Well now that his number is in your phone again. Block it.
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This naked mind by Annie Grace changed my life.
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Day 1081 
Just heared my younger brother has an alcohol problem as well. At least my sister in law thinks he has. My brother always has been a big drinker. After an incident when he was under the influence he quit for 1 month (because his wife told him too). Now she gave him an ultimate to stop and as example she quit as well. But he doesnât want to stop and is panicking about it and got a panick attack as well.
Iâm worried and also very glad I do not drink anymore. Hope they find there way out. There is so little I can do.
Any advice?
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Sounds like he has lots of support. I would say talk to him in a gentle way. Tell him what it means to you to be alcohol free. I think part of the problem with addiction is besides being hesitant to admit that you may need to quit something that you think you like and think you canât live without, something that has always been there for you, people are very afraid to quit that they will not be successful doing it and that they cannot live without it.
Sincere conversations from people who love you and who can sort of lead you and show you the Way might be beneficial.
I hope it will work out for his sake and for all of your sake. Alcohol kills. Itâs not good for the body and itâs not good for the mind. Itâs not good for relationships.
Edit. If he is receptive at all, take him by the hand as much as you can. And encourage him to do what he did for the one month. Reiterate to him the damage it is doing to his relationship with his wife. I think itâs a good sign that he did quit for a month. Give him ideas of things that he can do besides drink. Look at you youâre walking 10 and 15 miles.
Also somehow address his anxiety. Give him breathing exercises to do if he starts having one. Teach him how he can refocus his thoughts. Talk to somebody who knows a lot about alcohol and anxiety, I donât.
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Annie Grace really helped me, and checking in on here. Well done for day 1, i can relate to your events, but you here and thats key⌠write down all the negatives of drinking and put it in a place of view it all helps⌠keep strong you can do this ODAAT 
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And me 
the book just clicked!
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Gooood morning. I am checking in on day 97, its the weeeeekend and come Monday Iâll be 100 days sober.
Did I ever think that was possible? Did I hell!!
Have a good one folks. Stay sober and stay safe.
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251 days
@Bomdhil so good to see you back and doing well
@SoberWalker sorry to hear about yoir brother, be good to talk to him if he is ready, so sad to see a loved one with an addiction, prayers that he is ready for day 1. He will have great support 
Off for a lido swim very soon, a great way to start the day. Then a few errands. I like these kind of days pootling about.
Wishing you all a great sober day 
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Six weeks of sobriety. It feels so good.
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Checking in with morning coffee. First weekend off work since I started my soberjourney, got to stay focused now.
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You need to change your number. You know you do.
@Amisober Ami, you also need to change your number. Thow out any numbers you have written down as well, ( we all do that , write our dealers numbers down on paper so its there âjust incaseâ )
I know that when it comes down to it, no amount of phone number blocking and changing our numbers will stop us from contacting our dealer. If we want to score, we will, its that simple.
But I feel there comes a point in our path where even though we know we can go score if we want to, something shifts inside us where we dont want to, more than we do.
Does that sense? The balance changes over time, we lean more towards not wanting to over wanting to.
You will get to that moment @Ami where you wonât want to, more than you do want to.
It just takes time.
Stay strong
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Your shit cup overflows. I get that. Going back to any addiction wonât help you, only sink you deeper. It sounds like your ex is being a vindicative SOB. Please donât blame yourself of HER choices. Please donât measure your success with the BS she flinging your way.
No matter what you decided with the party, weâre here for you. Never doubt that. You can always come home
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Day 389
This morning was nice, made pancakes with my daughter and curry for lunch.
Spousal irritation this afternoon. He bought 4 pairs of identical god-awful purple and yellow sweatpants just because they were 3 dollars.
He also got annoyed at me for ânot doing what he saysâ, he doesnât seem to get his words are not a fucking edict.
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This old Scotsman 12,773 only 11 more to the big 35 .only a day at a time . off to Ireland on the 12th so be at a meeting in Sligo for my Sober birthday and my oldest son will be 26 bb birthday that day , Everyone doing great keep on trucking .
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Yea I know what you mean, I actually got there once and then got cocky and thought I could just have oneâŚobviously I canât!
And my usual trick is deleting the number, but accidently on purpose leaving the texts on my phone. I dont know why but Iâm really struggling with deleting numbers. Itâs like theyâre a comfort blanket, does that make any sense at all??
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Honestly I have no idea.
I really do want to be clean, Iâve even left town (Iâm staying with a friend next town over) because I donât know anyone here.
I keep going to delete and my finger just doesnât push the button.
I donât know what it is. I donât know why. Itâs obviously got a bigger hold than I even want to admitâŚ
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Honestly it never occurred to me to make a plan, but I like that idea!
Thanks, looks like Iâve some thinking to do 
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The problem is he hasnât admit to me that he has a drinking problem ore an issue over it with his wife. He doesnât open up about it. I know about his prpblem because his wife told me. My brother only speaks in a way it is a burn out.
I donât want to stand between themâŚ
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You can share with him about your own journey. What made you decide you had a problem with alcohol? What happened after that? How did you get sober? How has your sobriety affected your life and how did alcohol affect it? We can only share our own experiences. You donât have to take sides. Stand with both.
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