I think it’s important to be confident in your choice not to drink. I had to say many times last night I don’t need alcohol to have fun, and no I don’t want it. And I didn’t feel like I was missing out. But early on in my sobriety, I definitely felt like I needed alcohol so I stayed away from the social functions until I didn’t feel that intense craving anymore.
Just remember you don’t have to go, if it means it will put your sobriety at risk. At the beginning you can definitely say no. I know I had to for a while.
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Thanks Brian. Yeah, you are very right. Grief is a strange beast and it effects us all differently. My kids are riding this one a lot different to me and my husband. It’s shattered us. And my husband is the most upset, because he feels guilty too. It’s just awful. I appreciate your support 
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Congrats on 90 days Brian- you should be so proud. And you look so damn happy. This is awesome 🥲
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Funny thing is I am not worried about drinking, I am done with that. Worried that my friend won’t understand. Our friendship has gone through a rough patch the last couple of months. But we used to be close so he will prob come around.
Ps. Thanks for your encouragement!
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Congratulations on your 90 days Brian.
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Exactly man, I kept saying don’t worry bout what’s in my cup. I’m fine, but they wouldn’t let up.
I’m sorry you can’t go to the party. But I’m sure you can find something that feels a lot better than people ripping on you for not drinking.
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This is very insightful … a great analogy
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It’s also my 13 year wedding anniversary today, but my husband is unwell so unfortunately we don’t be having a meal out as we planned.
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90 days!! Great work… you look happy and have every right to be. Enjoy a sober Saturday!
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Well done mate! Congratulations to 90 sober days! 
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Congratulations Brian, 3 months down! That’s great!
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Coffee. Weekend. Had a good couple of days working even if they were busy. This morning looks like a perfect one to ride my 
a bit. No shopping, just me, my bike and the road. Sober and clean.
Have as good a days as you all can friends. Make it clean and sober or nothing will come of it. Love from my balcony.
@Alycia @ @Brian @Mindymoo You’re all strong. And it’s sad. People drinking and pushing drinks on us are either jealous we stopped, or are feeling guilty because of our sobrieties. They’re the real ‘in the closest’ problem drinkers. With or without knowing it. Normal people, drinking or not, would be proud and happy and supportive of our sobrieties. Or indifferent at the very least, and certainly wouldn’t be pushing us to drink. I am sure there’s enough of those folks too. And for the rest: keep leading by example. You’re all doing great!
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#Day 1403 
Survived the wedding sober. Saw a lot of drunk people and I felt sorry for one lady who could hardly stand on her feet. People around her made fun of her. I hope she arrived home safely.
But despite that I had a lot of fun chatting with people and dancing. My 2 kids where there too and looked sharp in their party clothes. I felt proud 
It was also the day my mom died 17 years ago. Still light a candle for her almost every morning. There is some of her ashes inside of this petrified wood rock.
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Lovely way to start 90. What a beautiful place to walk!
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Sounds like bliss tbh. Why don’t you make a list of films you never got around to watching, maybe old classics. Cook a new recipe?
Sounds lovely however. Peace and quiet.
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Day 305 checking in hope everyone is well
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Good morning… First days of the school holidays let the fun commence or the madness or abit of both 
it’s early days but I’m putting no expectations on myself, but I’m determined definitely keeping it simple so tired of living in my head. Love too u all:heart: apologies that was for an open topic and I sent it too you been awhile since I’ve been here.
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Good morning sun shines
It’s almost 6am here in Massachusetts USA
Im the only one awake at home and decided to viset here to read, learn and post a bit
Im on full day 109 on day 110
I never really knew which one to go with
The full day or the day to the tee ?
I hate hot coffee latley
I’ve been drinking energy mio water enhancers and thismorning they are doing amazing
I moved my room around with my feonce and I love it
Saving up some money for a new place for us also
Have a good day everyone
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Thank you! I’m going to try and not put so much pressure on myself to get it all perfect.
I’m glad that teaching is going well for you and you have this exciting upcoming event for your son. I hope it all goes well. You seem to be in a really good place.
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