Glad your dad is in safe hands now. Hope they can find the cause of his pain and can help him.
Good of you to keep going with your walking and meditation! How are your feet doing today?
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#Day 1628 
Our new old cat is adjusting bit by bit.
Itās fun to have our house filled again with catstuff.
Most of the time she lives behind the curtains but yesterday evening she dares to sit on the couch for 5 minutes
Today? Work.
See you tomorrow! All good here, hope you are doing fine too! 
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Day 154
I had a horrible dream last night. And if you know me a tiny bit then you know, I believe in such stuff.
So I canceled the date. And guess what? The guy started bitching around why I cancel? He was very upset.
He doesnāt take a No for an answer. This kind of guys arenāt a good match 
The feeling I had, the fearā¦it was fear, not excitement.
I did the right thing.
Now off to the hairdresser 
Iāll come back here later but I HAD to write this down first.
Have a beautiful sober day friends and stay strong 
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Getting irrationally angry about a cancelled first date is a HUGE red flag. Well done for listening to your gut.
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He then replied with a more calm answer and good wishes. But the first reaction said it all.
Gut feeling for real, is the best indicator if something or someone is okay or not.
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Sheās in the open! Baby steps 
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Yeah, people get sick, things come up, whatever. Not that I know, but I HEAR in this day and age, being stood up, ghosting, etc, are very common, so a message to cancel is actually on the good side. He of course might be disappointed, but getting so agitated about it and says a lot. How would such a person react to other things not going their way?
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As a woman, I wholeheartedly disagree. When men canāt handle their emotions and react with anger at a cancelled date, itās a red flag because thatās the kind of shit that puts women in danger of actual physical harm.
And the idea of seeing it from his perspective and giving outbursts a pass is how women end up in abusive relationships. His emotions are his to manage. Heās not owed a date. And if he shows that anger this early on, well, she needs to run. Because the risk is just too high.
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Have as good a day as you all friends. Sober and clean. Love.
Weekend! Worked a bit too hard and a bit too much, now itās me time. Going to take it really easy. Get groceries, eat well, sleep well, pet Luna. Thatās about it. Have a good one all! X
@liminal.rehab I only tried melatonin once. Gave me the worst nightmares I ever had. Never again.
@SoberWalker Progress! Sweety! Does she have a name yet? Or sticking with the old one?
@Mephistopheles I donāt see judgement. I see a woman steer clear of a potentially dangerous encounter. Good on her and end of.
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Thatās totally okay, itās a process. My first reaction always was kinda rude and disappointed, but not anymore. It simply takes time
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Menno, I know what Tomi meant and Iām okay with it. Nobodyās perfect, not the guy I cancelled, not me. I understand heās frustrated but he has to learn to not show it the way he did. And itās possible to learn that, I did too.
Thatās life, sometimes weāre all not acting right.
For me, what I learned today is, that gut feeling is important and ppl should listen to it.
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OK. Then I say piss off, to your addiction and that it would be most favorable for Juli!
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That is a normal reaction to something new with a lot of emotions and values involved. I wish you both a nice time!
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Day 462
Starting the day with good news always makes it better. I have found out that I have got an interview for a promotion at work so I have lots of preparation to do.
Before all that though I get to spend the morning with one of my 4 favourite miniature human beings, my baby girl. She has Decided we are going to watch a movie and snuggle under a blanket after I have made her a grilled cheese sandwich for brekkie.
Canāt beat making memories.
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Nice coin!
Congratulations to one mind blowing year of sobriety!
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Welcome to the double digits!
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@KarenKW Hope you have a fantastic weekend with your sister. Iām glad you have that kind of relationship with her. Not something to take for granted. Also hope you get some sun wherever you are at.
@MiniBehan01 Congrats on one year freedom from alcohol!
@Penguin I understand completely. Keep in mind that depending on the group, not all meetings are in the muck and the mire of alcoholism. I have a ton of fun with my AA crew even in our meetings. I also like the Meetup app to find different communities for a certain hobby (hiking/pickleball/concerts/book clubs). Might be fun.
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I think we are going to rename her.
Toet is a funny name but I think she needs another name.
Thinking about Stickerā¦
Because her formal owner said she even wants to go with them to the toilet
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Im 11 days sober today and feeling very proud of myself and feeling good too. Except for the over eating of sugar and weight gain. I will start to cut back on that and hopefully loss a bit a of weight.
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Day 935
Havenāt checked in for a while. Feeling a bit less than groovy in a few areas, and have for a while, but thank goodness no thoughts of drinking. I sometimes feel a bit of a fraud, offering advice on here like I have got it all together, when actually I most certainly do not. But maybe the fact that I am keeping away from my way of escape that I used for such a long time, even though everything isnāt hunkydory, is something that I am being authentic about, and can be an example to others.
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