Morning all. Checking in. Just working and than hopefully a slow semi normal day after that, which I’m good with. @I.cant.We.can glad you came back. Probably see you on the all sports thread in a couple weeks.
. Have a great day all.
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Oh @Thirdmonkey, what a #!! 1600 days is amazing!!! What a journey you are on. So so so happy to be along beside you!! Congratulations!!!
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Checking in. Starting day 2 and feeling good after a rough night. Let’s do this, everyone!
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Congratulations!
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Thank you! 
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Day 22
Well today marks day 22, things are looking up got a new job offer as a security supervisor. The pay raise will be nice for saving for the baby. Killing it in the gym and what not, no urges to drink or anything so that’s good, S/O is starting to play the wowe is me card again , think I’m seeing a pattern here since she doesn’t want to take accountability for her actions. But I guess things are getting better in that aspect. Another day on the path to success have a good one everyone !
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Thank u for saying this 
they are really impactful moments for us, even tho they are small things. He used to be so set in his ways and responded sort of the same way all the time (usually stressed and annoyed). Using obviously does not make relationships better. But since we’ve been clean I have noticed changes in him and myself. And I let him know that I’m seeing these changes like this morning he accidentally cut me off while talking… and he apologized for it and said what I have to say is important 
like… who are u?.. and what did u do with my husband? Haha bcuz he never used to say those things. So make sure that I acknowledge those things and respond to them we still have our disagreements but they are so less tense and they don’t nearly last as long as they used to. It is definitely 1 of the many motivators for staying on the right path.
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amazing to hear. thanks for sharing Dana! real progress! I am also on this journey with my partner who has his own addiction and is coming up on a year clean next week. recently I have noticed how we have started to swing again and things are now really moving along. like, it’s like two recoveries in constant contact with one another. two ppl who used to be so hurting and so lost, slowly, finally, remarkably growing up alone and together. it’s pretty fantastic. (we do also still fight and I regularly curse him out and think about how we need to end things, but hey, that’s all part of the process!) love is great.
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Thanks I appreciate that, and yes I did face time them after Addie had a great first day.
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Awe thank you lady I have my moments where I sort realize a few things haha recovery is amazing isn’t it? I used to be aftaid of what Id do with my time since I wiot drugs and honestly recovery really opens up the world to us! The possibilities and the challenges and interactions with others. It really has made me realize how much I have missed in over 2 decades. I’m not going to beat myself up over “all the things I missed out on” but I am grateful that at 37 yrs old I am able to experience these things. I’m so incredibly proud of u also! I hear u on the addictive aspect of TS. When I first came on here I was glued to it lol. Ur right, it’s not a bad thing per say but ur morning routine and meditation etc is extremely important also! Finding balance in recovery is hard sometimes I think lol anyway, have a great day lady
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Oh wow! I had no idea that u had a partner also who is in recovery! This is incredible to hear! It’s nice to know that there are other couples who are doing well in recovery and still together. I do think it’s possible, even tho way back when in one of my treatments they said the chances of a “using couples” staying together without bringing each other down, is rare. But thats one persons opinion. There are the extra challenges tho for sure (as opposed to doing recovery as a single person) I think. That’s so exciting for ur partner to be celebrating 1 year clean! Congratulations to them!
What u said about growing up alone and together… was said perfectly. It very much is a growing process alone AND together. I feel like I am learning about him all over again, or maybe even for the first time really. Bcuz we met and used our DOC the same day and that’s sort of carried on thruout our relationship. So without the drugs creating a fog of who a person is, it’s almost like we are re-learning each other also. But it’s been good! I’m glad u both are experiencing positive things also in ur relationship!
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So I bought my ticket to Belfast this week for March! The baby is due March 16 so I’m hoping the timing is right. I can’t help thinking how none of this would be as beautiful without sobriety. 26 months and I’ve never regretted the decision to never drink again 
I hope my Irish Grandbaby is ok with an American granny 
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Oh this is soo exciting!!! Really happy and excited for u 
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Huge congratulations to u!!!
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Super stoked Dana!!! We need a grandbaby pic thread so I can flood it
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You’ll have some stiff competition there Me-maw 
Congratulations! I get to meet Norma Friday. Sober!
So excited.
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Day 1
Good morning. I’m so embarrassed that I keep relapsing. I make it only 1 or 2 days and then I drink again. Im still managing ok and haven’t completely over done it but I still feel awful and regretful. Interrupted sleep, upset stomach, foggy in the morning, Not my regular self.
I have not been doing what I need to do to get through this perhaps because I haven’t wanted it enough but I do now.
I’m going to check in every morning and every evening and I’m going to label which day it is for more accountability.
I’ve been thinking about doing this for a while but I’ve been so ashamed that I keep having to put day 1 and I’m scared that I won’t make it past day 3, but I’m not going to think that far ahead.
I’ll be checking in tonight as soon as I have that craving and before I have my first drink.
Glad you are still here and haven’t given up on me♥️
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I know how it feels to miss that day. I took my kiddo to her first days of school but I don’t remember them. It might not feel like it, but you are doing right by Addie today and everyday you work on you. You will be able to be present for her and be a great father, not a father that is stuck in active addiction or just surviving on sheer willpower.
I’m really proud of you, just go back to minute by minute if today feels too painful. That’s how we do it so we get through the tough things.
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