Checking in daily to maintain focus #29

Dolse71 · May 7, 2021, 8:41pm

Great seeing this, your a very special person who deserves every day of this. Proud of you

Carmen · May 7, 2021, 8:45pm

thank you!

Dolse71 · May 7, 2021, 8:53pm

write a list of all your triggers and beside them write what action you can take to overcome them, I have a mental note of all the things that could set me off but bc I’m alert there can be no surprises, there are no justified reason for me to drink bc if something bad happens I can’t change the past with alcohol and if I’m not living in the moment and panicking about what might happen in the future then I’m better off facing it sober. Then there are the days when nothing happens and we just think we deserve a drink, those are the days we need to ask ourselves what we really want from life in our heart and soul - if we’re honest with ourselves and listen it’s very rarely being an alcoholic.

Dolse71 · May 7, 2021, 8:56pm

can I have a side pic please.

Dolse71 · May 7, 2021, 8:59pm

You might feel weak but you can act strong, fake it til you make it.

Rockstar24777 · May 7, 2021, 10:07pm

Thanks @liv_m I just took a nap instead and feel better now

RosaCanDo · May 7, 2021, 10:14pm

Thanks for all the sober love today, amigos! I’m proud to be on your team! Much love.

M-be-free49 · May 8, 2021, 3:17am

Go Rosa Go! Congrats on 8 months! You are unstoppable!

And amazing and inspiring. I’m so grateful you’re here and you’re you!

Lisa07 · May 8, 2021, 4:06am

How the heck did I miss this?! Thankfully, @M-be-free49 commented.

Congratulations @RosaCanDo ! Your posts are so valuable. Thank you for allowing me to be apart of your amazing journey. Much love to you.

RosaCanDo · May 8, 2021, 4:13am

So glad you’re okay (hopefully). Scary stuff.

RosaCanDo · May 8, 2021, 4:14am

Thank you Lisa and @M-be-free49! I appreciate you both so much.

Pickles · May 8, 2021, 4:14am

The “I don’t give a care” self-talk sends an alarm warning bell to myself. I know to immediately kick the thought out of my mind & replace it with something else (a different thought, a mantra, a physical activity etc.). I don’t let it roll around in my head. Works for me. I also remind myself that we all go through funks whether we drink or not. It’s normal & doesn’t require drinking.

Its_me_Stella · May 8, 2021, 4:27am

Heya fam-dam checking in substance free for…

Just got in from a very busy day but it ended perfectly with my favorite Friday night CA meeting. I am considering making this my home group but I am a little unsure what that might look like as I want to finish my current steps through NA and I don’t really want to change my sponsor. Something I need to talk to her about and maybe my friend in CA too. Not sure what it is about that meeting… maybe its because its in person… maybe its the size…I haven’t figured it out but the vibe is different for sure. I feed off energy and the energy is amazing.
Hope everyone will have a great weekend and spend it in whatever way fills their soul.

Much love.

Beforemy30s · May 8, 2021, 4:32am

Checking in on Day 23. @Penguin our days are really similar and I always keep a little eye out for your posts. Nice thinking people are out there on same journeys together. Hope you had a productive day balcony sanding and are feeling good!

Last night I went to a bar after work with friends. Had two ginger ales and actually didn’t miss wine. Then had dinner with a good friend who I have opened up to about not drinking and again, I didn’t miss it. It felt amazing! I realise some times will be more testing and I’m perhaps in the newly sober invigorated phase, but I’m proud.

There are some tricky things going on with a couple of people in my life at the moment, but talking things out with a clear head a calmer perspective is helping me to let it go and not get too wrapped up in things. This sober journey isn’t just about leaving alcohol, I’ve realised. It brings a hell of a lot of reflection.

And today marks the 3month countdown until my big move Until I pack up and move across Europe on my own. I cannot wait. I’ve been so down and harsh on myself these last few weeks. But this morning I’ve decided to let it go. I need to let go of the guilt over my last binge, as if I don’t the shame will destroy me and my peace of mind. I don’t want to waste my last 3 months here with my loved ones being cruel and unkind to myself and not fully engaging with my life.

Apologies for the rant! But thank you thank you thank you to everyone here. It is like a secret team having your back and has made all the difference these last 23 days