- I can’t take sobriety for granted.
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Checking in. Day 312
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Hey all, checking in on day 1158. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Let’s try to reframe the language here. I was a “junkie” for many years. I get that we are ALL in recovery here so there’s some flexibility in our language, but also there’s people here who are in very early recovery from opiates.
Not trying to be on your ass about it as I have done the same thing myself and one of our stronger and vocal members called me out and she was right
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Days PMO free: Day 13
Days with PS5 in the closet to close the day: 21
Days went to bed the same time with my wife: 21
Been getting my swims in, trying to get more sleep, Keeping a good daily focus for the most part. Progress over perfection so i dont expect everything to be rosey everyday. But i’m hopeful. Took my kids to open house as they start school next week. I was so pleased to watch my kiddos playing with others freely. Had the most interesting conversation with a dad. He was in a coma last year after a staff infection and Pneumonia(double whammy). He’s just happy to be alive. We had a great talk about just being thankful. Really put things in perspective for me. Another daily reminder for me to just appreciate the journey. My goal today is just mindfulness. Dont hand over my brain to impulses, plan my day and stay on task.
Good morning/Good afternoon/Good evening all.
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Idk man, feels like the word police here. I mean isnt living a life where your actions are dictated by substance use a bad thing? Many of us have friends in active addiction that we have to distance ourselves from because they live like junkies and we want better. I think its not only normal to label, but accurate and a marker by which we can measure improvement. Id imagine if he wasnt in active addiction possibly, negatively impacting her daughter she wouldnt accurately describe the person with the word used to describe people living way below their potential due to addiction.
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Thpught Id check in this AM. Will be 30 days in a few hours. Feels very good, and this the longest I have had since last summer during renovations. Its hard for me think wow, Ive gotten maybe to 30 days or around but it wasnt like this. Truly I was tryinf to do it all alone, searching for answers and its really REALLY amazing to me how much this space is helping just by checking in and reading others stories, shares, etc. You are all an inspiration to me, and I cannot believe my sober perspective was so small (in that I seriously thougjt the big book was the only book 
not saying anything against it! Love me the 12 steps abd whatever works for you is an amazing thing).
Just feeling grateful today. Smushing my kids with kisses this AM, and yoy kniw maybe my patience is down but thats okay Im human too. We have a surprise for our daughter, her oldest friend is coming today (one of hubbys best friends had a son 2 yrs before our daughter was born and she has known him her whole life). When we go away wr always want a bit of time just the family, but sometimes that time together is more mental and less bonding (but mental is bonding when you think of it anyway, just sitting in a cozy chair as hubby is down witb kids on tbe dock.
Life IS persective. Sometimes I feel thats all it is. We often have thinga go “wrong” on trips, and for a long time hubby and I had a running joke that we never ended up in the master bedroom (on our honey moon in Sicily its a funny story of our first day there of all these things, and then the big master bedroom didnt have ac and was a thousand degrees but we couldnt open the windows bc the mosquitos at night. So we dragged a mini twin mattress up the winding stairs that i slept on in a narrow hall outside the bathroom…I remember being a bit disappointed at first - why is the AC not in the bedroom, but up more stairs in a hall where the bathroom is!!! But next day, we were snuggled with eachpther on the matrress laugjing so hard about our “romantic” sleeping arrangements. It was an amazing honey mpon, and we still get a good laugh telling the story about hpw I slept outside the bathroom on a mini jr mattress…it was the start of more rentals to come where our daughter would get the master, as it would fit her playpen or could be darker/away from living room noise, and we’d be sleeping in the kids room 
). It lets me know how im doing when i look back qnd remember the good moments, or we can have a chuckle at the things we were worked up about (of course not speaking about being in denial of actual hard stuff or pretending pain isnt real…not what im talking about).
Anyway, meabt for this to be a breif check in but as you can see when I feel confortable i am anytbing but breif. Appreciate you all giving me a space to feel comfy and putting up with my talkative ass
Xo. Happy days guys. I fogure you may hear from me later lol
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I agree that it’s a grey area. But doesn’t mean we can’t try to be better. Plenty of adjectives that can describe the person. I’m not saying we need to humanize him to the point that there’s no negative to him. But the term junkie isn’t really acceptable.(although I do see how people can self describe as this because it is their truth)
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4.90 days sober. No CBD or THC or anything that has to do with marijuana. I’ve been sober longer off of alcohol. I’m about 3 months off alcohol
28.68 days no ciggs or vapes. Yesterday evening I ran out of my 2mg lozenges and didn’t buy any more. My belly feels weird. Kind of like anxiety I think. I don’t know if it’s nicotine withdrawal or not. I have today and tomorrow off from work to battle this addiction 
Stay strong everyone
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Nothing wrong with being talkative, i appreciate your stories!
