Checking in daily to maintain focus #47

I’m sorry you’re going through a hard time, super proud of you for staying sober!!! :sunglasses::metal:t2:

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Stay strong, weed was the hardest to quit for me. I know it’s supposed to be alcohol, but not for me. The only easiest thing is that it’s still illegal where I live and since I left Paris I couldn’t find it or smell it everywhere. It helped me a lot. Alcohol, on the other hand is everywhere, of course. But it’s doable, I did it :face_with_hand_over_mouth:

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I saw you posted something similar the other day and I wanted to say it really inspired me to try that! If I can just get what I can get done in 15 min it won’t be so overwhelming, thank you for sharing this!!! :sunglasses::metal:t2:

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Hi Daniel your post really struck a chord in me. I felt like you were telling my story. I also felt like this for so many years of my life and I abused substances to get by. I see that you have been going to therapy but I wonder what type of therapy you have been doing. I had also been doing different types but it wasnt until I did DBT (Dalectic Behavior Therapy) that I was able to really benefit and step out of the shell of a person I had become.
I know how hard it was for me to self advocate when I felt my worst. Do you still see a therapist and if you havent tried DBT maybe ask for direction towards a DBT therapist/group?
I can feel the pain and loneliness through your words and I remember it so well. You are definitely not alone in feeling that way I felt that way for many years of my life and now finally at 48 I feel better. Try to stay as connected as you can through this forum, I know its not the same but I definitely feel cared for and genuinely loved by people here. You can too.

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Hello everyone. I was struggling for a couple of hours from 2.30pm today (friday). I really wanted to go to the pub. I thought id go and see ‘friends’ . I then realised that this is just a craving and is my addiction in action. I sat and thought do i really want to go into town and see so and so ( i can tell you now who will be in where they are sat and what they are talking about) so that was a no and it passed. Then a few moments later I thought ‘I need’ to go see a guy in the pub about an allotment, before i knew it I was half way there. I then thought what the hell am I doing! I can see him at the allotments in the morning.Again this was my addiction at work. I turned around and came home all the while thinking about what people have said to me on here all week. If people are prepared to offer me advice and not give up on me then i am happy to take that advice and put it into action.
It is a good feeling knowing you are putting into practice what youve learned through reading and coming on here.
This is an important psychological victory for me and I am so bloody pleased with myself. I feel elated.
Thank you all
:muscle::full_moon_with_face::raising_hand_man:

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Day one after getting a really good sleep.Im feeling alot better today im going to stay busy and push through. Even know im on call all weekend Fridays are always a hard day…I pray i can say NO today. Have a good day everyone

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Bravo!!! Good catch on your addiction trying to trick you into going somewhere that would be tempting.

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Day 335AF

Happy Friday everyone!

Nothing much going on. Watched the football game last night. Went for a long walk. Staying busy with work and the kids.

Still fighting the good fight.

Have a great day/night yall!

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Woohoo!!! Great job on your 11 months!!!

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Day 56 sober from alcohol

Loooong day at work, hairdresser :haircut_woman:t2: afterwards and grocery shopping at the Asia market :ideograph_advantage: (stocked up protein foods… Found some frozen vegan beef from soya and vegan lamb from mushrooms… Excited to try it, furthermore I buyed 2 sorts of vietnamese fish balls and 3 kinds of tofu,… Fresh coriander and some rice noodle snack, yippie yeah!) :star_struck:

Now I am lying on bed asking myself what it needs today… I think I need a rest evening with a soup and selfcare.

I established these moments really sitting or lying down, asking myself what it needs now… Not hurrying from one point to another, forgetting myself and my needs. :panda_face:

Work was busy but productive and nice.
I earned some compliments from colleagues to my positive appearance and to my outfits
:face_with_hand_over_mouth::star_struck::sunglasses:… Very welcome!

My mood is… Very positive, falling in love with life and myself… Sobriety IS my new high!

Sending free hugs, ease, peace…
and love… :cherry_blossom::revolving_hearts::revolving_hearts:
Take care and stay sober :v:t2::muscle:t2:

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Thank you I appreciate the effort and advice. I will try to post here more often and build connections. Hopefully that will help the loneliness some and that can help in other aspects

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Thank you . I have a lot of catching up to do But I have nothing but time right now. Trying to find things to be grateful for even if simple.

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I’m just taking things easy today. Making sure to take care of the basics. Trying to put this behind me but learn from my mistakes. I’m going to keep my mind occupied today on the positives. Thank you for reaching out. Hope you’re having a good day

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That’s awesome. Congrats on your 11 months

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Thank you. It means a lot that people on here are sympathizing and saying they can relate. It’s unfortunate that anyone can relate but it makes me feel a little less crazy. I’m overwhelmed by these feelings and don’t know what to do with them. I don’t feel there’s anyone in my life I’m close enough with to talk about it. I feel purposeless, alone, just so much and I know it’s supposed to be one day at a time but the big picture is overwhelming, especially when you feel like you’ve either been treading water and sinking deeper now for years, and nothing seems to help.

Just increased the dose on my medication, I think maybe it’s done a little for anxiety and maybe the higher dose will do something more. I’ve tried several meds already and it’s been a rough ride, but I guess I’ll keep trying them.

Hard to stay occupied or find any purpose right now so thank you, this forum already helps.

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Thank you, really

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Best way to wake up!! Strong work!

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Got this thought in from my mind today inspired by some of butch’s endless motivation and meditation thread. Its helping me get through a pretty ruthless day without feeling too strung out.

“Keep your higher power tight to you
and your stress will be light on you!”

  • me, kdog just said that shit!

Lol take care yall. Hope you feel nothing but light today.

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It is a never ending gift to us all. :slightly_smiling_face::heart:

Ps…think Butch got auto corrected?

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Nice!!! Well done!!

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