Better day tomorrow. Hope you get some good rest 
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Thatās a 180 degree turn from a couple days ago.
Iām happy for you, you deserve happiness 
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Hi Beth 
I think your last sentence is really telling. Sometimes we need to trust peopleās opinions that are closest to us. Itās hard because we think we know better (and sometimes we do) and I know there is so much more to why you would need to bail on your life to make it workā¦ But thatās such a big sacrifice. Time apart might be best, like 6 months or a year and just see how you still feel once the fog has lifted. Thatās how things unfolded for me when I was in an abusive relationship. Once we were forced apart, I realized how toxic the relationship was. It was like I finally saw things clearly and it wasnāt a great realization, but I was very happy to be freed from it.
I know youāve had such a tough 2019/2020, I hope things start mellowing out for you soon.
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- Coffee and since I wasnāt fired yesterday itās back to work. Going there with quite a bit less anxiety today. And my weekend to come after. Have a good one all. Sober and clean. Love from dripping Amsterdam.
@Girlinterrupted Alarmbells ringing when people sat stuff like that Beth. Donāt believe your own hype. Hugs.
@anon79808082 Please take care of yourself friend. High BP can be really bad. Be safe and as healthy as you can be.
@Ifs Your day is over now right. Thereās a new one on the horizon. Rest. Compartmentalise. Take a step back. Itās never all or nothing.
@Lisa07 Happy for you got it all done. Hope theyāll be satisfied now. Take care.
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Day 9 is awesome beautiful Natalie. And happy birthday to your son 
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Good morning everyone 
checking in early before work on day 25 
. I feel like I have my inner balance back. Iām learning so much about my feelings again in this experiment. It helps me a lot to get through the day and to sit back and relax sometimes when I actually get angry or sad. I wish you an awesome Wednesday. Today it will be hot here 
It just feels so good to be on track again
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Day 9. The last week and a bit have been great. But I have to go to an after-work function now and I can feel the cravings of alcohol creeping up on me. I want to get through this night alcohol free to prove to myself that I can do it. Any words of wisdom or advice that may help me would be greatly appreciated.
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Congratulations Donna on your 30 days of sobriety my friend. Thank you for going to the doctor and taking care of yourself. HBP is a silent killer, nothing to mess around with. Medication time.
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Can i ask a quick questionā¦ Whatās a seltzer? 
Hello Brook 
When I was experiencing a craving or possibly having fear of missing out/fear of missing out on a āgoodā time, I would re establish what would happen if I took that first drink. Iām sure youāve heard of playing the tape to the end. To put it in to practice, every time you have any thought of drinking, try to stop yourself mid thought and replace it with a realistic thought about how the night will actually end if you decide to drink.
Eventually, it will become second nature, but for right now you need to actively be aware of the direction your thoughts are going, and take them on another route (path of sobriety).
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I can relate. 
Blessings and sobriety!
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Seek out the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous for the future. It will help teach you tools to get through a situation like this.
For now though bring a hammer with you to your after work function and every time you think about picking up a drink, hit your thumb really hard with it and it should take your mind off of the drink pretty damn quick.
Seriously, when you think about picking up that drink, remember reading this post and it might help you get through the evening alcohol-free. Good luck my friend, let us know how it went and donāt forget the hammerā¦
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Checking in 365 days alcohol-FREE today!!
I actually canāt believe Iām here. When I decided I was going to stop drinking a year ago, I never thought Iād actually make it a whole year! Yet here I am! What Iāve learnt along the way is that sober life really does equal my best life! Itās amazing actually, that I have found courage and confidence within, that I never knew I had. I have found an inner strength that propels me forward with so much more clarity now than Iāve ever had before. I am SO proud of myself for choosing this sober life. For honouring myself with this love and self-respect. I want to thank ALL of you here, on this forum for helping me make it this far. Without this forum Iām not sure if I would have. A special thanks to @Yoda-Stevie and @SassyRocks for their wisdom thatās helped see me through some of those more challenging moments. There are so many others too Iād like to give a shout too, you know who you are (I hope!) otherwise this post is going to become another epically long one. I am so thankful to you all. I am thankful to God for loving me. I am thankful for my friends and family who care for and love me. Hereās to another day sober 
sober life = our best life, for sure! 
Say no to the drink that matters, the first drink! Take it one day at a time. Donāt believe the fantasy of drinking, for you know the reality! Play the tape ALL the way through. Seek support. Know youāre worthy. You CAN do this!
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Huge congrats
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Day 175. Took the day off work to get some stuff done around the house.
Drinking some coffee while wrighting this post.
My gf and I bought some wine as a birthday gift for her grandfather. Now those bottles occupy a space on our kitchen tableā¦
this is the first time we have alcohol in the house.
I can deal with it but still. Their kind of in my face.
Have good sober day!
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@emc2018 Big props to you! Thatās an amazing achievement.
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Urgh, called in at my local shop (it is the nearest one that sells booze, fyi) and was buying wash powder, snacks, etc, and was given a money off coupon. The cashier said āAnd these coupons you can use for drinks alsoā. Soā¦ I guess (cos I donāt remember) he has served me alcohol in the past and was oh so helpfully telling me I can get it cheaper next time. Well, hopefully there wonāt be a next time, and it will be used for things that donāt ruin my life.
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Congratulations on your 1 year sober!
Thatās awesome! One day at a time!
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We are all proud of you @emc2018 congratulations on one year of recovery and sobriety. When you said that āsober life really does equal my best life.ā That was spot-on. Continue to stay focused and determined in your sobriety and building upon that foundation. Proud of you my friend.
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Just got home from work, thank God I can actually hold a job down today. I have to thank God for so much, I have to thank him for still being alive today. Like many of you that can relate, I could of died so many times but Iām still breathing. I have so much to be grateful for, so much to keep pushing forward for. This little community we have here is so important to me itās really awesome how much love understanding and support is here.
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