Day 8 sober. I spoke with a priest and motivated me a lot. I am so glad to discover I am not alone with this
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Day 144 clean and sober today. I am so amazed by the power of communication, it is so important to be honest and straightforward with what you need to say. I’ve found so far that the scenarios in my head are way worse than what the situation really is wow I’m so grateful! I hope everyone has a blessed day today, love you guys!!! 
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This is great advice!
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Dude I am so sorry you’re going through this and I’m so proud of you for staying sober!!! I can imagine the pain you feel and I’m really glad that you are able to share what you’re going through here with us so that we can give you some support!!! I don’t have any advice to give, I just wanted to let you know I’m proud of you and you’re not alone my friend. Keep up the good work!!!
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@Tomek…I second what @Rockstar24777 said! I’m getting caught up on posts and just saw yours.
It is horrible she would say something like that to you, it really makes me angry and I wish you didn’t have such negativity to deal with in your life. We all support you. It is a shame that she cannot understand what you’re going through but your TS family is here for you! Stay strong.
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Months!!
Well done, Powerful Mike Lamica. 
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Dayyyuuummm CONGRATULATIONS MIKE!!!
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This is sad.
You are correct in saying it’s on her but it still doesn’t stop the pain.
I would say she still loves you as the person she carried, but is finding it hard to understand.
Maybe one day, when she sees how happy you are things will be different. Don’t forget she will always be the person who brought you into this world, and believe me, it’s hurts when they aren’t there anymore.
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That made me sad reading that, you’re doing great and it’s her loss, really. You’re a good person, I can see from here.
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I struggled for years trying to quit drinking. I cant believe ive been sober for 439 days today, I’ve learned so much about my sickness and also myself these last 439 days. This app has helped me keep my course, along with many other things. So id like to thank you all for my sobriety!
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Checking in on day 10. Feeling good about double digits again. Been fighting cravings like a champ 
. It gets easier everytime I get through it, someone mentioned that in an earlier post, and it is so true. @Lisa07 hope your husband feels better soon. 
. Have a great Tuesday everyone!!!
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It saddens me that the people who are supposed to love without fail can fail their children so utterly, heartlessly, and selfishly. You might have written about this before and I missed it, but if you do not yet have support (whether in person or online, over the phone, etc) through your transition, I highly recommend it. Just like with sobriety, being in a community with people who “know” is so liberating and really the place to get the support specific to what you’re going through. I am glad you’re here and that you seem to be only getting support here.
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Here’s an article describing the breathwork modality my practitioner uses. It can be intense. I’ve done it enough with guidance that I can do it solo, and I wouldn’t recommend for newbies, but for people with experience doing breathwork this took things to another level for me. It’s typically a 30-60 min session to get the full benefit. “…a simple, two-part, open-mouthed pranayama technique, which involved taking a forceful breath down to my diaphragm, then a shallower, yet equally sharp, breath into my chest, followed by a long exhale.”
https://www.wellandgood.com/does-breathwork-healing-work/
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I definitely do feel a little better. Thank you very much. Thank you @anon28001181, @Rockstar24777, @Conor689908, @Dolse71, @Jennajen. And literally everyone on here. You all keep me pushing on the bad days. Much love
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Thank you for this. This really hit me well, and helps me understand. You’re Killin it
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Congrats man on 3 years of sobriety, you’re just rocking this recovery journey. Thanks for your encouragement and inspiration. Your posts on tough love thread couldn’t be more on point. Keep on doing what you’re doing. Much respect!
Blessings and sobriety!
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My oldest dog was born to a stray under my friends’ porch and might have gone to a shelter, or worse, had I not taken him. We had been to the shelter a few times considering getting a dog, and then this opportunity lined up. It’s a great insight that you described, and that I also get caught up in…this looming “right” thing. Now on to the important bit - did you get a puppy?!? I would love to live vicariously, as I’ve applied that rigid thinking to myself and said I’ll never get another puppy… 
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and support, I’m really-really touched!
@anon27760155 you’re definitely right, I used to act differently than wanted just to fulfill other’s expectations for so long. I cannot waste any other minute on that. Deserving to be myself and taking it granted is kinda new for me. It’s easy to slip back to the good old “I rather escape or disappear, but I won’t risk being denied by showing myself to others” thinking.
@Rockstar24777 thanks, bud, it means a lot really. The support of this community is the only reason I’m sober at the moment.
@anon12657779 thank you for your sympathy! I won’t forget, who is she for me and I will always love her no matter what. I think that’s why it hurts so much.
@anon79808082 thank you for your always kind words!
@RosaCanDo Thank you very much for your advice! I was part of a group on Facebook that was a great help at the beginning, but I have quitted social media I also was part of a group in my city, so I could meet others personally. There is lockdown so they don’t have meetings currently and also I live abroad and don’t speak the language that well to express myself on a level I would like to when it comes to this topic. Besides I’m kinda stucked in transition. I did what I could without meds and I won’t take hormones in the near future either, so at the moment I don’t have any further steps to take. First I think I have to get my shit together, be sober, I’m seeing a therapist (not specialized on this topic unfortunately) and try to get on with my life.
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