Thanks so much for the sympathy. Logically I can understand it, the house is small, probably not enough bedding for 4 more people. If they had said ‘come for dinner, but then just husband and kids stay’ I would have to cycle home in the cold. That couple do not get on and often just the husband does something with the kids, or just the wife. So maybe for them it is natural. And there is usually a bigger gathering of all siblings at parents in law house that I will go to later next year. I have never been drunk at a family gathering, prefered my lonely drinking in front of the computer, although the sisters know a bit of what went on as husband talked to them. Anyway, have messaged a friend who does not have a Japanese husband so is not going to be busy doing New Years stuff, and hopefully we can get dinne/drinks. We used to get drunk together lots, she is a normie, I just encouraged her, and I have not told her about my sobriety. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade, quite literally, as that will be what I am drinking this time.
@Trustybird I am sure in the future as he trusts you more you can have birthdays together. Blueberry cobbler sounds yum.
wow what an absolute dick move. I am speechless. does everyone in your in-law family find this normal? super rude. hope your husband and kids insist you come or stay home with you.
sorry about the meds as well. maybe you can try other ones if they were helping.
hugs
EDIT just saw your reply. good on you for being proactive.
(it’s still a shitty thing to do.)
Changed my name. It was just too depressing to read every morning when I’m trying to start the day positive. Work is stressing me out with a lot of adult drama. People just stirring up instead of handling situations like adults.
A lot of great check ins, so congrats everyone on another sober free day.
He ended up not having to use his contingency plans. We had a delicious dinner out and will have a quiet night at home. Sobriety helps me be trusty and trustworthy.
@waywardwanderer This is sucha beautiful song it really does help when you’re feeling down. Thanks for the share
@Juli1 I just wanted to say I always enjoy your posts you have sucha refreshing perspective on things and your strength really does give myself and I’m sure others strength. Thanks for sharing and being so vulnerable xo
@Luna2022 love that you chose to have a more positive outlook with your name its the little things that really do add up to our overall perspective
Checking in:
1 month 11 days alcohol free
21 days smoke free
Today was tough emotionally, I was all over the place and definitely had some terrible thoughts but didn’t act on anything. Pushed through and did not use which I am actually proud of myself for. It would have made things easier short term but more difficult in the long run. Going to bed early today so I’m as refreshed as I can be for work tomorrow. Work is always a trigger but going to try to start the day with a positive attitude and see where it gets me. Wishing everyone the best in their own recovery. It’s not easy but it’s worth it. Gotta keep reminding myself of this.
Thank you, that meant a lot. I hope things at work gets less stressing for you. Everyone says leave the job at the doors when you clock out, but that is never as easy as that. Mine triggers me as well. And it’s not the job itself, the job is great, it’s the people I work with.
Just For Tonight I will be grateful. I will give thanks for the past day - it’s failures as well as it’s successes. It’s sadness as well as it’s joys and it’s pain as well as it’s pleasure. I will take comfort in knowing that every event and circumstance that occurred today can be used for my good and the good of others.
Just For Tonight in Al-Anon
Keep up the good fight people. We’re all worth it.
My second year of recovery was harder than my first. In my second year of recovery I finally had to come face to face with myself. There was no more hiding behind drugs, booze, sex, video games… you name it. Although it was the hardest for me, it was also the year I had the most personal growth. It was the year I forgave myself, it was the year I started to love myself. It was also the year that I really started to see who was underneath all of the armor I had worn. Recovery is not an easy ride, I did not get this way because I am a well individual.
And you are right every day you are fighting, so am I, its what we do so we dont suffer anymore. Letting go of things takes practice, you will most likely need to let go of the things that you have emotional attachment to over and over again. Try to practice patience and compassion with yourself, I have found the less I berate myself for things the easier I can let things go.
I am glad you shared where your heads at. Big hugs.
Checking in is needed.
I have 2 phones one has all the vidoes and pictures of my daughter that i will never get back and the phone is starting to pack up. So i have been trying for days to transfer the pics and videos also of my son when he was younger too to my laptop it just isnt doing it.
I have managed yo get some onto onedrive but how i save them to the laptop i just have no idea.
And there isn enough space on one drive which is why i need to save and then delete and upload more then repeat.
I decided my laptop is slow and old and i will buy a memory stick with 2tb and take both the phones to my sister’s on xmas day and hope her apple pc will mamage to get them all on the memory stick.
Making me worry the phone wont last.
Also last night the trauma nightmares feeling like im reliving the whole crap again, and then in my dream i had a pack of the strongest drinks and was planning to drink them and surprisingly in my dream i logged on here to tell you all i was about to become a failure to myself and that i cant do it anymore. But every time i logged in i thought no i can’t go ahead with this looking at the drink. TS/all of you helped me even in the dream realm.
The only positive i take from this is that TS is engrained in my sobriety and even in my dreams my brain knows your all here, and in my dream its like its wired into me now this makes me happy.
Thank you all for being here with me on our journey and for sharing yours too.
Only i can access photo’s on one drive '? I have absolutely no idea what im doing.
My new phone i treated myself to was delivered a few days ago, and last time moved the sim card and whatsapp i lost lots of pics so trying to not make the same mistake.
Then once i have everything saved i can clear my 2 old phones to reset so they can be passed on.
@Misokatsu Im sorry to hear about your family situation.
If this was me id tell my family meaning yourself your husband and kids that your all a family and should be spending it together, that you feel its very hurtfull you have not been invited and feel you should all stay home and you will make a celebration dinner and stick together.
I hope your okay x and even invite them all but tell your husband your his family and are hurt inside that he would even consider going without you. I also dont understand the dynamics as every family is different and cultures too. Sending you some healing love and hugs
I’m sorry you’re having a tough time twizz. If I was any good with technology I’d try and help but I suck with TB and all that stuff . I just know memory cards of some sort help and transferring them. And yes those days of not feeling so good do to feelings, and nightmares are not pleasant. I know you know I am, and many more here are always here for you. You are a very caring person and are great at reaching out to everyone new and old. You are an inspiration in my recovery and have reached out to me when I would relapse along with others that I am grateful for. I’m glad you are reaching out we love you twizz please message me if you ever need to talk. ( Big hugs)
Thank you
I am okay im learning the dreams are my brain tryinf to heal in its own way.
The phone situation im sure my younger sister can do in minutes so il stop now.
Going for a swim later and just waiting in for some deliveries so prob just eat and watch some films. and mess arnd with the new phone without sim in.
Luckily most of the time i can get passes the dreams affecting my whole day.
Thank you for your support.
I also havent been to mertings for a while and i think im ready to start the steps too.
Im so proud of you for going for it and putting so much effort into it. This is what i feel i need to do. Have a lovely day
Morning,
Starting day 267, feeling strong.
I’m putting off getting up, its really icy and foggy outside and it’s my day to take the dog. I’ll drink my tea then go.
You can send one drive links to other people.
Twizzle glad you’re here and glad you find strength here … you give so much strength to others. Tech problems esp when it involves moving precious things like family pics is stressful. Hang in. Big hugs. Glad you feel better today.
Edit. Twizzie! Have fun in the snow! Stay warm.
up instead of handling situations like adults.
. I just know memory cards of some sort help and transferring them. And yes those days of not feeling so good do to feelings, and nightmares are not pleasant. I know you know I am, and many more here are always here for you. You are a very caring person and are great at reaching out to everyone new and old. You are an inspiration in my recovery and have reached out to me when I would relapse along with others that I am grateful for. I’m glad you are reaching out we love you twizz please message me if you ever need to talk. ( Big hugs)
and mess arnd with the new phone without sim in.