Thank you, and I agree:) It is comforting to see my dad in my dreams and to have that sense of support from him. Thanks again and have a wonderful evening:heart:
Would of crumbled without my recovery tools.
Thank you for the positive vibes 
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352 Days. I’m at the pool with my daughter and hubby calls to say he finally went to the doctor and was honest about how much he’s been drinking lately. He’s been in tremendous pain and I’ve told him over and over alcohol is making it worse. The doctor sends him home with steroids and a medical marijuana card. Wtf!? I wanna strangle his doctor who knows he’s an alcoholic (dr is alcoholic too). Dr thinks this will help the pain. I feel it’s trading one for the other. I went to my lovely AA meeting figuring I’d share it there. I get there and got stung in the face by a wasp. I was in pain, my face swelled up and I never ended up sharing. Then I stop to get dinner on the way home and half the order was missing. Didn’t know until I got home. I was so fucking frustrated by this point and wasn’t hungry anyway. Hoping tomorrow is a better day.
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I helped a drunk girl tonight. My boyfriend, our friends, my mom and I were all leaving dinner. There was a girl sitting at the top of a staircase, my boyfriend thought she fell. He asked if she was OK. She started bawling, saying no. She didn’t fall but apparently her boyfriend and her got into a fight and he left her. She was alone. She knew no one. She was drunk off her ass. She was hyperventilating. Mind you, we live in a resort town. She wasn’t a local and had no idea where she was… but she did remember the name of her hotel. I told her to look at me and breathe with me, in and out. I got her breathing under control and long story short got her an Uber. She tried to pay me and started taking hundreds of dollars out of her wallet. My friend and I told her there was no need, that it was OK. She was crying and said, I am so sorry, I am so stupid. I looked at her said “girl, if i had a dollar for every time I was drunk, crying, in a fight with my SO, in the middle of the city, I would be rich” she laughed and said thank you. I waited until I saw her Uber pull up. It was 7pm, pretty early and I hoped she would go back to her hotel. My mom blew up at me because I didn’t have my mask on when I was talking with her (we were almost at my car so I had taken it off). We got into a horrible fight over it. Like yes, i know and I’m sorry I was being stupid and wasn’t thinking about my fucking mask but this girl was hysterical and alone and wasted. I was focused on making sure she was ok. Am I completely wrong? My mom gave me the freaking silent treatment and wore her mask in the car the whole ride home. And sprayed the shit out of everything with spray hand sanitizer and yelled at me in front of my boyfriend. So, idk how to feel about that. I was really irritated and felt like she completely overreacted. We had just come out of an indoor restaurant with a 100 people (I should note im exaggerating) not wearing maks because they were at a table eating. We spent 2 hours in an enclosed space eating dinner with no maks along with a 100 other people (again exaggerating) WITH NO MASKS, yet she yelled at me because I was helping this girl for 15 minutes with no masks. Walking to a table with a mask and then taking it off when you sit down literally makes no sense to me. Whatever. Im getting off topic. The point is I helped this girl in need and I hope she was ok for the rest of the night. It made me even more grateful for my sobriety. Stay strong everyone.
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@Lisa07 A hell of a day! My sympathies.
@anon28001181 While the situation u r in is shitty, it is good u r recognising ur part.
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Well said! So glad you had happy tears day. And, I dunno, but maybe even better than not having cravings at all? Is to have 'em now and again, and know that they’ll never win 
(I can picture the craving running back into the forest with its tail between its legs, seeking shelter!)
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I just loved Melbourn! The architecture was amazing. I’ve never seen such keen buildings in my whole life. We did Melbourne for the Aussie Open Tennis in think 2012ish?? Then up to Hamilton island. Then finished up in Sidney. It was a fantastic trip. Don’t know if you like tennis but we were big Rafael Nadal fans.
What a great and positive message to read at 630am back here in 
!
Thanks for sharing and continue to enjoy sobriety and all the mental and physical benefits each day it may bring.
(Your photos have been fab too )
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The beginning of Day 7 for me.
Up early and about to head out for an hour’s trail run in the early misty, sunshine before heading back and walking the dog at a more leisurely pace 
Have a great morning/afternoon/evening guys and girls wherever you are, keep the energy and positive vibrations up 
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Well that was a shit day I must say. What a drag. Things must be better tomorrow and the rest of the week. I cannot believe you even got stung in the face by a bee. Thank God your sober! Right? It’s the little things.
you have a much better week starting tomorrow.
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That was a beautiful thing you did. Humanity at its best. @Brookiemonster618 be proud my friend.
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Just checking in 1 m 11 d
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I think sometimes we do things in our lives, things we are not proud of, that make it impossible for us to ever judge anyone else. And just maybe that is how to take all those wasted days of being wasted, and do something with them now that we are sober. When I see drunk people now - which is rare - but spilling out of a bar or restaurant, say, I don’t feel better than them. I cringe. It’s still early days for me, maybe this will change, but honestly, I want to keep in my head that I’m only one drink away from being that girl on the stairs. Somehow, I suffered no lasting harm (other than to my mind and body and spirit!) from my wasted days, but that doesn’t mean I can sit in any judgment of anyone else…
Mask or no mask (and your points about the restaurant are well taken!) I think you did the right thing. Hugs to you (with masks on! 
)
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What an awesome act of kindness @Brookiemonster618. If you weren’t there, who knows what could have happened to her.
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1 month, 26 days!
Last night was my first night out (an early one, dinner and drinks in a local place). Stuck to NA drinks while my friend had alcohol, at no point did I even remotely feel like I wanted alcohol, I had fun, lots of chatter and laughter and didnt need anything to help me along the way. Was home by 10, and woke up this morning grateful to be hangover free, with no guilt and worries. Today I have some more plans with friends, which I will be able to fully enjoy.
Feliz domingo!
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Wow, that girl will be thanking God for you. One small act of kindness can change somebody’s life more than you can ever imagine.
Your Mums mask reaction seems a little out there, but then I guess you never know what else is in somebody’s mind to spur on their reactions and behaviour. Sometimes people can flip out over something tiny and its not even about the subject.
Focus on your good deed 
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Day 68.
Such a good day. A friend from my hometown, some 9hrs drive away, came to visit for the long weekend. He is actually a friend of my Dad (who has passed away), but we always got along so well - if I could pick my extended family, he’d be an uncle.
I cooked all afternoon and he arrived around dinner. I bought wine to serve him some, deciding that this is how I want to live “around” alcohol. He agreed to a glass if I was having some too, and all I said was “none for me, but really I’m fine if you’d like some”. He then says “what I would love is a mug of hot water”, and when I offered lemon, and he replies “well, if you’re going to crack open a lemon, I’m not turning that down!”
We had a lovely time, I took him to his hotel tonight, came back and had my seltzer. I will offer him wine tomorrow night after our day together, he’ll likely decline, and I’ll either send the bottle back with him in a care package or give it to a neighbour as soon as he leaves. I like that I was able to do this tonight, that I have no cravings now, but I’m not ready to keep it lying around just yet… it’s still early days and I’m going to choose my battles wisely!
G’night all – keep showing up and sharing. 
@Girlinterrupted - your place looks like a beautiful fusion of comfy zen! What a great spot for new beginnings, and a beautiful sober life to bloom 
@Jdiaz garden sounds amazing! (hint: pics please )
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Thanks, I’ll tell you what, you’ve beaten me to it. I haven’t been to the Whitsunday Islands yet lol.