That’s sad news Fil, I wish you and her strenght for all to come. At least you are sober and can be there for her. Keep us posted, we are here for you to listen and help if we can.
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What do you mean with “second finger is down also”? You mean it isn’t working anymore? Ore no feeling in it anymore?
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Day 5 for me. Couple slips - just found myself having a beer but managed to stop after 1. Found an amazing sponsor who I think has literally saved my life! Trying to start every day with gratitude and reminding myself that as soon as I let my ego creep in things are only going one way!!! Praying a lot - never done that before but it really helps when the urges kick in. Thank you all for your honesty and kindness - I come back here so often when I’m struggling. May you all have an awesome sober day!!!
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Feeling left me… We’ll see.
Going home 2morrow. Bit scared but it will work out.
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Day 1665. My sponsor has been away and on vacation and I haven’t been to as many meetings. I find myself getting back into getting by on my own power and that always fails. I’m coming here to this thread so I can be accountable. I need to tap into my HP and know that he’s got this. All that crazy sht in my head is just crazy sht in my head and i’m doing fine!!
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Oh no Menno. I’m so sorry. Shit. If she stops eating. Get her to the vet immediately. You probably already know that. That’s always a worrisome thing if they stop eating. Keep us posted.
Lovely Luna will be in my prayers.
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I hope Luna will be okay! Sending prayers.
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Hope the both of you are feeling better soon Menno. Don’t wait to long for seeing a vet for Luna. If a cat do not eat it’s dangerous for his liver and he can die of it 
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Nerves can grow back I’ve learned and that can take a while. I hope that’s the case with your hand as well.
Sterkte vast voor morgen!! Tuurlijk is het dubbel: fijn en eng tegelijk.
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Wat Bist ook un skaddie! Thnx sis
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Menno, sup with Luna then ? Serious? I’ll send some prayers
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I know I reached for a smoke about a million times after, and that I’ve done week 1 many times. Just happy I’m off with a good start.
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Dear @SoberWalker , thank you so much ! It a big support to know that someone is helping me to fight this war with alcohol ( and her cancer now).
In my mind now I try to say “ alcohol first , this is most important battle “ than all can be handled if I don’t drink .
Thanks for support 
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Hey there, I’ve barely made a day … On both alcohol and cigarettes but the urge is so strong. I’m afraid
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Sounds like a wonderful idea, for whenever we can travel again. Just let me Finnish our spa basement first 
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Had a long talk with my wife last night. Got a few things straightened out. Spoke a few truths. Glad we did it. It’s better now.
She’s going to read We Are The Luckiest in an effort to see where I am right now.
I spent 30+ years where she is now. Thinking that alcohol was doing something for me. Thinking that I would be depriving myself of something were I to give it up. I wouldn’t have listened to anyone else about it, so I shouldn’t be too surprised that she isn’t buying into it just yet.
Heading out in the late afternoon with the family and staying out after dark. We have NEVER done this before. Mainly because we’ve always had young kids that we wanted to get to bed, but also because we wanted to get home early to drink. When I pointed this out to her, it seemed to land.
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Ha. I should have read the entire thread before responding.
I have really been weighing that up. Pros Vs disappointment is a no contest.
To be honest, if I did make the decision to do it, getting it down my throat would be another thing again. I’m not sure that I could do it.
As I mentioned above, I’m trying to demonstrate the virtues of not drinking by being out with the family when we would usually be dashing back to drink. Hopefully that works well.
It has been a lot easier today actually. Not sure why. Maybe it was our talk last night. Maybe it’s because the sun has gone in. Maybe I’m just getting my head around it.
Whatever is happening, I know I’m grateful for your support.
In fact, coming in here and fessing up to everyone is a real and significant thing in keeping me sober.
Thank you.
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Off to work its early and hot out here in Las Vegas praying for everyone. Enjoy your day!
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Ha. I definitely should have read the whole thread. 
You are absolutely right in everything that you say. I LOVE being sober. I love my new life. I love being present for my kids and my family. (My kids are 16, 13, 11 and 9 by the way, so no drinking issues yet). I also love being a positive sober role model for them, and that would be a lot to give up.
I am so grateful to you for taking the time and trouble to write such a detailed and supportive response. That alone would be enough to move the needle to sober from wavering. Thank you.
What an incredible community this is. 
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