@Happilyeverafter99 union of prayers. My condolences 
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Hey friends, checking in on day 544 today. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Day 57, yesterday was still a really pretty good productive day atleast in my mind. The last I donāt even know how long several weeks my mom has just been super grouchy lashing at ppl in the house. I donāt pick fights I keep my distance in this house, do my share where I can. Well this morning she was super grouchy me and the girls came down stairs, my mom was running around acting like everything was her job and it was a nuisance, I usually wait till a certain time to get my girls going I let them wake up, I nicely and calmy said mom you donāt need to do any of that itās my job, ohhh well thatās just really nice Michael thanks for the attitude, I let it go I wasnāt arguing. Then I hear her and my step father in the other room telling the girls come on letās go itās time to get ready. So I got up bc it wasnāt time yet and the girls donāt need to feel rushed and walked in and said nicely again you guys donāt need to do this itās my job and Iāll get them ready, my mom just flipped and started screaming at me you just think you run the fucking show around here screaming in my face in front of my girls,saying sheās having health issues and thank you for caring about me. I kept calm the whole time I didnāt argue back, I said Iām sorry mom but yelling and taking it out on others isnāt going to help you. Only to start getting screamed at more. Didnāt really want to post this here but just wanted it off my chest. Im ok, she is fighting her own battles, wish she would just talk about it tho not scream about it, think Iām going to go and apply for some other assistance today. Much love, Iām still in a good place Iām happy to be sober.
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Thatās rough and not fair to you or your girls. Iām sorry you all had to deal with that and I hope your mom can get whatever help it is that she needs, it sounds like sheās really struggling with something.
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Day 67 Itās a wonderful foggy morning today. I have always loved the fog. It softens and hushes the world in a lovely mystical otherworldly way. My grands will be coming for their weekly sleepover tonight so I gotta get a move on and get the work done for the day.
@Happilyeverafter99 Iām so sorry you lost such a dear soul to you. 
@JBug Itās was good seeing you on today and see youāre still going strong at day 55 
@RosaCanDo @4lilcinny 
Happy 70 days!!
@paper_boats @Dmcg1987 
Congrats on 80 days!!
@anon86198612 
25 days Woot Woot!!!
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I can hear the struggle in your words Dana. I hope you can find some time today to do the self care you need. Remember all your tools youāve put together to help you through the tough days. 
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Checking in:
708 alcohol free AF.
120 no added sugar.
Iām just one drink away from a drunk this Christmas Holiday season.
And I get to decide.
Iām not drinking today, and
Iām probably not drinking tomorrow.
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Checking in at the end of day 341.
Went to a bar after work today with 4 colleagues who were drinking. One of whom Iād never spoken to before. It was great. I was relaxed and held my own in the conversation. We had a good laugh, and then I came homeā¦sober. I was then able to have a nice evening with my family, unlike the before time when I would come home drunk and late, and continue drinking - before drifting off to sleep without interacting with anyone.
Life is so much better now.
Have a great sober day, wherever you are.
Goodnight. 
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Hey guys. Just checking in day 6
Enjoy your night guys and stay sober
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Congratulations ā¦ youāve got the holidays put in their placeā¦no drinksā¦Iām good with that here too
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Day 546 clean and sober today. I hope you have a great day today, love you guys! 
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Struggling a bit this eve, had a bit of a crap afternoon, was seriously considering getting some wine and just having a night in. I know itās just to block out how Iām feeling. Been trying to decide between alcohol, cigarettes or a take away. Basically all unhelpful Ways of avoiding how I feel. Went with a take away, not sure that is that much better than drinking but I guess itās not going to cause as many problems! Iām not over weight or anything (yet 
) so not a big problem but probably shouldnāt substitute with food. Oh well!! 
Gonna get an early night and tomorrows a new day. 26 daysā¦ Just.
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Iām celebrating day 46.
Previously, Iāve been concerned about the 50 day and 60 day milestones coming up.
A lot of my relapses have been around milestones. I admit that, for much of my life throughout recovery, Iāve romanticized my drug thinking that I was missing out.
Not this time. Iām looking forward to the days to come. Itās a lot more enjoyable and easier.
Happy sober Friday everyone!
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Check in on day 20!
But I woke up with the dreaded man cold, so please excuse me while I slump over on my desk
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Congratulations on your 20 days Justin. I hope you feel better soon.
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Day 120 for meā¦ I can honestly say that I have zero desire to drink, and Iām happy about that. I know itās such a struggle for some, especially at the holidays, and Iām grateful I donāt have to deal with that on top of Covid. This mess is hanging on! Iām trying to stay in good spirits, and I think Iām managing well as far as depression. But dang do I still feel like crap. 
Yāall stay well. Much love
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21 months without an alcoholic drink. I dont even think about it now.
I was in a bad way when I first joined this community and can say I couldnt have come this far without reading and gaining knowledge from every single one of you, especially in the first 3 months.
I had relapses in first 3 months but whilst having those Iād still come on here daily and read and learn.
Counting everyday didnāt work for me because once Iād hit 7 or 30 or 60 Iād think hey itās no big deal I can start from number 1 again tomorrow so Iād go out and get smashed. I decided to do 3 months sober cold turkey as they say. 1 month in I was feeling really good about myself and said right letās knock the cigarettes on the head too.
Around this time covid was raising its head and the pubs were closed(I only ever drank in pubs around 10 to 15 pints a night) drinking in the house has never really done it for me.
I found things to do that needed doing for years. I tidied my garden up, I decorated, Iād take the dogs out on more walks, I got into photography, I started drawing again, I started cycling, I read more than ever. I worked every single day all through lock down, I worked overtime, I accumulated savings for the first time in my life. I decided to on a vegetarian diet, I was eating so healthy that I decided to start exercising as well. I climbed mountainsā¦literally. I took an allotment on. I started really living.
I met an old school friend at a funeral on Tuesday and he said I cant believe how well you look and he asked me how I started my new lifestyle. I told him talking sober was my biggest guide and that if you really want to quit being addicted YOU WILL FIND YOUR OWN WAY.
Which made me feel guilty about not being on here to offer support to others. Sometimes support can just be an ear to bend. To know that someone IS listening and DOES care.
I do still have bad days but Iād have them regardless if I drank or not. We push through until tomorrow.
We are all different and one way will not work for another one dont give up trying to find your own way.
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Day 2. Feeling tired and disappointment in my relapse. But I know tomorow is a new day!
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Welcome back Andy
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