I know what you mean too, almost 5 months it took me to get back out from my relapse, and before I relapsed I thought I’d never use again. This time I know all we ever have is the day. I also quit drinking this time round as well, I think that has helped tremendously.
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thanks M 
all I could do was laugh! I actually felt a little bad for the eggs after and was annoyed I had to boil some more for breakfast this morning. I kinda made more work for myself… but you know in the end it kinda felt good to get out some of that frustration. 
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Those look yummy Charlie 
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Making these TODAY!! 
Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks!! I’ll give them a whirl sometime soon.
Day 271~ I’m feeling all kinds of ways today. Mostly sad 
I would say. I’m sad about a lot of things but mostly the fact that I keep allowing myself to be hurt by those I care about. I don’t know why I keep doing this. Why? Why do I care so fucking much!?!! I try the boundaries thing and somehow that just doesn’t feel natural or right to me. I try so hard to remind myself I can’t control others, I can’t expect the same back. I just feel so unimportant and like I don’t matter.
I’ve made some major changes over the past 8+ months and it’s almost like no one notices or cares. Validation from others isn’t what I need I know that I’m proud of myself and I see and know the changes I’ve made but once in while it would be nice to hear it from my family and friends and to be recognized. I’m always asking how people are and genuinely caring and I don’t always feel the same love back. It just hurts and frankly sucks. My sisters said to me once years ago you know Courtney your like in your own world and just do whatever it is you want… your always way too nice it’s almost fake. I’ll never forget that and was really offended. I’m not fake I just give a shit about people. My response by the way was sorry there’s already enough assholes out there. I’ll stick to being too nice. Now I’m thinking maybe I am too nice? Who the hell knows. I’m just done with feeling hurt and like I’m the only one who cares. I dunno 
more work to be done on myself thats for sure… One day at a time that’s all I can do. One day hopefully sooner than later something will click.
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I wish I could be more like you and you could be just a little like me, I’m the opposite.
We love and appreciate you so much!
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Goodnight everyone
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Kindred spirits! That, and what we’re going through and the thoughts we are having is nothing new, it’s just our turn, sober twin! Innit to winnit 
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@Mephistopheles Was Ian Astbury there? 
JK.
Glad you’re doing daily meetings and they’re making a difference 
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Aww … jeez… I can totally relate. My older sister is the QUEEN of mean one-liners that I tend to remember for years and years. Must be a sister thing?
Just keep being you, I think you are awesome the way you are… not at all fake!
As for the boundaries…I have no advice there. Ive never been good with boundaries myself so if you figure it out plz let me know.
Hope your day gets better!
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Wow, I think if someone says your niceness is so nice it must be fake, it speaks volumes about how much niceness THEY have. I hear you about giving and giving and not receiving in interpersonal relationships. I also check in on people regularly, especially if I know or suspect they are having a hard time. Yet people often don’t do the same for me. My husband once called my sister-in-law when I was drunk and so she knew I was struggling. But since then, and I am talking about a year ago, not a single message “how are you recently”.
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I think it comes from frustration my friend.
We all keep wanting to helpi you but you don’t seem to want to help yourself.
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Oh your big heart…I feel your pain because I care too much a LOT of the time and I have gotten burned, too, or have felt neglected. Try not to let the negativity dull your shine, because you’re such a shiny lady! I have had to go outside of my comfort zone at times and ask for the validation and recognition from my people, a short but sweet, “hey, I’ve been working my ass off over here and I really need you to see that and show me you value my efforts by doing/saying xyz.” It might not work for the family dynamics you have going on, but sometimes it’s worth a shot just being direct and asking for what you’re wanting in your relationships. Hang in there and soak up some love from TS fam who recognize your hard work and positivity everyday.
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Not a bad day, feels like I am getting some momentum going on some work projects so that is nice. Unfortunately we are starting to lose some people too. I think folks are just getting overloaded and not being taken care of very well by leadership.
Family is doing well, that is always great! Should be closing on the new house in a few weeks, excited but also not looking forward to moving either. Especially around the holidays. Given my specific situation it is a really good step for us though.
I hope everyone has been doing well!
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I’m so glad to see you on 271 bc my memory is terrible and it felt to me like you were in the 60s for ages, when you got to 269 I began to think you were playing a joke and kept posting the same number to see if anyone noticed. That’s how bad my memory is bc I looked at your sober days every day and couldn’t remember what you were on the day before so thank you for putting me out of my misery and congratulations 
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Not sure why you keep tagging me as I have dropped the issue. Clearly you have not. I suggest you figure out a way to do so. I will say that you are not going to change my mind on my perception of what happened.
If you really want to make things right you can get a sponsor, work the steps, stay sober and then if you feel it’s important enough put it on your 8th and 9th step. However, I am probably not the one you would need to make amends to.
went to see them a few years ago and he said thanks for being here it’s wonderful to see you all, so I shouted out I’ve got nothing better to do. Thousands of people didn’t think I was funny, I felt a right cult.
dis you? Lol good shit man. Keep killing it. I’m terrible at singing, everyonce in a while when no one is around I’ll try to sing and I’m like yepppp, nope delete that. Sometimes I can hit a Johny cash sound but nothing special
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