I thought I was being clever but you really are keeping your house clean and in order. I’m loving how this one task is an analogy of life and recovery. 
remember though that you have to put the work in bc God is not a shelf stacker. 
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Thanks but it’s fake news. Or truthful hyperbole at least 
I’m catching up after decades of neglect. I quit smoking over five years ago, my place still reeks of stale smoke. I neglected myself and my surroundings. I do like the analogy too. And it does work for real Paul. Being sober is about so much more than being sober.
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Sorry your day started off so stressful with a heated argument. I’m not trying to make fun, but I couldn’t hold back a chuckle at this part…the visual was just too much, it’s like something out of a movie! “You know what…the HELL with your eggs!” 
Glad you were able to talk it out in the end, that’s all that matters! 
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Meth. Didn’t drink.
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I routinely use the serenity prayer in my daily life to ease frustrations in regards to the actions of others. It helps mostly, but one thing I can’t seem to let go of is the relaxed attitude towards covid despite surging numbers. Many people just continuing to do what they want.
We’re on the cusp of a full-on 2nd wave – and yet people are still lax about masks/wearing them improperly, still gathering together in large groups. Schools are still pushing forward with in-person learning. I understand the excitement surrounding the results of the American election, but gathering en masse in the streets was very unwise. People still permitted at sporting events in many states. The Thanksgiving holiday is coming up here in 2 weeks, and I have no doubt that many people will get together as they usually do - the news is already reporting the highest amount of planned travel since the pandemic began.
Another economic shutdown would be devastating, and it seems we’re headed that way.
It’s all just tremendously frustrating - seeing the lack of personal responsibility, the lack of consideration. My default is to tend towards pessimism (that’s well-documented here! ), which I am really trying to work on, but stuff like this makes it so difficult to shift my life perspective. Little faith in humanity as-is, and this just plays into it.
Anyhow, I know the answer is to just do what I can do for myself, and accept that other people will do what they do. However it has proven so difficult to accept, despite being able to acknowledge.
If anyone has suggestions on how I can better try to let this stuff go, I would love to hear it because it’s a constant source of frustration.
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Mate, I hear you on this one.
When I see people wearing facemasks wrong and all the other things that they should be doing, I want to say something to them.
It’s hard but I just remind myself that I can’t control them.
I have to keep reminding myself that I can control them.
Plus I don’t go out much so out of sight out of mind.
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Thanks Geo. The “facemask on, but not over the nose” thing really gets to me. It’s rampant at my AA meeting, to the point where I am probably going to stop going again. It just isn’t safe. People also chatting with masks off, indoors, before the meeting – as if covid waits until the meeting starts, too. People just seem to not THINK.
My physical therapist (who is younger, 25 or 26) regularly tells me about all the stuff he’s doing on the weekend with his friends, parties etc, and it actually makes me not trust him as my healthcare provider. Not just because of what he’s exposing himself and others to, potentially - but because it makes me feel like he’s also a fucking idiot.
sigh
It’s so hard to let it go.
Take care of yourself my friend.
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Takes courage to admit x
Be kind to yourself, don’t beat yourself up. Your here!
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I heard two people talking in the grocery store last week, one masked, one not and the unmasked woman said “well if they believe in this thing they can be the one to wear a mask.” As if Covid is some mythical creature to believe in or not.
It helps me to remember I can’t control others, like you mentioned. It also helps me to remember I can control what I choose to do, like take extra precautions, or start getting my groceries delivered again. It also helps me to acknowledge that some people, particularly gas station or restaurant employees who come in contact with travelers who may or may not be masked properly, or follow social distancing, etc have far less of a choice on how protected they get to feel. There’s so many people stuck working jobs where they don’t feel safe at all right now and I feel for them.
I don’t know, I’m hoping a change in leadership that actually takes this seriously will help people come together and make better choices.
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Definitely mate. That’s what I think. Could all come to nothing but I’d hate to think that because I didn’t do something right, that someone dies!
Whatever our personal feelings about it, it’s just common decency!
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I think many people fail to see the long-term, larger picture.
Wearing a mask isn’t about protecting yourself, as much as it is about protecting those around you. If it stopped and ended with risking your own health by not masking up, I’d be fine with it — Darwinism. But, it doesn’t, and as far as I’m concerned you don’t get to choose to risk the health of others.
We also don’t know the long-term effects of infection yet, something I don’t feel is stressed enough in the media. People take it lightly because so many people recover. But the fact of the matter is, there is still organ damage to consider such as lung scarring etc – that doesn’t just go away. Surviving the initial infection doesn’t really mean anything.
This news as of yesterday about a very promising vaccine also has me worried – people will continue to take it less seriously because “we have a vaccine coming soon!”
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Day 350. Nice round number! I haven’t gone this long without a drink since I was a teenager, and I’m almost 50. It’s a big deal!!
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Day 458*
My heart is really heavy this morning. Yesterday was filled with lots of tears. I’m overwhelmed. I’m not sleeping well and yesterday I forgot to eat. For those I haven’t kept in touch with last month I moved out of state, out of my home. I’m back in Massachusetts just in time for winter. I’m living with my partner’s parents. I don’t feel comfortable around them and I’m exhausted from walking on eggshells. I’m feeling increasingly alone and disconnected from my partner.
I’m going to try to just focus on getting my basic needs met today and maybe try to figure out what steps I can start taking to get me out of this mess tomorrow.
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Other people’s parents are difficult to deal with. There is a whole lot of emotional and psychological red tape. Is it temporary?
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- I’m done, c yah all later. Take care
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Checking in - Day 22… 5 miles done before 7am… that neeeeeever would have happen if I was still drinking. It feels good not to be weighed down by that burden today. Here’s to 24 more hours. I hope today treats everyone well 
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Quick check-in, today is Day 308 which makes 44 Weeks sober!
Congrats @Blueroom on Day 350!!!
Congrats @anon27760155 on 100 Days!!!
Congrats @anon28001181 on 90 Days!!!
Congrats @PinkyP on 2 Weeks!!!
Hang in there, @apes2020, we’re glad your still here!!!
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What’s going on? Still locked out? I can’t imagine it’s that difficult to unlock it. I know your frustrated but don’t leave I’m sure it will get worked out sooner than later. 
Lmao it was quite hilarious looking back. I kinda wish I had a video some eggs didn’t even reach the woods… don’t know what I was thinking 
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Wtf Michael? Patience buddy.
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