You can have codependent tendencies if you look to external validation, like defining your self worth by job, status doing well in school, etc. So it’s being dependent on those external circumstances instead of on who you actually are. I think it’s easier to see in relationships but once the counselor started giving examples it made a lot of sense.
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Hey guys daily check in time.
57 days no alcohol
20 days no cigarettes
It turned out being a very good day. The weather was chilly in the 40s but the rain stopped so I walked to and from my doctor appointment. That was about 5 miles. I also finally got my gym membership so I can start going tomorrow or Saturday depending on how my time management works out.
So the appointment I went to today was for a new Hepatic panel. My AST went from 164 to 24 and the ALT 189 to 27. I was wanting to see improvement but wow I didn’t think this good. I still have some work to do with my liver but I am relieved.
God is good
ODAAT
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Thanks @Lisa07 yeah it’s been a long road healing from this one for sure. I blocked her on Facebook before I read her message so she didn’t know I read it. I feel like a coward for not responding to her and blocking her but I guess it’s the best thing I can do to protect myself from further trauma. Thank you again
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There’s nothing cowardly about setting boundaries for your own wellbeing. That’s a huge sign of strength in my opinion. Keep looking after yourself.
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Just because it feels that way doesn’t mean it’s true.
In my opinion she deserves no explanation from you. Fuck her… and that’s me being spiritual.
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Thank you Stella very much. I ended up just deleting my Facebook account. I wouldn’t put it past her to have her boyfriend try and message me on there about the tickets so fuck it, don’t even want to be around for that to happen.
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- Coffee. Hard day yesterday. Hoping for a better one today. Will make it so. Just the one workday. True weekend after. I got this. Just for today. Have a good one all, or at least as good as you all can. Make it sober and clean. It’s so much better. Pic is from a magic little hike at dusk at he feet of the Maroon Bells near Aspen CO two years ago today. Love.
@Complicatedmama So sorry for your loss Patty. With you in thought.
@Charlie_C Condolences and congratulations at the same time Charlie.
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Oh Patty. That’s awful! I’m so sorry. My condolences for the whole family. We’re here for you sweety.
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Was it hard because of meeting your friend? I have never had a long term, close friendship, but guess they have peaks and dips like a marriage.
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Day 24 checking in have a good day 
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Thoughts are with you, I am so very sorry… praying with you for all who are “struggling with addiction, mental health and anything else”
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Well yes. Known each other for 30 years and we grew very close. Now we’re in crisis and some things need to change or we’re done. Working on it but hard stuff. Thanks for asking.
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Thanks, Drew! 
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Thank you, Lisa! You’re a huge part of my success here; thank you for always being here for me. I love you too, sis! 
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Checking in for today! All fine! Last day of work before my weekend starts. But I am not sure if I am happy with it. Not much planned or to do. Working works better at the moment for keeping my mind of the alcohol.
But first today! Today I will not drink! Today I stay sober! 
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Congratulations lovely people on all your milestones! Great to read at 3.30 am and assures me it keeps getting better even through the tough stuff.
Sincere condolences @Complicatedmama and @Charlie_C.
Just got to 20 days
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I just saw your post from last night, congrats on 11 months and my condolences for your dad…I will keep you and your family in my thoughts!
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