Checking in daily to maintain focus #39

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Gefeliciteerd Menno! Je hebt dit verdient,Ik ben zo ongelooflijk blij voor jou!

Thank you for sharing your journey every day, Thank you for being on TS, Thank you for being such a great inspiration.

Enjoy the feeling on this beautiful sunny day of being sober for 1000 days! Keep up the good work my friend!

:muscle::pray: :blue_heart:

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Fanfuckingtastic!! Huge Congratulations @Mno!!
So happy for you! Glad to be on this journey with you my friend. :heart:
sorry I’m late to your party

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Well I slept right through it😅. Thanks friend.

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Hey Chris - Sorry to hear about your ex’s diagnosis. I can really relate in that I have had a tumultuous relationship with my ex and mum of my kids for a lot of the last 6 years we’ve been separated - it’s made for a tumultuous life! It’s hard to know how to feel sometimes because on one hand what’s best for her is good for your kids but on the other hand being separated and having a volatile relationship puts you at odds and in conflict with one another which makes it hard to want the best for one another. It’s a pretty hard cognitive dissonance to deal with when obviously you feel pretty strongly about your kids welfare etc. I guess it depends on how much you want to be in your kid’s lives. Once I started to accept the separation I enjoyed having the kids on my own terms to raise them how I saw fit. I also enjoyed the freedom when I didn’t have them. Now things have changed and I’m staying with my kids and their mum and so we are getting along better but then I also have to tow the line a bit and have lost a lot of freedom. But being sober has made it all possible and it’s better for all of us in the long run.
Cool to hear you got some music leads to go with! Enjoy the journey!

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Checking in day 65.
First drinking dreams last night - I was having a blast out on the town and experienced an eventful long walk home riffing with various characters and whatnot but then it took a turn and things started getting aggressive and then the violence broke out, some guy was in a headlock, i threw a beer can - - and then I woke up relieved.
I’ve been drinking to excess for up to 25 years - it was fun at first and a lot of the time but looking back it also reeked so much havoc and senseless destruction on my life - all the bad things I can trace back to alcohol in one way or another. No more for me thanks.
Having said that I was really craving after work today, but it wasn’t too hard to resist

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@Mno @SoberWalker thank you both :blue_heart: I love both of your photos of these beautiful purple flowers that I’ve never seen before :heart_eyes: thank you both for making me smile :blush:
@ShadowFax I’m glad you’re feeling better :blue_heart: have a great hiking trip :grinning:
@Luckyredz I’m glad you’re starting to feel better :pray:t2::blue_heart:
@anon53116147 your passion is real, I can feel it when I read your posts about tattooing, or new ink, and this new machine that sounds awesome, listen to and trust the voice that says ‘never.give up’. :pray:t2::blue_heart:
@Soul_Man congrats on 60 days :tada:
@Butterflymoonwoman I’m glad your husband is getting the dental treatment he needs, but yikes that sounds so painful! :cry:
@MrCade thank you for your gratitude :raised_hands:t2::blue_heart:
@Tragicfarinelli sending strength :blue_heart: good luck at the dentist :tooth::pray:t2::four_leaf_clover:
@Cherry_Kisses congrats on 30 days :tada:

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@DTC52 sending strength :pray:t2::blue_heart:
@Mno wow, great share! Thank you :blush: congrats on quadruple digits :tada::star2::birthday::trophy:

570 days no alcohol.
35 days no cocaine.
12 days no binge-eating.

Fell asleep before I had chance to actually type my check-in last night. So here I am in the morning again.

Yesterday was the first full day of having coffee in my flat for over a year. I had 5 iced coffees, I make them black, with sugar free caramel syrup, the same as what I’d been having from Starbucks. I don’t know if 5 is too many? Especially since caffeine has an opposite effect on me than most people, but I really like them and just want more and more, so will have to keep an eye on it and decide if it’s work buying more when this supply runs out.

