Same situation as far a sober for a year, forced by DUI alcohol sensor bracelet. Then tried to moderate. Didnt work out well for me. Ended up in a seizure and heart stopped for 8 minutes in the emergency room. Now im back to making this happen for sure. Keep it up.
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Day 80/no alcohol and Day 79/no cannabis! And now on Day 3 of actively working with phone habits. This is kind of a different ball game, but I figured since Iām already working with addictive tendencies on here, it would be a good place to process and keep myself accountable. I donāt think my use is too extreme at this point, but I just feel like itās getting to be a bit much. I could do without the distraction. I let it slide a bit to help with giving up these substances, and now I need to find some more balance again. I canāt abstain completely because I use it for work, marketing, and communication, but I know that I can be more intentional with my use.
So Iāve created some guidelines for myself. Here they are if anyone is interested:
1) One screen at a time. If Iām watching TV, I canāt be looking at my phone at the same time. So far a good way to break this habit has been to simply leave my phone in the other room.
2) Bathroom is for bathroom time, not checking in on social media. Gross, I know, but so many of us are guilty of it. Itās a habit I really donāt like that I somehow developed. You would think that someone who has been meditating most of her life would be totally ok with just sitting there but somehow the phone has sneaked in to this everyday activity. No more!
3) Engage in my wake-up routine before turning on my phone. Iām already pretty good at this about 80% of the time. I try to get up, make tea, brush teeth, meditate, and journal before turning on my phone. Iām always more relaxed and happy when I do this.
4) Only check social media during designated times of the day. Iāve given myself some check in points where I can look at Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. I hope this keeps me from randomly picking up my phone and checking these things throughout the day. I have not yet created a time limit for these check ins, but that will likely be the next step. This includes my social media use for both personal and work reasons. I can create advertising images and text on my laptop beforehand, but I have to wait until these check ins to post and then wait for the next check in to go back and see how engagement is doing. I am also avoiding having FB open on my laptop.
Part of this new endeavor is that Iām also going to start doing my Talking Sober forum posts from my laptop instead of my phone. I think this will help prevent as much late-night screen scrolling and prioritize checking in earlier in the day instead of waiting until right before bed. Itās also easier to type on my laptop than phone, haha.
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@Eleven17 happy birthday 
hope your first day goes well 
@NWWitch welcome back and congrats on 15 days 
@Girlinterrupted Iām so fkin sorry you had this experience, wtf!? No wonder youāre struggling with it, sending strength
@trose1995 congrats on 90 days
@Alpacabag welcome and congrats on 5 days
@MagicILY congrats on 80 days
189 days no alcohol.
157 days no cocaine.
I am low again and I hate it. Sometimes I really wish I had the ability to cry. I am consumed by an immense sadness, similar to that which I felt for most of my life following my mumās death in 1996. Nothing makes it feel better, thereās nothing anyone can say so I donāt reach out. The anniversary is approaching but itās still a couple of months away so Iām not sure if it is that which Iām feeling or whether the sadness is just similar.
Iām also really struggling with being in the WhatsApp group for the PD support groups, Iām not one for sharing but the regular influx of everyone elseās trauma bonding really can be triggering. I donāt want to offend anyone by leaving the chats, especially whilst we still have a couple weeks of zoom therapy left, but I canāt help but think itās having a negative impact on me, as Iām a total empath.
Iāve managed to get out for a 40 min walk the past 2 days, despite my mind trying to prevent me, and it really does help, as does coming here. Iām going to make an effort to come here daily again, it never fails to pick me up, and thatās the kind of positivity I need to nurture.
Still struggling with the eating disorder, had my 2 monthly phonecall today from the ED service, didnāt find it very helpful and thereās still no indication when I will start therapy. Itās so hard to get my head around it because I try so hard to tackle it as though itās an addiction, but Iām obviously no having much success with that approach. Iāll keep reading the therapy book and see if anything helpful comes up.
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As of right now 6 inches and still falling
12pm and checking inā¦ work has been slow which is okay for today bcuz I need to be on here abit more than usual. Still feeling sad but going to do my best to pull myself out of it. Going to do a gratitude list and remember what I am grateful for. Some thoughts of using but no intense urges. Will see how the day progresses 
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Checking in feb 15 2021
Leaving to Cali in 2 hours lets make this money !
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Checking in ln day 402.
Things have been okay the last few days. Still some urges and cravings.
Iāve been dealing with loneliness latley. Sure I live at home with my parents but I donāt have many friends. Or girlfriend.
Iāve been trying to be a complete person on my own. So I donāt have to depend on anyone. Or on alcohol!
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Iām sorry youāre having a rough time, maybe itās also seasonal, I think February is the most challenging month in this regard. We will have pluses this week, so maybe spring is about to arrive. I hope it will help you to overcome the depression.
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Hi everyone. This is going to be a pretty early evening, as Iām properly knackered after getting home quite late last night and NOT getting a heck of a lot of sleep.
So I made it back from Egypt last night, and everything went well with the flight and all the rest. Of course, as soon as I took my seat on the plane, a glass of sparking wine magically appeared in front of me, without even asking for it. Needless to say, I sent it back, and also refused all of the wine that I was offered with dinner.
Happy to be home, but really beatā¦ goodnight all.
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Day 5 checking in. Almost a week in recovery!
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Waitā¦ toddlers sleep? I got ripped off 
Kidding; mine did nap a bit, but was never a great sleeper from the get-go, and still to this day. Love watching them sleep though! 
Enjoy your time with David!
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Thanks lady! Iāve heard of it, but never actually looked into it. I guess itās worth a short for both of us 
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This just makes my heart melt! 
Iām so glad. For you, for him, for all of it. 
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Checking in 1140ā¦Today hasnāt been the greatest. Iām worried about my brother. My daughter is pushing boundaries to no limit. Iām working remotely and homeschooling my younger 2 kids. I felt really overwhelmed this morning and very unaccomplished 
. Iām going to refocus and meditate.
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Sorry things arenāt so great right now. Hang in there things will get better. I know the homeschooling thing is tough for everyone. 
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Honk if your on highway 40 at the 17 intersection going through Flagstaff.
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Thanks Tyler for including me <3 honesty and integrity is everything. And DAY 1 again, I keep my sober days, I keep my sober learning. I choose sobriety today. I choose rebuilding the low self esteem and low self-confidence. I choose an enthusiasm for life and I will try not to confuse that with alcoholās fake promises. Reading Naked: Control Alcohol is helping hope youāre well - thanks for your support and hoping your journey is going well and that your Monday was warm!
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Thereās no way your 43. I know that in all of your pics itās winter. But you donāt appear to be a day over 26. Congratulations giving yourself the best birthday gift ever. Sobriety. Youāre going to be hiking in the snow with an extra proud lift in those snowshoes on skies or whatever tomorrow.
Happy Birthday. @Eleven17
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Iāve been off porn for 1 month!
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One month today . It feels good to make it this long
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