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Quick check in. Trying to do better with getting to bed early enough. There is the stuff that I have to do everyday, and then all the stuff I want to do everyday. It fills a lot of hours and I procrastinate on going to bed. I fight sleep. I’m exhausted, bust I still have a list of shit to do before bed 
So… better get to it because I was supposed to be in bed 17 minutes ago 
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Day 162 no alcohol/ day 36 no smoking. I got up early and finished knitting a hat for a friend. I made key lime bars for my blog project this week. I watched too much Netflix and cuddled with Max and just generally tried to rest. I spoke with my dad this afternoon and made a big decision after that chaotic conversation. I don’t need to be talking to him if he’s been drinking. It’s exhausting and often hurtful and just unnecessary. All of my life, I’ve felt like I need to speak to my parents and hear them out because they are my parents and I need to be respectful to them both. I still feel like I need to be respectful. However, respect is a two way street. I’m not a child any more, and my dad doesn’t have the right to call me up drunk and say whatever drunk thing is on his mind and try to pick fights just because he’s my dad. More accurately, he can do that if he’d like, but I have a couple of options. I can either not pick up the phone at all, or I can cut the conversation short when I can tell he’s been drinking. Sorry I’m just trying to process all of this in my mind.
Good night, y’all. I hope everyone gets as good a night’s sleep as this guy:
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Sounds like your head and heart are in the right place for you and your well-being. And that Max is a sweet teddy bear!!! 
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Checking in Day 21. Had a moment of recoking this morning glad I flushed that shit. Otherwise I wouldn’t be here checking in. Had a wonderful day went bike riding with my kids…baked a cake…enjoyed my Sunday…sober. thankful for you all support. Love this community. 1 day at a time…see you around. Blessings to all. Good Night.
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Day 251.
Today was a good day. Crazy warm temps (okay, slightly above freezing) and lots of sun = lots of walks with the dog girl. Quite spontaneously, due to surplus vaccines here (after vaccinating the vulnerable), one phone call and I got my first dose - just like that. Feel fine, but I think I might have broken the dog and maybe myself a bit on our trails!
Looking forward to the week ahead. And sharing these days with you.
We did another one. We can do it again tomorrow. I know it.
G’night all - big love. 
@nwags one week woo hoo! onward. proud of you!
@Croke double digits! Nicely done. Knew you could do it. C’mon - we get through 
winters. We know how to dig deep!
@icebear hang in there, you know it’s not worth it to drink. all that frustrating stuff is gonna come and go, and when it goes you’ll still have your sobriety.
Nice numbers, @Fargesia_murielae. I don’t think much of your words. 
Oh wow, fly me to the moon, @Tomek! One of my faves. Thank you for sharing. 
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Checking in on 100 days without alcohol (and 99 without cannabis). Amazing I’ve come so far!!! It feels great. All the support here has been a huge help 
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Absolutely! Broken ribs are no joke, one of the most painful in my opinion. I’m already starting to feel better thank God. Have a great night!!!
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It maybe be hard. But you are 
correct. You do not need to talk to your dad when he’s been drinking. Period. That is a boundary that I would stick to no matter who it was. Good for you.
Congrats on 162 AF
And no cigs.
I hope you get to sleep like Max.
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Woohoo Atta Girl MagicILY !!
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Woo hoo! Well done MagicILY!
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Way to go!
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535 Days. Sobriety just sucks right now and I want to escape but I know it will only make things worse. I don’t have the energy and time to get everything done in a day. I feel like I’m always trying to catch up and more just piles on my plate. Hubby is in the hospital with an infection and doctors don’t know why. He’s got 50 pounds of fluid built up throughout his body. My daughter still needs to get to her daily program so now I’ve got to add 2 hours in the morning and afternoon on top of working a full day. I have to find time in there to get to the hospital. Then run an AA meeting tomorrow night that I can’t miss because I have the only key. There’s so much more going on but I don’t have the energy to post about it right now. Ugh! Breathe, serenity prayer and breathe some more. Goodnight TS family.
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@MagicILY Triple digits! Well done!
@Lisa07 That sounds like so much, you are doing way more than anyone can take. I hope things ease off for you soon.
Day 207
Still not being particularly productive. In the morning had some community stuff I had to do, then watched some things on Netflix, and posted a letter that I needed to. I am “last suppering”, like giving myself ‘one day’ to be lazy, then I will crack on with being better, but I keep extending the deadline.
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Being respectful doesn’t mean, that you have to listen to them and let them hurt you. In this case it wouldn’t be listening, but taking part in their games. You can respectfully set your boundaries. You don’t owe them anything, not even explanation. The only one you owe anything is yourself. You have to respect and protect yourself. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them.