We Cherish our memories. Even we things didn’t go the way we planned. My 21 year wedding anniversary is coming up in a month, it’s crazy to think i’ve been married that long and i’m barely in my 40’s. The memories, the good times, the journey.
I agree: Life IS perspective. When your struggling it’s hard to appreciate where you’ve come and hold on to the good things. Sometimes your just a good cup of coffee away, or in my case, a good swim away, from that ‘rebalancing’ that you need. If i’m feeling in the dumps some days, maybe i just need to slap my headphones and play one of my favorite tunes. My sons love Pete the Cat books. There’s one book that’s so positive, it’s all about no matter what you step in, we dont let it get us down, cause it’s all good. It’s a wednesday, i dont have much going on at work, but am i worried? Goodness no. I just keep on going. Always good to talk to you Mira_D!
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Thanks for this
Congrats on the anniversay! That is amazing. Hope you guys have a nice celebration. 
Funny how I always feel a little spaced out after sharing. I think its one part that Im typing on my phone and technology makes me feel a bit spacey, but another part also putting myself out there for you all to see…man its hard to be vulnerable, but yoh guys seriously make me feel like hey its okay. Been a long time since I had this safe sober place, and I just apprexiate you guys so much!
Swimming is also one of my fav resets. Being by water is something I find so spiritually connecting for me (maybe not the right wording there but there is something to the water). I find jumping in almost like a refresh button. Cant wait to do it today myself. Hear little footsteps I must go!
Xo.
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Day 5 - no alcohol, but lots of chocolate and icecream. Foggy feeling is finally starting to lift.
Hope everyone is having a good day/night!
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Morning Check In
Day 549
Morning TS fam! Todays going to be another hot day. So probably will stay inside again, although i am getting stir crazy from being indoors lol
This morning i worked out as planned. So thats good! And my plans for the day is doing some cleaning, doing my usual morning routine, and making a few phone calls. Thats about it. Hope everyone has a great day! 
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Congrats on day 5 ! Enjoy the ice cream and the chocolate 
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Welcome, Michelle!Glad you are here. You are right about moderation. You’re in good company here, so visit often, lots of threads here to explore, build your sober toolbox, and keep up the good work. 
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This is me, two m9 this ago, before I joined TS. Yup, today is day 36 and I’m still going strong, thanks to all you fine people!!! Happy Wednesday, all!
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That’s strange. Sunday morning I woke up to a text from an unknown number that didn’t make sense, a missed call from a local Dr., and silent voicemail, all around 7:30. The phone number was linked to one of our hospitals emergency department. I couldn’t get a hold of my ex or daughter and was trying not to think about it bc I had to go to work and unlock the building. They finally responded around 11:30 and were fine. Still a mystery.
I hope things are okay on your end
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@JazzyS yeah, thank you for asking! It all went as well as expected. It was a nice day exploring the city, but had to cut it short because of the heat.
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Checking in on day 52, hope everyone is having a nice day! 
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Wishing you luck with building a community irl. Hoping you can find tools to help you de-stress. Sending you hugs – hope the day becomes less weird and way less stressful! It is exciting to put a new spin on things and change up your patterns.
I am sorry to hear that your conversation with your brother did not go so well in the support department. I do think that especially with drinking many do not grasp the struggle or think its a problem.
I personally told my doctor the truth about my drinking / smoking / weed consumption because i didn’t want any of what i was going through to be misdiagnosed if it was due to my addictions. Yesterday i went to a different doctor in the same practice and as she was reviewing my history said “oh you drink occasionally and used to do weed as a child - are you still smoking?” FUCK- i quit smoking 21 months ago and was smoking about 2 packs a day then but the drinking was out of hand daily occurrence and weed was needed to help me sleep nightly so WTF was my doctor writing or listening to? I think those around us that don’t understand kind of shut off when we try to explain.
You know you and you know that you need to live a live free of addictions. You know that to do so you need community support and therapy (we can all be our own self therapist but it is important to get an outsiders perspective).
YES!!! I think you are doing an amazing job and hope that the recent conversation did not dishearten you too much. We are here if you need to chat or unload. Maybe find a good support group nearby to join? I find that only those that have gone through it can truly understand and be empathetic.
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