Thanks for the hugs Rob. Doing better today.
You been at that job working your magic for 3 months 
. Wow. Thatās how those ODAATās fly donāt they? Great for you.
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Iām sorry youāre feeling so lonely. I have felt that way, too. And Iām glad youāre here and engaged in this community, because this helps! People who know what youāre experiencing. The longer you are sober the more time you also get to adjust to a new lifestyle and that includes social things. Hang in there, chica!
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Thank you Rosa 
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Thank you.
Itās hard to be self aware while in the moments of being frustrated and upset. But after doing my gratitude list this morning, was when I realized, I was kinda blaming or taking it out on the wife and the poor me attitude. But in actuality everything that happened to me happened to us yesterday. Iām grateful I figured that out.
Glad your here.
I bet you have a lot of good stuff to share when your ready to help us all.
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201st day sober and in bed, had a wierd week, lost momentum with my studying. 4th week of second year at uni almost done. I did think about drinking, in the way that I knew that the feelings I had this week would of led me to drink and stick my head in the sandā¦ I am grateful I didnāt drink today or yesterday or the day before because Iāve made small steps forwardā¦I remember thereās a NA reading somewhere that says ā¦ āsometimes quickly, sometimes slowlyā¦āā¦ totally experienced the slowly this weekā¦
I wasnāt even close to picking up but it was like my second personality talking to itself 
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@Dazercat. Whether your pity party was āwarrantedā or not - I think under the circumstances it was your right to have one! I can only imagine the multitude of emotions that go along with having an alcoholic spouse. Everything from anger/aggravation to pity to concern back to anger . . . You are SUCH a valuable asset to this forum and give so much to so many. I think it is just fine to occasionally question whether being sober is worth it. I think those thoughts are pretty common. As long as you come back to reason and see that it totally is. Which, after sleeping like a baby it seems that is exactly what you did. Iām in your corner my olā MA friend. Can you believe ātheyā call us Massholes? How 'bout them Sox? 
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@CATMANCAM @Alisa thank you very much, your words mean a lot to me really.
Iām very grateful for this community where I can be seen as I am, your support helps immensely.
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Full of covid, reminds me of some of the hangovers I used to get, thinking back it had to be an exceptional amount of alcohol to get a hangover I noticed, it was normal waking up still drunk in random places or dragging my oh so tired arse to work. I only called it a hangover if I had a headache. Best thing for a headache - lie to your boss, donāt go to work, have 1 glass of water if you can stomach it just for rehydration and get back on the booze. I prefer covid
posted wrong day 
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Take care, mate.
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feels like ages since Iāve seen you about, Might not be coincidence you had those thoughts. Stick with the winners my friend, none of us have to do this alone. Congrats on your sober days BTW 
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Thanks MB. Appreciate your encouraging words. Once a Masshole always a Masshole 
Sometimes when I feel like donāt have anyone to talk to about sobriety. Because, irl, I do not. I forget I should come on here and express my feelings. It seems like I come and go in waves onhere. I find it more fun to be supportive rather than need to be supported. But thatās probably a normal feeling. Iāve always had to take care of myself.
Being sober is definitely worth it. Itās just seems like weāre the ones that got to do all the work. Iāve always been proud of my work ethic. And Iāll continue to be proud of the work Iām doing for my sober life. I know Iām worth it. No fucken way Iām gonna let you guys down. More importantly Iām not going to let myself down.
Instead of asking my God, āplease make the alcoholic stop drinking!ā - I need to learn a better way to ask for help. Today I will meditate for a few minutes on what I need, and then I will ask my God to help me with it.
Paraphrased from Courage To Change.
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Nice planning. Good for you.
Just wondering if youāve read this thread. Maybe you have. But if your willing you could always book mark it for later. Or maybe some else needs to see it.
Advice for new comers and constant relapsers
See you soon.
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Check in time ok kind of day still clean at 4 months and 15 days
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Eric my man, how are you today? Youāve always been there for me, and Iāll gladly be there for you anytime too buddyā¦! 
How much more depressing would it be to accept defeat and consciously distract yourself from it to numb your way through life? How could lifeās beauty and potential possibly be enjoyed in such a limited time? The little things, enjoy them as much as you can manā¦ The sunrise and sunset, cold morning dew, the stars and moon, the blue sky and high up clouds passing by, cute/curious/interesting life enjoying itself outside, candle light, a refreshing swim, music, a lovely forest, preparing that food you havenāt yet mastered or tried, simply enjoying someoneās presenceā¦ Everythingā¦ How lucky are we to be alive? How much of this world is still just waiting to be explored and discovered by us?! How many like-minded people waiting to be found? Maybe there are things you havenāt done, tried, seen yet or in a while and you feel a little cornered? Being the mindful one isnāt a bad trait when it comes down to it, you donāt know the gem you have and are brotherā¦!
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Day 13. Thankful for today.
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Checking in near the end of day 2
Still clean! Still sober! Caught myself in a resentment today. Processed it and let it go. Busy day so Iām tired. Didnāt exactly stick to my eating but Iām not going to complain bcuz today was better than yesterday. Progress not perfection 
Had some very minor thoughts of using. But im reminding myself that my mind lies to me when it comes to addiction. Playing the tape to the end and keeping busy for now is helping. Needing to do some self care tonight n get some rest. Iām getting back on my meds tonight. I canāt start at my usual dose bcuz the side effects are too crazy. Have to build myself up again to what I am supposed to be at. But I know once I get back on them itāll help with my recovery. It always has in the past. Anyway, great to be back and see everyone. It feels good!
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Hi!!! And no I havenāt seen this thread. Iād like to check it out actually. My God, I used to be a chronic relapser 
not anymore (and Iām not even going to hope that I donāt relapse)ā¦ im just not going to. Im honestly abut scaredā¦ but im trying so hard to retire my brain and my thinking. Looking at things differently ya know? Thank u for ongoing support 
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Checking into my third day.
Plan for today:
- Shower cold
- Shave
- Go for a nice jog
- Eat something healthy
- Work on & print new resumes; search for new potential jobs
- Whole bunch of things to be honest, letās just seeā¦
You are worthy, deserving, wise, conscious, mindful, clear-minded, focussed, determined, free, perfect, unique, strong, adaptable, committed, persistent, lucky, trustworthy, honest, beautiful, happy, grateful, loving, aspiring, caring, curious, complete, understanding, bright, betterā¦ What else lies in youā¦? 
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Sounds like a great productive day!
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