It’s hard to overwrite the childhood conditionings and it takes time and practice. It’s natural to doubt it and to take a step back sometimes, but at the end of the day you have to accept, that there is nothing you ‘have to’ do or feel towards them.
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I’m here, I’m alive and I’m sober.
Day 190
Nothing to report yet, and hopefully it stays that way. I’m supposed to do some school work. But it’s a calm week with no seminar until Monday,because next week we’re supposed to di our exam and write an essay in this course. To bad the essay can’t be about my new obsession, The Nanny
It’s way more fun watching that show than watching what I’m supposed to, lessons about city building and gentrification.
I’ve got a feeling that my future work within the cultural industry, if I ever come that far that I’m starting to work on a doctors degree it’ll probably be something fashion related. That’s a big part of culture, and I’ve been changing my style so many times that I’ve lost count. Everything fits a beauty as they say
I’m still changing though because I haven’t really found my yet. But probably I will eventually. The Pink and Lilly colors however is definitely me. And I love dresses, for the moment the miniskirt versions too even if I only own one for now.
I might have a small jacket/blazer problem to. And used to have one in each color, but I’ve cleaned out the dated ones. So I eventually can refill with more “fun” items.
The only thing I don’t really like that’s fashion related is purses and shoes. Try being a lady with European shoe size 42 and you’ll probably get the feeling
Sorry I’m babbling away again. I’m coming to a point eventually, just stay tuned.
My birthday is tomorrow, I’m turning 36. Last year for my 35th birthday I wished for a Lilly Pulitzer dress. My very first, I’ve got an amazing husband so I got my dress. And it’s been a lot of dresses since. On my wishlist for this year, It’s some more Lilly Items, and a Moschino purse that’ll match most of my Lilly.
Meanwhile I’m almost at the same point in life that I was last year. No drivers license, a house that needs major renovations. No dream job.
There’s one important difference though, I’m sober. And I got a plan to move forward. At least I’m telling myself that.
How’s life for all of you guys today?
I hope the week starts great for all of you. I’m going to try to stop babbling around here and start to do what I’m supposed to do today.
Happy Monday folks. 
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Wow, just had an argument with my husband, a few things have been bubbling, and it started banally with my son refusing to eat what I made and my husband being all “well, of course he can’t eat that” but he really outdid himself at the end by telling me “you should change your personality” and when I asked why he disliked me so much he just shrugged and rolled his eyes. Nice to know what he thinks of me. Fuck knows why I stay sober.
Edit - I will stay sober for the kids and myself, of course, but that was a real doozy of a comment
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Day 4 so far. Back at work today. Just keep focussed. Take it easy everyone, remember to keep your chin up.
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- Coffee. It’s my weekend. Slept in late and had some crazy dreams. Remembering part of the last one it was actually kind of funny. I’m glad I’m dreaming after decades of substance induced comatose nights waking up with a heavy body, a heavy mind and a heavy soul. Today I’ll do some house chores and cook myself some good food, tomorrow i’ll bike or hike. Have as good a week as you all can my friends. Sober and clean. Love from Amsterdam. Old pic but I like.
@icebear Like @Littlemac says good days and bad ones. We don’t drink. it wouldn’t help. Hugs.
@TSan It’s been said already but let me repeat. Respect doesn’t mean take all sorts of sh*t from your dad. Good on you for thinking about your boundaries.
@MagicILY 100 days! Triple digits! Yay! Huge congrats!
@Lotusflower 3 weeks already Des. You’re doing fantastic. Keep going odaat.
@Lisa07 I’m sorry Lisa. Hang in there. Let us all give you some energy and strength to keep going. Big hugs.
@Misokatsu Does your husband cook Flo? Just asking.
@TriumphSTsprint Day 4! Right on Harry! Great going friend!
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To all the Ladies of the forum 
Wishing you a great international Women’s Day!
She was weary
Forgotten
In her own silence in the midst of chaos
Never finding a fitting box
Listen!
I’m vulnerable
Soft
Fierce
Beautiful
Resilient
Worthy
I’m a daughter
of the most High
The wind whispers my name
The sun shines on me her radiance
The oceans rage with my tears
My heart has been cultivated
in battlefields
in rose gardens
by your words
looking into your eyes
"Seek me and you will find me.
So take courage, dear heart."
by Olivia
If you like flowers but didn’t get any, I’m happy to share mine 
Every woman should have someone in her life to bring her flowers.
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