@Its_me_Stella you are very lucky to have an understanding Dr./psychiatrist. Mine is old school and takes the position that because I abused stimulants and meth I canāt be prescribed any ever again.
This despite diagnosed adhd and all 4 of my boys being on medication for adhd .
Hello folks Kat here checking in on Day 207
Doing well, struggling with motivation and drive but drinking second can of red bull and thatās getting better. May be able to do some cleaning and laundry soon.
Things are getting better Covid-wise, went to an in-person meeting yesterday afternoon and thereās another one tonight. And Monday and Tuesday nights! I am blessed. Like others I used to think that meetings were a boring chore that I resented āhavingā to do but now I love them. Relapses can change your attitude for the better I find.
Love Kat
ā¦ healing yourself first, to help others. Yes I need to take a leaf outta your book man 
. Thanks for being here you ,and everybody on Sober Time/Talking Sober 
Ending day 7
Morning everyone. Checking in on day 1 AGAIN. Iām so frustrated with myself. I feel like I have no self restraint and yet Iāve done it before. Recently itās been that I reset just about every 4th day. I could do with some tips. I know one of the first things I need to do is come back to this group as I really think initially when I had such success at sobriety it was due to the support on here. I feel so defeated and ashamed of how weak I amš
Welcome back Rikki.
Advice for new comers and constant relapsers
I hope to see you around more.
Thanks Eric. I certainly plan to show up more both here and for myself. 
Day 6ā¦ trying to occupy myself to make it to 7. This app is so encouraging.
Checking in
Day 13
Work is done! Walked to my bus and itās gorgeous out 
Going home to a hot meal. My hubby is an amazing cook so I always look forward to when he makes supper lol. Unlike myself where I could probably find a way to burn water lol 
Thought of a random blessing of recovery while getting on the bus. Since I have been clean for almost 2 weeks, I had the money to get a March bus pass. In the past I would manipulate my money or try to figure out ways to get drugs (which sometimes meant using the bus pass money and then desperately finding other ways to get me n hubby to work). I dont have that issue today. It may seem small but my god the things Id do for drug money ultimately caused so much stress! The drugs themselves were stressful but drugs also really effected all aspects of my life, big and small. Life is easier in so many ways not using. Yet drugs made me believe that I couldnāt function without them. What a lie! My life isnāt perfect by any means and some days I truly struggle but itās SO much easier without themā¦ in so many ways 
Thank you @Callie99 I appreciate the comment. I also just read what you wrote on that other thread. Hope youāre doing well, take care of yourself 
Just be wary,
You did right by flushing it out but for some god awful reason every time I replaced the elements in water heaters they leaked afterwards,
@Rockstar24777 Sending strength.
@anon57836609 I hear you, so scary.
@Kacialyn Such a lot to deal with! There are always peaks and troughs to life, and you gotta sit through the troughs. Sometimes all you can do is hide in a toilet.
@Cherrijam Day 4 is around when the physical effects are all gone, and you feel better enough to drink or use again. Ironically. Time to read some books, get to some meetings and get over the hump.
Hey @anon42928441 thank you for checking in
Iām doing okay today. Last night was just hard. I was up until 3 struggling to stay sober.
Itās just hard to tell if the depression Iāve been feeling is a symptom of recovery or a separate issue. My therapist has suggested I start thinking about medication but Iām trying to hold off on that for now.
Anyways, hope youāre doing well 
Iām glad to hear youāre doing well 
I hope whatever you decide you feel at peace with and know that your mental health matters so much. As someone who lives with depression and anxiety I can relate very much. Here for you girl 
This is such a good article on emotional invalidation. I was going to post it on the mental health thread, but I think it belongs here. 
Thanks menno and your absolutely right, Iāve known alot of you for going on a little over two years now. And you all are my ppl I love that
Ooo very interesting article. I will admitā¦ I have been on both ends. Being the natural helper that I am, I got into a bad pattern of trying to fix others. So when others would come to me upset, I would immediately try to fix it, instead of giving them the opportunity to talk and acknowledge their feelings. Iād try to immediately make them happy. But positive and negative feelings are not ābadā. And i used to think that there were ābadā feelings. Nowā¦ Iāve gotten into the habit of asking them, what do you need from me? Do you want someone to listen? Or would you like some suggestions? Instead of automatically trying to fix it and therefore coming across as if Iām dismissing their feelings (which im not but could be perceived as that).
Then Iāve been on the other end where i have felt dismissed. Sometimes a person will change the subject or tell me how I should feel (which is HUGE trigger for me and angers me instantly). Big ones are: I know how you feel? or You shouldnt frel that way? Itās very difficult for me to keep calm when thats said to me.
Everyoneās experiences are important to themselves. What may be traumatic for me, may not be for someone else and vice versa. So to tell someone, oh that wasnt that bad? or Why are you crying? (ā¦ this right hereā¦ grrrr) is super invalidating. Just cuz u donāt think it was awful or scary or whatever, doesnāt mean the other person feels that way. Emotional invalidation shuts people down and builds walls 
it used to shut me down and I lost my voice to speak up and acknowledge my feelings. Now itās the opposite where I get overly vocal about it when it happens. Itās a tough one for alot of us i think. Great read tho! Thank u for sharing 
Thank you for sharing Carolyn. I think itās an important message to create safe places for people to share their feelings. When we create those safe places we save lives. 