Hi Cassi, I’m sorry you feel like crap. I also thought, hey, when I make 30, things will turn around. It hasn’t. I still struggle with everything I struggled with before, but sober, so I remember or think about it more. Ive thought, why bother, just drink again.
Well, where would that get me, probably a much shorter life the way I was. No chance of feeling anything real. No chance of changing my outlook, myself or my life. So today, I’m not planning on drinking, just for today. I don’t know what tomorrow will bring. I hope you will join me, we can be miserable and sober together!
Sober is definitely the better approach, if anything it’ll just turn everything I’m feeling up to 11. Misery loves company, I’m down for a miserable and sober day! With a side of Harry Potter and a few too many snacks
I was seriously thinking of a donut and ice cream for breakfast. I know you went thru a breakup too, so that turns it up even more. These days, focus only on you, for a better you, for you. You’re worth it!!
Hello guys. Day 47 for me. Really tired today. Gonna eat, watch ms marvel then going to bed.
@Lovelyoutlook Hey, the days are going fast. It feels like yesterday was 21 days for you.
Congrats on reaching 30 days. Its a big milestone. Keep up the good work. Proud of you.
I opted for a frozen poptart, didn’t even know freezing them was an option until I read the box lol the breakup is kind of taking over, so wish I could fast forward all of this process lol but oh well; gotta think of it like healing a broken bone, it won’t happen over night. Thank you for your replies and company on this now slightly less miserable day
They did last night, but I woke up feeling gnarly again.
I know this sounds hypocritical, but I absolutely hate being around drunks. You have every right to be grumpy!
When I got my place, I spent the first three nights using a pile of dirty clothes as a mattress. Could’ve been longer than that, but one of my MH workers went outside of his official duties to help move all my stuff out of storage. I didn’t mind though: nothing beats having your own space, even if you’re sleeping on the floor.
@Rockstar24777 Glad you’re feeling better! But 3:30am? Seriously?
@Mindymoo I shove mine in the spare room and sleep with ear plugs and can still hear him.
Reminds me of an ex-girlfriend. Back when I was just a weekend drinker, I would sometimes stay at her place after a night with the guys. And she hates the smell of alcohol. She told me once, “If you come home smelling like that one of us is going to sleep on the couch. And it’s my apartment”.
Received, and understood.
I’d love to volunteer at the animal shelter. I’ve been told the best way to stop feeling sorry for yourself is to help someone else. And I have a great way with animals, especially dogs. I’m in a situation though where I have to make employment my highest priority.
I’ll check back in here in a few minutes… gotta run an errand.
I used to volunteer at a local animal shelter as a dog walker and in the cat room to socialize them. The dog walking could be tough, they had a very hilly back lot and it was rare to find a dog there that was good on a leash . There were a lot of pit mixes. I did end up bringing home another dog and it least 1 cat. I had to stop volunteering, it was hurting me physically and I didn’t have room for any more.
You do want to take them all home. The most we had at once was 2 large dogs and 4 cats.
But doing it was very rewarding and sad. They had tickets on their cages of how many days it’s been since they’re were out walking around. So you tried to find the longest one that wouldn’t bite your face off if you opened their crate.
I’m pretty sure I got on a lot of people’s last nerve when I was drinking, but I don’t remember.
As far as the animal shelter, I haven’t started yet, but I know I’m going to lay down on the floor and pile puppies all over me. Best therapy ever! As far as keeping a pet, I’m thinking guinea pig, like @Piglet86 .
Mark, you may be kidding yourself with your animal shelter dream. Unless it’s different by you. Puppies are always the 1st to get adopted, there’s usually not many if at all. A lot of the dogs in shelters have been abandoned or abused. Volunteers often help to socialize them, to help them get ready so someone will adopt them. It can be very sad, the one I volunteered at, had 200 dogs, 100 in each hallway that leads outside. The noise is loud and the smell can be nasty. But we took them one at a time, and got them out in the fresh air. Some were so sweet, others only wanted to run. They had colored dots on their tickets. Green was easiest, very few greens. Yellow was intermediate and red was for experienced volunteers only.
A man can dream, can’t he? I am aware that shelter work has it’s downside, but I just love animals and I think I’d be good at it. Cool thing about dogs is that they can tell if you’re a dog person. Seriously. I’ve had total stranger’s dogs just walk up to me and want to cuddle. I really wish I had recorded this dog Sophie. She was just over the top friendly.
Hello. Checking in, still clean. I wasn’t feeling the greatest and I took an at home Covid test and came up positive. I have managed to dodge being sick since Covid happened… it caught up to me. Anyway I get 5 days in quarantine and I can go back out to work if my other at home test is positive. I just have a sore throat and I am really tired… I have video DBT from 1-3 and I just want to sleep but I missed the last 2 weeks so I have to be there. Anyway, I am going to stay clean and I was having all of these flashback thoughts of my use and cravings when I was laying in bed. I definitely keep myself busy so I don’t have to think but now I can’t escape it. I hope I recover soon and thanks for listening.
Day 44 here, hanging in there. Recently had a first in being completely open about my struggles with people in my life by way of a social media post. Sounds dumb but the wave of support I received was exactly what I needed right now and something I definitely did not expect. I think people are usually better than I give them credit for, myself included. Still trying to get on a more structured routine that includes exercise and eating better and I get frustrated with myself when I don’t follow through on that but I am constantly reminding myself to be patient with and nice to myself. It’s a struggle lol hope everyone here is having a great sober day!
Checking in, at 195 days. 195 days with no drinking. Amazing. Having hard time at work, we are to short with people, so its hard days. I have the Day off tomorrow, and I need it. Its my daugthers birthday so it will not be just relaxe Day, but still off work. And Im happy to spend the Day with her. Sunday will be last Day st work before 3 week summer hollyday, cant wait!
Hey thanks. In the beginning the days seemed long and never ending but now they seem short. I sometimes feel I don’t have enough time during the day. Feels great tho to have so much to do in a day. Especially the self care part. Gym, a walk a run. Feels fantastic. You keep going to my friend.
I know you went thru a breakup too, so that turns it up even more. These days, focus only on you, for a better you, for you. You’re worth it!! 
