow?
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Girlā¦ Iām so impressed you ended the day sober. Youāre a Rockstar today!! Well done.
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Maybe listen to your body and just lay down and do nothing? Sometimes itās OK to just be. Get some good sleep and start fresh tomorrow.
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Butā¦
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But you donāt have to do them all at one or all in one day. 
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Same here @Girlinterrupted. We may have made the abuse worse through our behaviour, but did you force him to yell at you, did you force him to hit you(if he did, I donāt really know your story)? No you didnāt, therefore I argue that it is not your fault
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