Checking in Daily to Maintain Focus #14

… that’s right Paul, keep doing what you’re doing. The meetings are really helping. Proud of you my brother :heart:

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Day 203! Today was pretty good! I saw my only other friend who’s in recovery, which was nice. I actually found out she’s relapsed several times over the past 6 months since I last saw her, and it kinda made me realize how far I’ve come now hitting 200

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You’re trying to get better. You’re trying James. It’s a big mountain to climb. And nobody knows what’s next. Keep going friend. One day at a time. Have a good rest.

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However it might feel right now, just because today was a bad day it doesn’t mean every day will be. It’s ok to have bad days. I hope you don’t have too many bad days in a row cos that suuucks. But there will be good days too.

If you’re feeling tired, sleep. If you’re not tired it seems to me you have two choices. 1. Make a start on one of the things you haven’t done. Even if you just do five minutes, it’s five minutes more than nothing. 2. Don’t. Not ideal, but the world won’t end. Tomorrow is a new day :pray::sparkling_heart:

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Morning Everybody.

Bit bewildered to wake up to the mask thread this morning. Didn’t realise it was such a big debate, my bad! Was just posting something I saw on Instagram

I’ve got atopic Ezcema around my mouth and on my hands from wearing gloves and masks for an 8 hour shift

Anyway moving on, have a good day everybody :grinning:

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We can do this Paul, blessings and sobriety!
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Lisa it sounds fustrating and I can relate I’m about to go to court for an old dui from 5 years ago and I’m just waiting to see how much it’s going to cost and everything else that’s going to happen. It’s fustrating and things aren’t going so great in other areas of my life too. I’m seeing feeling experiencing life the way it is without alcohol and drugs and it’s a lot at times but we can get through this. Just stay strong and cry when you need to. I’m a 41 yr old man and everything i feel now, I find myself crying more then one might think. Keep taking care of yourself dear.

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With everything you just said let’s me know that I’m not alone and your not either.

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@ifs Hugs, that sounds distressing. I am sure u have people to talk to about this, but how about prioritizing stuff? Like u have to put frozen groceries away, but non-perishables can just stay out, it doesn’t really matter. Which emails are the most important? Things like that. I’m rooting for u!

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Happy weekend, I hope you’ll get a good one with everything you need to recharge your batteries.

The flowers are amazing, and I guess summer in our parts of the world are at peak right now. Even if you guys might be a little before Sweden. :blush:

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Congratulations on 30 days :confetti_ball:

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Checking in on day 26. Not such a great day. But every day sober is a day won :sunglasses:

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You’re trying and you aren’t giving up, that’s huge in itself. Not all days are a breeze and somedays you just don’t manage to do anything. That’s okey, it happens for everyone sometimes you just need a day or a few days of nothing, and sometimes you can’t help but being distracted but it’s still okey. No one no matter what they are doing in life, or where they are in life is at a 100% and completely perfect every day. We are all humans, and no one can do more than keep trying and doing or best. And that’s more than enough, even if that sometimes means that we’re being stuck in bed with no power to do anything.
No one knows what’s next, not even the ones who’s trying to predict the future (Belive me, I’ve got a few tricks for that) and it’s can be both a blessing to not know, and a relief. But as long as you got the tools to handle it within reach you’ll be alright, it might be hard. But you are awesome, and you can do it.

Just don’t stop trying. We’re all here for you :hibiscus:

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Do you create all the gifs and stuff you share? Seen your videos they are great!

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Of course ou can cry. You shouldn’t push away or hide feelings, you should let them flow freely, because otherwise you will become a ticking time bomb

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40 days you guys! I didn’t though I was getting past 30 I’m actually really amazed.

Got the court papers from my ex rape case yesterday (sorry for the possible trigger once again) my husband handed them to his boss, but I’m keeping a copy. It’s public documents so I’m not doing anything illegal,and I got them from the victim so it shouldn’t be a problem at any side.

Anyway it seemed like he got a mild sentence in the first court, only a light fine. He didn’t want to plaid guilty so he appealed to the court of appeals thinking that he could get a non guilty case. But the court of appeals had a different view and actually raised his sentence, raised the fines a lot, added community service and they also stated that he have to pay damages to the victim. Seems like he still don’t think he’s guilty so he will appeal to the highest court, hopefully they have an even better view at it and will put him in jail like he deserves.

There’s also a heck of a lot of other things I didn’t know, he have another ex girlfriend, well I knew about her but I didn’t know they have a kid who’s like 5 years old. And that ex have tried to charge him for domestic abuse and rape. Also he refuses to admit that he is the father to that child. I’ve been talking to the ex yesterday and he haven’t even met that kid,and it’s still a court issue.

A really sad story, and I feel terrible sorry everyone involved, but for my this is a goldmine when it comes to my sons custody or anything else having to do with it.
But at the same time I’m feeling guilty that I jad anything to do with him in the first place, and I’m feeling really bad for the young victim, if it wasn’t because of me being together with this guy, they’ve would have never met, since she’s my daughters friend. I also feeling bad for my son, he does see my husband as his Pa we’ve been married since he was a baby. But I know he loves his biological father too (parents are always parents) and I’m still making excuses to why he doesn’t call, or comes to visit. When he in reality honestly doesn’t care other than the times he can score points with a new chick showing how good of a father he actually is.
I would never talk bad about him in front of my child, and I would never stop him from seeing his kid under surveillance. But it breaks my heart that he’s such a jerk, especially towards all his kids. And that it’s getting more and more clear that he never can be trusted with those kids.

Besides that a good day. The sun is back but it’s a really cold wind. The weekend is coming up, and tomorrow I’m going by train with the 10 y/o to the Swedish Westcoast for my cousins first communion on Friday. So today will be a day for packing and preparing.

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It’s 40 days and time for a happy dance :tada::fireworks::sparkler::heart::pray:

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Thank you, how did you know that my dancing style looks like this? :joy:

And how are you today?

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you just look the type :rofl::rofl:. Today I’m grateful to be sober. it’s early and no doubt life will throw some shit my way but right now I’m good and right now is all that matters.
Well done, I didn’t actually say well done just did a silly dance. Be proud of yourself today.

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Thank you @CaptAZ :pray::+1::kissing_heart:

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