Hi I will offer this little advice that worked for me
Go and see your Dr, seek professional help.
There no shame in doing this and I can assure you that opening up to them ā¦ yes it will feel difficult but it definitely is not as bad as we imagine.
Be truthful, until I was truthful with the professionals I did not receive the correct help and went round in circles many times.
It helped me to listen to those who had also been going around in circles like my self but broke the cycle.
I listened because I see it worked for them and my way just was not.
Concentrate on getting back track asap and get some professional help.
Your Dr can you help you understand this more or give you proper treatment. We are not astronauts.
Here is the code for the 24 hour zoom AA marathon meeting 2923712604
Today is a good day start your Day1 tomorrow and each day going forward sober you will have a clearer mind and can make better decisions for yourself. Concentrate on just staying sober āone day at a timeā and "just for today.
That needs to be your priority before you make big decisions.
Seeking help any avenue can AA/NA/ smart recovery/recovery dharma.
Good luck, you can do this
Noooo way that will happenā¦ Sorry. Even doctors look at you as you are not ānormalā if you have addiction. Surely they drink as well. I remember once, on surgery, they put spirit on my face, and I was like oh man I am getting drunk by smelling it, and doc was like āyeahhhhh, isnāt that good who does not like that?ā like dislike it is it not normal. I mean we are talking aboout number top 5 or top 3 country by alcoholism and suicides in the world. Being sober is not normal here. Even docs look at you akward.
I faced doctors normalising my drinking and coping strategy as well here in Germany. Reflects on the doctor and not on my problem. But it cemented my suffering for a longer time than needed. As I went back from the doctor feeling like i made too much of nothing.
Donāt cut yourself loose from TS, then the addiction wins and you probably start drinking all time. What is the longest strike of sober days you had before? Did you came pass the 3 months? They say you need at least 3 months to change a habit.
Keep trying new things as coping strategy, you will find yours eventually as well. But the choice wich coping strategy you choose is yours
Iāve read somewhere: āYou are the problem, but you are also the solutionā.
That helped me to do what I had to do.
What are your reasons to quit drinking?
Please list them.
Seems like your reason to drink is to cope with your stress. I see in past posts that you do go to the gym and that you have been a runner in the past. Is any of thst helping your stress?
Are you still doing it on a routine basis?
You seem to do okay for awhile and then you drink.
Stopping drinking is something you do for yourself and those around you who canāt stand you drinking.
You can get help ( here for instance) but as you see in your country, your Dr.s arenāt going to take it seriously enough.
If you seriously want to quit for the reasons you have then stay here and get the help here, rely deeply on yourself for support for you, and consider going back to the AA meeting.
You could be the bright spot in those peopleās life and that could inspire you more to quit and stay quit. Never think that their reality couldnāt end up being your reality. Lost jobs, etc.
Schedule your gym and running in so it is just as important as your job.
Hope some of the comments from members are helping you.
PS I applaud you for quitting and wanting to stay quit in the face of all the drinking thatās around you. Itās not normal. It might be that many do it and itās perceived as the norm but itās not normal. Drinking changes behavior and oftentimes brings out the worst in people, contributes to accidents, and bad health.
Keep yourself as healthy as you can. You need to not drink to do that.
Thereās something important there I feel. You have tied up alcohol with anything good. Or bad for that matter. Just like we all have. In truth itās not having the beer in itself that helps you relax (except relieving the addict in you, and that can be broken). It is that all that relaxes you, is tied up to having beer.
Whatever nice and good (or bad) you do you accompany by having beer. That connection must be broken. The connection must be broken in your mind. Going into nature is an excellent example. You donāt need beer to take along when you do that. But you learned yourself you do. As with all else in your life.
You can do this but it needs a new way of looking at things. A way without alcohol. And I know itās hard and I know everything in (your) society is tied up with alcohol. Still you yourself can break that I am sure. Donāt leave here. Success.
And sunday we went for a hike with loads of elevation meters. That wasnāt easy for me because I am afraid of hights. But I did it, sometimes swearing out loud, but I did it.
Yesterday they hired electric off the road scooters but I backed out of that one. Glad I did so because hubby felt and hurt himself
Lucky he didnāt injured himself that bad, but it bleeded a lot. It was a scary sight when he returned to me with that faceā¦
Today? We are home again and today we are keeping it easy. Going for a small walk, hope it helps with relaxing my calfs a bit
Another sober day in the books and entering a new one, are you joining?
Tweede Paasdag or second day of Easter here. An extra Sunday. Iāll take a spinning class this morning and relax afterwards. Take it easy all. We donāt need any drugs or booze to do that. X @SoberWalker I like the āforbidden for bikesā signs on the stairs. Your husband might have been tempted to drive up or down it. Glad he is OK.
Not with me near him!
I would forbit it He dares a lot and tries a lot as well. But this time he was shocked as well. At first he thought his jaw was broken! It was a ride with a guide. But she didnāt guided much
But it wasnāt her fault ofcourse, he took that corner too fast.
checking in day 348 af. i have a torn acl and im looking at a divorce here. still soberā¦ still optimistic about the future. my wife doesnt even know my sober time nor does she show any support. we have really grown apart, and dont see eye to eye pn anythingā¦ filed paperwork goijg to continue the steps to pit this relationship to rest. needed to get that off my chestā¦ thabks for being here all, much love!
You are not letting down any of us and you should not let down on yourself. Sobriety is a long journey full of hard learnt lessons all the time. For some people itās easier than others. It took me more than 3 years the get to he point I am at now. Just keep trying and learn from your past mistakes.
You should go to forest sober and try to connect with your inner struggles in peace and let your mind get used to thisā¦nature is the best place to heal yourself and meditate.
For my this works as a great stress relieve!
Friday we did the big stairs in LiĆØge/Luik.
