You are so right, I am stucking in my comfort zone and doing mostly just the things I love.
Itās a bit funny, that this doesnāt only fit for the sobriety journey, but also for other parts in my life!
I will add a new category āthe workā in my planning and figure out today what this will be exactly to me.
Thanks for this 360grad turnaround perspective. Eye-opener!
Congratulations @ShadowFax on your days sober and how wonderful you get to celebrate it in such an awesome and memorable wayā¦ out on another journey!
Itās the addiction trying to jolt you into action, to make you get your fix. Acknowledge that this is what it is, then go to your sober toolbox. What do you normally do if youāre being triggered? You have to get yourself out of this mindset by proactively dealing with it.
Day 11 is fantastic, you just need to keep going. Get today done. Itās so much easier to keep going than to start again.
I had to check to be sure which sober day Iām on, which is a good sign for me. I donāt care about alcohol, and Iām in defence mode again. Nothing is going to take my sobriety away from me. Day 15, 9.5hrs.
The No1 thing that allowed me to turn my inner and outer life around is being in psychoanalysis. Iāve been with my therapist from day one of my recovery but it took months to get with her. One could say that I (without knowing it then, unconsciously) took steps to get sober months before I actually did. I feel Iād perhaps be dead now without my therapy.
I personally also think youād benefit from an accountability buddy. Someone to text or phone when you have cravings.
Thank you so for reaching out.
Iv been as bit depressed the past few days and isolating myself unintentionally.
Iām going to get up, do my routine of tidy, cook pop to the shops then Iāll be on here to catch up.
Last night I was missing being here but was very tired.
Iām back in my home town, at my parents house and while last time I was only a couple of weeks sober, I was coping a lot better. Now Iām just an anxious mess of a human being.
Itās all so very complicated and all I wanna do is hide inside reddit and read fake stories about assholes. But thatās not healthy. And I scored a brand new client this week, so I canāt start making excuses this early in our professional relationship. So I need to pull myself together.
I decided to go back to basics. This morning I meditated for the first time in over a week. It helped a little. Later Iām gonna go for a walk. But first, I need to shower and clean my hair. Baby steps and kid gloves.
Thank you both for this great advice and youāre both absolutely right
I also put on an outfit I feel great in today and that reminded me that itās not about being seen. I get dressed up to express myself and connect to my creativity; I wear clothes that tell a story about me and spark joy in me and those that see me. And yes you did miss the day 60 outfit but itās a bit racy for the forums. I did turn heads and leave mouths agape in mid conversations but most importantly I felt amazing in it and it sparked joy in the people around me.
Iām working today, but itās āthe Q wordā (not saying it, not tempting fate!) and some of my favourite colleagues are in which means fun chats all round. I work from home so miss out on the office environment, but have made some pretty awesome relationships with really cool people up and down the country through working here. One of the reasons I love my job so much!
I watched the coronation yesterday as planned (as I previously mentioned Iām so far from a royalist itās hilarious - Iāve just got all swept up in the excitement from watching too much BBC news ). I also made homemade cowboy burgers which were insanely good.
Feeling pretty sweet at the moment. Another day off tomorrow which will be nice! Plans so far include; sleeping, pressing snooze on my alarm, and sleeping some more