I LOVE the new positive name. 
It suits you much better!
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Checking in on day 48!
48 is not this nice round number, but itās 48 fā¬&@ing days that I havenāt touched a single drop!
Christmas is around the corner, I have a tense relationship with my dad, so for my own mental well-being Iāve decided to spend X-mas home alone instead of seeing my family. Itās gonna be tough, but Iām certainly done falling off the wagon! 48 and addingā¦ 
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Congratulations on making it to two weeks. When I started the book, I couldnāt put it down. I got through it in about 2 days. Before I was halfway through, I knew I was done. Thereās no going back knowing what I know now about porn. No cravings, no withdrawal pangs. @SelfLove_42 had the same experience as I.
The author, Fraser Patterson, wants to revise it. This is just his first draft and he takes a lot of his material from Allen Carrās book, The Easy Way to Stop Smoking. Iāve since read a couple of Allen Carrās book and Iām convinced that his EasyWay method works extremely well for me.
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Thank you so much Tracey!! 
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Congratulations on you effing 
48 days Jenny 
Thatās great!! Protect that sobriety date at all costs. Good move not seeing your Dad for Christmas. That must be a difficult but very important decision for you. And you wonāt be alone. Weāll be in your pocket if you need us. We got your back.
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Thanks, I learned the effing stuff from you, Eric! 
Yes, itās good to know yāall be in my pocket, gives me a lot peace of mind!
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I will try to finish the book as soon as possible.
Its very interesting.
And congrats on 53 days 
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1229 days alcohol free
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Late morning check in
Today has been good so far! Been at work since 8am. Been a busy shift. Lots of repetition and redirection and setting boundaries with my client today (she likes to grab and dig her nails into you and get into personal space). Normally this would cause stress but Iām looking at things differently today. Im grateful I can be a support for her. Grateful that I have a job. Grateful that I can be productive and alert and positive. I want to begin changing my outlook on life. My thinking effects my behavior and that effects my quality of life. I know the mind is very, very powerful. I see it and experience it daily when it comes to addiction (as Iām sure alot of us do). Iāve been thinking of my daily routine for this coming week:
- Prayer in the morning
- Exercise
- Online NA meeting at 11am
- Guided meditation
- Take care of my responsibilities
- Self care
- Prayer at night
- MOST IMPORTANT - Do not pick up
Anything else that anyone can think of to add that might be beneficial?
Monday I am going to work on my portable recovery tool kit. Need to get working on that too. Iām realizing that I need to incorporate Prayer and connection to my Higher Power. I want to build healthy habits. Itāll take some time but I need to set reminders each day so that I build that habit. Anyway, it is SO good to be back here again. Luv u all!!!
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Thank you so very much. I appreciate your prayers.
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Way to go Kevin!
54 ODAATs
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Checking in day 716
128 no xtra added sugar.
Iām not drinking today because:
I become powerless when the first drink hits my throat. I will do and say things that are full out insane.
Itās all about today.
If I donāt take a drink today then my day is good
Itās a simple formula.
And you just know I got to tell ya 
Iām probably not drinking tomorrow either.
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Day 65. Much love all
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Haha, just shoveled snow up here in MN! Must be nice!
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Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Good Evening, wherever you are in the world.
Iām in a more positive mood than usual today, why? Possibly because in 2 hours I will be at 21 days without so much as a sniff of alcohol. I once read that it takes 21 days to instil a new behaviour for it to become part of a routine. Well Iām glad this new behaviour of not drinking is going to be part of my daily routine.
I know it will continue to be a daily battle, temptation will be around me, the means to break the routine will be here and coming up to Christmas all you see is special offers on one drink or another. My headspace is presently set to if I never drink again I will be happy. Iām surprising myself at how loathing I am of alcohol, I donāt like seeing it, Iām glad, perhaps itās my Aspergers, Iāve always had the determination to be the best at everything I do and when I become determined or happy with how I am I donāt let that feeling go (probably how I became addicted to be fair).
Iām now in the happy determined state of being me, the me I set out to be, the happy dad, laughing and joking with his kids, the loving caring partner I set out to be for my superwoman, remembering what I have done, what I used to do and who I was.
A caring, compassionate man who isnāt afraid to be both tough but gentle, protective but nurturing, supportive but strong willed, determined yet relaxed. Iām comfortable with who I am again.
For the past 10 years I honestly donāt know where I stopped and my alcoholism began. I donāt remember where and when I got lost but somewhere on my path I did and now Iām finding my way again. Showing my sons how a man should be and how he should act and being the kind of man I would want my daughters to be with.
Would I have been happy if my daughters had been with a man like I was for the past 10 years, up to 3 weeks ago, never. Would I have wanted to throttle the bloke that drank all day, shirked responsibility, was selfish, rude, ignorant and generally just a poor partner and father. You bet I would. Would I have had a go at my sons if they had done some of the things I had done and behaved in the way I did up to 3 weeks ago, absolutely! Am I a hypocrite, I was but not anymore.
I actually feel like I did when I was 21, Iām listening more, learning who I am and with my health and fitness regimen Iām back to being somewhere near to where I was before. Iām fitter, faster and stronger than I have been for probably 15 years, getting fitter and stronger all the time. Iām back registered to fight in MMA, have a training plan in place and Iām competing again in 6 weeks time. Iām gonna kick someoneās ass as much as Iām kicking alcohol.
Anyway rant over, 21 days is where I am, life may have made me crack but thatās a sign of where it tried to break me and failed!
I am a success! So are you guys. You are all the heroās of your own stories. Writing the next chapter is the difficult part, but as long as you donāt keep reliving the last chapter you move on!
Love, best wishes, hugs, prayers and anything else anyone needs are being sent your way. If you need anything Iām here, no matter where you are in the world Iām only a message away!
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@Charlie_C I have 3 bathrooms and a kitchen you can get started on if youāre bored and looking for something to doā¦.just tell my missus it was me otherwise youād be inheriting her and Iām not sure anyone but me can handle her craziness!
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Yay! Beautiful, although, if you donāt mind me saying, youāve aged a little bit. 
Merry Christmas 
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This is SO inspiring Richard 
this is where I want to be! The day I can get to 21 days will be a frickin miracle! It IS possible and u are an amazing example of that!! Congratulations on ur 21 days! And yay!.. for doing MMA! Thatās awesome!
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