So happy to see you, and that you keep pushing.
Congrats with your 90days 
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Day 143 checking in sober
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Iām kinda getting ready to be crucified for this post, but this is just wrong. Thereās something inherently wrong about you saying you saw a woman posting a selfie on this forum and got triggered.
Was there anything inappropriate about said selfie, or was this person just posting a photo of themselvesā¦ existing?
Why did you put āhumanizeā in quote marks? Why did you need to tell yourself this person is āsufferingā in order to see them as a human being with thoughs and feelings and ideas and ambitions?
And why are you looking at the selfie thread if the mere existence of a woman living her life is triggering?
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Check in for day 2.
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I may be wrong, and donāt want to speak for anyone, but I think the use of āhumaniseā was referring to one of the steps needed in recovering from PMO. One of the difficulties of that particular addiction is that the brain has rewired to not see the person beneath the body. He is taking considered steps to help.
I am triggered by a lot of things here, some of the language used around PMO is too much for me due to past experiences, but I still want to stick around and obviously donāt want them not to post, but every now and then I do come across something that triggers uncomfortable memories. I think it is hard for that particular addiction as they must have to be constantly on their guard here and to fully engage with the community means exposing themselves to triggers.
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1545
Five more shifts till my vacation. Yay! A late one to work today. Thatās fine. This is my best job ever. So far. Working in addiction care gives me so much inspiration. Sober and clean. Have as good a day as you all can friends. Love from Westerpark.
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Morning all, checking in. Was lazing in bed having a coffee but the neighbours are having their hedge cut back and a manās head just popped over the top. That is me shamed into getting up and being productive 
We have 2 clear days now with no plans and it is making me a bit jittery. I have always been so protective over my energy levels (well, since getting chronic fatigue in 2013), but now I am finding myself anxious if I am not doing something. They say Type A personalities are susceptible to chronic fatigue syndrome and I can see why. Thank you @JazzyS for your wonderful reply yesterday. I think I am in danger of pushing myself too much. I went swimming yesterday even though exhausted. I canāt seem to stop myself though!? When I was younger I had an ED for control reasons and can see me approaching this in a similar way now. Sorry, this is a mind dump now, lots to think about.
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Day 20*
Really ready for the long holiday weekend. Have plans with someone I met from a wedding a few weeks back which is just bizarre. I canāt remember the last time I made an adult friend but we just clicked. Iām sure she probably noticed I wasnāt drinking at the wedding but just to be safe when we were talking about plans I mentioned I donāt drink. I also have a picnic with my sober group this weekend. Feeling really grateful for all these connections.
I have my first appt with my new psych booked. I am hopeful but mostly just flat out dreading it. I reached out to my aunt to let her know I was thinking about her. She was really grateful for the check-in and we made some loose plans. Iām already panicking about how itās going to go if sheās still drinking. Glad Iām starting new therapy, these thought patterns arenāt helpful.
Happy almost Friday everyone.
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Checking in on day 4, it was a lovely misty walk this morning, I can feel the weather starting to change and I love autumn, I didnāt sleep well again last night
So not as long a walk as yesterday, as Iām pretty exhausted, been doing a bit of soul searching into dark places to find out why I really use alcohol and substances and trying to journal it, probably one of the reasonās why Iām not sleeping too great as Iām going digging, but Iām still here and sober, have a great day everyone 
@JennyH you should have just gave him a wave 
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Haha, I pulled the curtains instead
Loving the autumn feel coming from your post, it is definitely approaching fast 
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Hey all, checking in on day 1173. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Checking in on day 89. I decided to take the higher dose of my medication last night because I wanted a good sleep, but I was still awake from 5.25 this morning. Iām glad I have no firm plans for today. I made sourdough starter last night before bed so Iāll bake that now. I have had a bath, did three ohms under a cold shower, which felt really good, and Iāve made my breakfast smoothie which Iāll just take my time over.
I told my parents that I was struggling a bit and my mum suggested they check in with me more frequently for a while which Iām grateful for.
Wishing everyone an addiction free day.
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Absolutely this! They put themself in a triggering situation at the expense of a woman on this forum them come seeking praise for āhumanizingā her. That whole post feels gross. I want to flag the post, but also donāt want people to not see it.
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Maybe you should just not look at the selfie thread if you are not capable of handling, Its even more odd that you are seeking praise for āhumanizingā a literal human on this site so I will give it to you. Congratulations on putting yourself in a bad situation then giving the bare minimum in human decency.
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His exposure therapy should not come at the expense of peopleās emotional safety. He can get a real therapist for that.
He intentionally looked at a thread that would be triggering. He then got triggered. And to top it off he posted about. Now every woman who posted on the selfie thread might be wondering if heās posting about her. Heās violated their peace on this forum.
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Fair enough actually, you have a point.
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Sorry I wasnāt trying to come at you so hard. I stand by what I say but also have no ill-will towards you.
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No problem, you made me re-think. I hadnāt considered the perspective of the women posting on that thread and this being their safe space (which is actually really embarrassing as I am normally āwomen firstā)
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Yeahā¦ this.
Since this morning Iāve been struggling to put into words how I feel about this, but this post pretty much sums it up.
Plenty of women post on the selfie thread and none of the pictures are in any way suggestive (from what Iāve seen). We have a right a right to feel safe on here and not unnecessarily sexualized.
Thereās absolutely no reason to post that a certain woman in the selfie thread gave you the āfeelsā and then pat yourself on the back for āhumanizingā them and realizing they are also suffering.
Why are they suffering? Why do women need to suffer in order for some people to see them as human?
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These pictures are beautiful Billy
I just got a new phone yesterday and still trying to figure it outā¦ especially the camera.
You got some lovely captures 
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