We aren’t drinking for today. 
. I love this. Thank you. 61 this year for you and 40 for me. We can do this. Sober cheers to us! 
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Thank you I really don’t want to send her away, as you said she needs a place to feel home. But at the same time, keeping her here and not being able to give her the help that ahe needs isn’t fair to anyone.
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It won’t be fair to her either. I’m sure she can get on track with the right kind of help. I don’t believe anyone is hopeless.
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888 days alcohol free. Happy Monday
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Dont mind me but I wanna see if I’m tracking right here, im guessing this is a foster child that you took in? I was just presuming she was a child from a previous marriage,
I understand your frustrations, especially with a child who has been in the care system, it can be a behavior to get what they want, I’m not getting my where I’m at they can send me elsewhere repeat jts almost an institutionalized developed behavior
I do wish you and the hubs all the best
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I am so sorry sweet @RosaCanDo. I know the pain and grief you are feeling. We put down our sweet Sierra when we realized our delay was for us not her. I am sending you the biggest virtual hug I can and know my heart is singing to yours. Proud of you for not turning away from your plan while you are struggling, Chuncho is proud of you. Keep checking in as the team is here for you.
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Checking out as I am freezing and probably crawl into bed. Heating not working. Wtf. No need to call someone. Would take longer than I am still living here for someone to answer and come.
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@gmeeb congrats on 6 months 
@cwak congrats on 50 days
@RosaCanDo Bless your hearts, it’s never easy, I hope that peace will come and that the sadness will be outweighed by fond memories 
@Private50 congrats on 30 days
@Draynewe congrats on 90+ days
@Ninjakitty congrats on 2 years+
@Blake11 congrats on 30 days
@MrsOdh sometimes a secure unit is the only thing that works, atleast you gave her a chance.
@JoMarch congrats on your month
154 days no alcohol.
4 months no cocaine.
Went out for another 15 min walk first thing this morning, it felt really good, though my feet have really hurt since so I didn’t push for a second one.
Realised I’d missed the first few episodes of 2 singing competition programs, so I’ve spent most of the day catching up on those and they fill me with such joy. They are called The Voice, and The Masked Singer, both on ITVhub app. Got another 1.5 episodes left to catch up with before I settle in for the night so I’m off to enjoy those 
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Long story short. It’s my husband child, we’ve been married since she was two. Mother has custody and always had because they’ve never been together. When she was younger her Ma used to drop her off at our place just to pick her up after a few weeks whenever she felt like having a kid again. Fast forward a few years and the Ma forbid and stopped all contact and one day she once again dropped the kid off here. She was about to stay and everything was cleared with starting school and all. The mother realized she’ll loose a lot of government support money if her kid came to stay with us. And never signed the custody papers. Fast forward a few years again an we found out that the kid was in foster care in a family in our neighbor town. Apparently her second foster care family, they started to come for visits and we had regular phone contact with the kid. And one day the foster care family called and told us they’ve dropped her off at the emergency unit at the kids psychiatric hospital. And that they didn’t want to care for her anymore. The psychiatric hospital didn’t want her, either, so they sent her to a youth facility center. The youth facility center couldn’t handle her, so the social service decided to move her to us. Because her mother refused to take her home. Mother still refuses to sign custody papers so she still have custody and we’re waiting for the court to solve that. Meanwhile tweenie creates chaos in all possible ways here and whenever we try to do something she just simply states that we don’t have custody of her so we’ve got no rights to do anything (and legally we don’t) we still reached out to every unit we can and know they’re talking about putting her in a locked youth care facility. In my opinion our place is the home she should go back to when she’s feeling better if she gets there. But her mother who as I said has custody wants her close to her place which is in the other end of the country.
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Wow that’s alot, its really a sad story, bless your souls, the kiddo doesnt know that she has it great where shes at, but also been torn and drug along for so long she provably has no idea what a family looks like
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Total Facts!!!
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We’ve always been here though. But you’re right she probably doesn’t. I don’t like to possible send her away, but I can’t keep her here where she can’t get the help she needs either. Whatever we do it seems unfair.
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I understand damned if you do damned if you dont, I hate being in that situation it seems like you cant win either way
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Exactly, no matter where I turn. It won’t be fair to anyone.
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Day 17!!! Holy crow. I was very eager to get back to work today after my very irritated weekend. So many times I wanted to just give in to the monkey on my shoulder. I have several other issues aside from alcoholism. we all have issues. For me the issues include and not limited to claustrophobia, anxiety, easily overwhelmed, lack of patience (although this has been much better without drinking) insomnia (also better without drinking) and other issues, but these issues got to me a lot this weekend so yeah, I wanted to get the hell outta my house and away from everyone. Being alone isn’t good I know this, but I am not alone at work and a few coworkers know about my attempt to be sober so they do not ask if I want any nips for lunch any more. But they don’t bother me like my adult children bother me. Work doesn’t bother me like my house bothers me. The kids and I, since I’ve been trying to be sober, have been trying to work on the house to get it back to the way it was before I managed to neglect everything. It is improving, but it’s still a downer to look at and deal with. Baby steps. Hahaha.
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day 42… Its 6.30 am. 5 hours ago it was 38 degrees at 1am… Woke up to it being 18 degrees… The temperature dropped 20 degrees in 5 hours!!! Now I dont know much about global warming and climate change , but this dosnt seem healthy lol. I’m very glad the temp has dropped coz I got only a few hours sleep coz it was too hot to sleep. But how the planet went from 38 to 18 in the space of 5 hours astonishes me. Its not raining. Just cold… I’m a complete weather nerd fyi lol 
I feel like mother earth is mad 
… On a brigther note, I’m 42 days clean/sober and have never felt better
I feel like mother earth is mad … On a brigther note, I’m 42 days clean/sober and have never felt better
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Talked to tweenies mother tonight, without tweenie knowing it. I said that I don’t want tweenie to be moved from here, to a youth facility and then back to her mothers house or to another family. I said that If she have to be placed somewhere I’d prefer it to be close to here, so she can come back and stay with us after she had the chance to get professional help. And when they think she’s ready to get back home. Because I want her to be home somewhere and feels that she has a home and a family that’s there for her. That she can come back to. And that we are trying all we can to help her. I’m going to say the same to the social service tomorrow. Her Ma said she’ll think about it. And as you guys know we’ve got no custody so we can’t make that decision on our own. Just hoping the Ma goes on my line.
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@apes2020 congrats on 42.49 days
@AmyBeth Yay for 17 days…more than 1/2 month already!
@MrsOdh…this sound rough. raising young women at that age alone is tough. I tell my kids all the time that I am going to probably mess up their lives completely, but I am not worried because they are rockstars and will figure it out. Hang in there, be you, and set the example that she may one day see in herself.
@CATMANCAM Remarkable!! 154 days and another at 4 months. Knuckles man, that rocks!
Checking in: Starting day 7 with a flare. Can’t stop smiling but damn I need a nap. The dreams are for real crazy. I have always had and remembered my dreams. I used to joke that when I dream I am actually living in an alternative universe…some are so damn fine I could probably win the RITA award. Last night they were all over the place and I woke up begging my husband to not allow his brother to move into to our basement with his 12 kids and that we have hotdogs in our fridge that expired in 2017 and why havent we cleaned the fridge out! He just chuckles because he is used to my wake up ramblings.
Hope you all have a great week! Peace and Love to all ya peeps.
Edit: My brother-in-law does not actually have 12 kids
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There’s a real thing called Paracosm where people have an entire detailed imaginative world they go to in their daydreams and real dreams. Like an alternative real universe. Not all people have it, but some.