I don’t think u need to be an “asset”, everyone is just being themselves, and share, and by that help each other. I know I enjoy your updates about lifting and ur kids, or whatever. And we all have times we are more or less active. Just be urself, and that is enough.
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You ARE an asset to this forum Mike. In fact everybody who shows up here is. The twelfth month is a hard one I know. Please make sure to keep going ODAAT. As well as showing your face here friend. We need you. Yes we do. As do your girls. As you do need yourself to stay sober. Not saying it’s easy but it’s the only road to progress in life. Have as good a day as you can Mike. Sober and clean.
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Thank you for this post. I really needed to hear that this morning.
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Checking in, day 60. I’m focusing on one day at a time, moving forward, see what time brings. I’m much more conscious about my tools and coping mechanisms, force myself to do things that I know are useful for getting out of this pothole. I’m really grateful to this forum for teaching me so much about sobriety and for keeping me going. Thank you, guys!
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Hi all.
It has been a long time since I have checked in.
I am currently 575 days free from alcohol and 3 days free from cigarettes.
I am using Nicoderm patches and Nicorette gum to help with withdrawal and cravings.
I have been a smoker for 26 years.
I find the mornings and after meals the most difficult but I am determined to succeed.
Sending love and hope to those who need it today. 
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There’s nothing wrong if you don’t have the mood or energy to greet others and give advice. We all have these periods I guess. I also wish I could help others, but I know it’s not the time right now, I have to get my shit together first. It’s the same with kids: it can be frustrating that I cannot give them the attention they may need or cannot overwhelm them with love, but I’m simply unable to do that until my sobriety is so fragile or if I’m in a depressive period. As if I were a black hole: I absorb but don’t emit. It’s not my fault, it is just the way it is. I have to accept it and focus on myself to be able to open up and give later.
Also: if you show up regularly and check in it’s a great way to help: yourself and others. Yourself, because you can be accountable and be part of a great community, and others by being a model, so we see it’s doable and by letting us know you (yes, it’s an asset).
So don’t stop showing up.
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39? So so sorry for your loss dear, it’s so sad that a recognizable and controllable disease can take over ones life so. God help us all.
Blessing and sobriety!
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Yes, so young. Thank you, Joy.
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I don’t like Strava, for competitors it’s too easy to manipulate pace etc, endomondo was much better, imho, and nearly all stats were free. I’m using MapMyRun and somehow I’m getting a lousy pace. I’m not trusting it so far.
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Oh Sophie, I feel for the situation you’re in, it’s hard to give up on a child as hopeless and at the same time have your boys feel safe/comfortable in their own home. Praying for you and tweenie that she gets the help she needs and gets a strong and compassionate role model like you to guide her forward.
Blessings and sobriety!
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Sobriety is thee best, no question about it. Just ODAAT can do wonders.
Blessings and sobriety!
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Day 119: @Tommo I am feeling your pain this morning, that groggy, reluctant dragging my butt out of bed. I slept not a wink and spent a lot of time on here. I really felt like I was going back to work even though it’s just my husband. And he slept like a baby! It’s been a rough morning from there, pup isn’t doing great and had an accident on the bed, so cleaning up after, then it was a struggle to get him to take treats with medicine and I fed him his special soft food by hand. He didn’t eat much. Sorry if TMI. I’m sitting briefly with a cup of tea before I go pick up groceries curbside. Hubby tells me, “I like the pace of things this morning.” Really. I’m happy for you. Haha! But I am glad his first morning back is going smoothly and I can step in and take care of business because I’m sober. @Tomek I appreciate your post just now - I feel similarly. Today it will be another day of applying tools to deal with what comes, whether that is emotions or situations or thoughts. Learning all the way. @anon60334405 for what it’s worth, I appreciate your check ins everyday. There’s a core group of folks I can rely on to see checking in sober and sharing what’s on their mind and you help me to keep myself accountable to do the same. I am looking forward to even more folks hopefully joining us and sticking with it, even on hard days.
Sending love out, fam. 
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Thank you, I think we’ll need all the prayers wr can get. I was the one fighting to get her here in the first place. I should be the one trying to make it work keeping her here too. I just don’t know how yet. But maybe it’ll work with some help.
I hope it will.
I hope everything is good with you and that you’re having a great start of the week 
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Haha already mentioned you but forgot to say happy 60 days!
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Congrats on 336! So close to the one year mark 
Don’t say you’re not an asset, you absolutely are. Even if you’re not giving advice to new people (or anyone), it is a life changing thing for people to come on here and read your story and your posts and know that there are others going through the same thing.
You should never feel bad about just posting what you need to post. This forum is here to help you too, not just for you to help others.
Keep up the hard work man 
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