I didn’t use porn for 35 days!
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I too had some pretty wonky dreams at the beginning, but I certainly (and fortunately) haven’t had any such dreams lately.
I suppose that one of the best things, for me, about NOT drinking is simply the fact that I often forget about the fact that I’m not drinking alcohol. Previously, I would start having wine with my lunch (I work at home) and would keep it up pretty much until I went to bed !
Now I don’t think about it much… though I do still find it distressing that alcohol is so prevalent everywhere you go. It would be somewhat easier if that weren’t the case, but such is life.
Anyway, goodnight all
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@cwak Congratulations!
@Conor689908 Oooh!
Day 192
Usual Saturday of extra homework with the kids, a quick hoover and clean of the toilets. I’d call my daughter’s room a pigsty, but that would be an insult to pigs, so need to help her with that. All good.
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I see the BIG numbers celebrated by those staying away from their DOC on this forum & feel encouraged by them. It gives me hope. Thanks for being inspirational to this “newbie” here. Can’t wait to experience the peace & gratitude about mine. Far from reaching that point. I remind myself we all have the same time … one day. 
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Going into the weekend with 84 days free of alcohol! I haven’t been posting daily lately, but I still want to be sure to be checking in at least a couple times a week to help stay focused and on track. I’m feeling steady and like I have entered a phase where I am just a non-drinker. I think it helps a lot that we are still dealing with a lot of restrictions because of covid because I don’t have the temptation of being out around alcohol or other people drinking. My boyfriend does drink occasionally at home, but it does not spark cravings.
I’ve also been working with phone habit for the last week. I have noticed that because of my progress with working with addictive tendencies and habits with alcohol and weed that I am able to apply a similar process to reducing my phone time. I know that when I have the instinct to pick up my phone, it’s often motivated by the fact that it’s a repetitive action I’ve grown accustomed to. I don’t have to pick it up or check social media. I can just feel the desire, and ultimately that desire will pass even if there is initially discomfort in having to feel it and not go through with the action.
Overall, I would say I’ve had success with the guidelines I’ve set up for myself. I have consistent with no phone while watching TV, no phone in bathroom, and no phone before bed and when I wake up. The gap between checking my phone around 9 pm and then abstaining until 10 am is probably the most challenging but also the most rewarding! It helps me settle my mind at night and allows me to wake up and just engage with the day on my own terms before being influenced by what’s on my screen.
The check-in times I set for myself to engage with social media is where I’ve had the most difficult adhering to. Some days have been really on point, other days I’ve been sloppy. So I am working on that! I can see from my screen time report though that I’m using my phone and on social media less, so overall I say it’s a win and I am making progress with this habit.
Have a great weekend everyone!
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I feel ya on the phone thing!! Its hard. I think its because we long to feel human connection and social media can make us feel more connected sometimes. But then they say it also makes us more depressed! So a happy medium is nice. Reading your posts has definitely motivated me to cut back. I do have a tracker that shows me how long I have been on my phone. Sometimes I am appalled!! 
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I was hoping to leave work a little early but shit hit the fan at 4pm. This seems to happen quite often lately. The days of having a quiet easy going Friday are gone. I stayed and cleaned up the mess. It’s days like today when I used to reward myself with alcohol and drugs. The new me just pats myself on the back for a job well done and carries on like nothing happened.
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Checking in day 12. It’s Friday and work is almost over. It’s been a frustrating and trying day at work. I will not stop at the liquor store today on the way home. I am going to go straight home and give my husband a hand making dinner.
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Atta girl
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checking in after a quiet day 399
Prayers and gratitude and daily readings
had a house meeting, watched tv . texted with my mom and sister. hung out with my housemates , cooked and swept went for a walk.
God bless you all. 
&
P.s. you are delightful. Ya you!!
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Day 146. The sun finally came out today, which was awesome. Work was a stress fest, but I went to the store after I clocked out. I made a batch of cookies for my brother and his girlfriend as a housewarming gift (they just bought a house). I have to go into work for a bit tomorrow, but I hope it won’t take long and that I have the chance to take Max to the dog park.
@cwak congratulations on your 90 days! That’s great work!
@Dragonflygirl82, it sounds like you have your hands full as always, but that you’re handling things with grace. Your neighbor who runs the convenience store sounds like a pest.
@Briella, I’m glad you’re here and working toward two weeks. I always enjoy seeing your posts.
@RosaCanDo, I’m sorry your meds are making you feel weird. Hopefully, you’ll feel better soon. Until then, take good care of yourself and rest as much as possible.
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Lol! I think my skin is generally happier all around when I’m not trying to “hydrate” with alcohol. If my skin was a houseplant? The before and after pictures would look a little drastic, I’m sure!
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Day 235.
Had really good intentions this week for keeping work like one of those pleasant but uptight little garden parties – still there but enclosed, off to the side, everyone behaving – not invading other yards and my time and psyche. Things went a little pear-shaped thurs/fri, but I still won: didn’t pop off at anyone (I think), mostly kept the garden-party meltdown (spills and breakage and fights – you know how it is with unruly guests) away from my M-time and headspace, and (drumroll) didn’t contemplate drinking.
How did I ever think it helped?
The good dog girl has already turned in for the night, and soon I’ll join, dog-tired and feeling all kinda smugly-sober. Can’t be too proud, though – I’m definitely not doing this on my own.
Thanks for sharing another day, good people. We did it. We can do it again tomorrow. I know it. 
Congrats to all on those nice looking numbers! @cwak on 90 days, and @Conor689908 on a string o’ fives!
@Misokatsu insult to pigs? The belly laugh I needed! That and picturing @Dragonflygirl82’s reaction to the neighbour’s “I’ll just open an ice cream shop.” ! I love the snapshots of our sober lives that we share. 
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Checking in at day 15. Proud of myself and proud of everyone else too.
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2 weeks and a day.
I’m glad your proud. I was patting myself on the back too. That’s a big deal!! Keep it up. You’re worth it.
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Checking in wicked late.
414.9 days FAF (thats 414.9 fucken AF !!
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Anyway… read this today and wanted to put it here. Because I feel this is why we all share our struggles.
“No Reservations!”
Keep sharing. You’re helping someone. I know y’all are helping me.
I’ve had reservations. I’m starting to loose some of them.
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