I was very scared yesterday, depression hit me like a tonne of bricks, I felt suicidal, I knew I wouldn’t harm myself because of the thought of abandoning my cats, but I really wanted to escape how I was feeling, it was really awful. I forced myself out for a very slow walk around the lake, hoping it might release some happy chemicals, it didn’t, but it did get me out of my head for nearly an hour. After the walk I fell into an even darker place, I tried to call the doctors but they don’t open late on Thursdays so there were no appointments left. I messaged with my online friend, and also ordered my groceries for delivery today, and that distracted me enough to get through until the Zoom meeting last night, and then after that I felt a lot more stable, came here to check-in, and fell asleep.

Today so far, I feel okay, and I am so proud of myself for not using substances or binge-eating when I really wanted to yesterday. :raised_hands:t2:

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Sorry to hear you had a bad day yesterday. I been there lately - it sucks! Congrats on staying strong
 hope things work out and you get to stay in your flat.

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Sorry to hear about your bad day, and you should be very proud of yourself :blush: It sounds like you worked very hard to manage that and put things in place. Well done :clap:

Hope today is a better day for you.

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So beautiful
would love to order one fory daughters birthday coming up on April?

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So glad you here Cam checking in reaching out. So glad you used positive tools ie walking
chatting with friends rather then use. This is progress although I know some days it doesn’t feel like it

This community is here for you and rooting for you always .

Better day. Hugs my friend.:hugs:

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Friday. Feeling energized. Yoga in the am really helps with this balance. Greatful first week of back to work is in the books
more confident and relaxed.

Looking forward to a nice weekend with my children. The weather is supposed to be not freezing
I believe +3 so that’s a good thing.:blush:

Serene strong and sober 24 all
:purple_heart::pray:t4:

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Good morning everyone. Checking in on day 196. Feeling great today, just can’t wait for the warm mush weather to get here, any day now. Take care all.

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Big hugs. You are doing all the right things, reaching out, taking a walk, getting on a meeting.
I wish I had an easy fix for u. But I don’t think there is one. I just have faith ur work will pay off eventually.

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Day 570
Had a good talk with my son’s soon-to-be Junior High School. They were attentive and seem flexible to his needs. Much relief.
Worked on a book review as I should have publications for work. Academic writing doesn’t come naturally. Trying to enjoy the challenge and not feel inadequate.
Watched Encanto with the kids. Laughed out loud a few times.
Tried to be present in my life, but the fear of WW3 breaking out was never far from my mind.

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Imposter syndrome, every academic I know seems to have it. I really don’t miss that, or the staring at the screen hoping for inspiration. I have noticed my brain is twitching for research though recently


Loved Encanto, could barely follow all the characters but keep singing all the songs.

I am having to limit my access to the news. Feel it is my responsibility to check in and read some of it to stay well informed, but 24 hour news is not good for me. Have had to disable the news alerts on my phone as they kept sending “breaking news”.

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I stopped watching 24 hour news channels after the elections in 2020. I cut cable and can’t even watch local news now, which I miss. I follow The Daily podcast and get 20-30 minutes of what going on with that. 24 hour news channels do more harm to society than good, like a lot of social media. Just my thoughts on this as I think people are really struggling with the situation in Ukraine

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Checking in on Day 27. Has been a really exhausting week, but I helped myself by not having alcohol last night to keep me going. Woke up really tired today but I know that it wasn’t because of anything I have done so feeling like I can be kind to myself. Hoping to have a restful weekend and get back on track.

Hope everyone has a great day. Looking forward to a sober weekend, it always feels like I have gained more hours now!

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Yes I would agree, have had to limit a lot before now, but being really strict with myself is the only way. I have been off social media for over a week now too, hadn’t made the connection until you said it, but just can’t face it.

People have already faced so much with covid and now this. I really worry for everyone’s mental health.

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Hi. Not a good night. My granddaughter was admitted to the hospital and then transferred downtown to a special children’s hospital PICU. I almost lost it last night. I am waking up sober and am very grateful for that.

Have an awesome sober day my friends!

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