I would give that a like, but it seems I have exhausted my quota of likes for the day (per the system).
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It sure does help me to still be able to vent those things. Venting is crucial for me, when I neglect that and go into the avoidance it is no good. I shared also some parts with the nurses here. From now on Iāll be the weekends at home, so hopefully thatās gonna help to get me through. Or it might just be I donāt come back on Sunday evening 
Have a nice day 
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Day 
Batteries a little bit on the lower side. Need some 
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Thatās why Wednesday is my Day Off. No trainings. Taking it all easy. I call it my little weekend 
Itās basically an easiest day of the week 
Wait a minuteā¦ Monday is easy too / all charged up Then Friday is a kickstarter of a weekend 
Whatās left? Tuesday? Done Thursday? One day? ODAAT style. Easy. Do I even WORK?
Day 4
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ā¦1965ā¦ Been awhile since I checked in here. A smidgen of overwhelming hit me already this morning. Took a pause, then looked at it through the eyes of gratitude. Getting sober has given me the gift of perspective. I sat here overwhelmed, then decided to look at it all as a blessing.
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Hey all, checking in on day 1151. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Checking in for day 16 AF.
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Days PMO free: Day 6
Days with PS5 in the closet to close the day: 14
Days went to bed the same time with my wife: 14
Starting to get more sleep every single day while being less self absorbed when it comes to home life. Iām still an exhausted person who doesnāt sleep enough, but now i canāt blame video games, as itās been in my closet every night for 2 weeks now. Iām a person who has to take naps, my body/mind just wont function properly. I went to the gym yesterday, pulled into the parking spot. Slept for 25 minutes. Just left the gym as my workout āwindowā had passed. Pulled into the driveway at home and took another 10 minute nap. Years of sleep deprivation dont reverse itself in 2 weeks. So iām working on it every day. After reading James Clearās āAtomic Habitsā iām simply trying to put systems in place to help me past my issues. Iām using the āmake it hardā method of placing the thing your trying to restrict away from you. Thatās what iāve done with my game. Having it upstairs in the closet has all but neutralized itās pull on me. The simple system of going to bed with my wife, every night is working. I lock my phone from 930pm - 7am. The ādangerā hours are now spent with my phone away from me, safely ready to be used the next morning. Checking in daily with these methods, journaling throughout the day, listening to spiritual things/bible reading, and my recovery podcast all help train my synapses to be better equipped against my vices. When i go to the bathroom, i canāt have my phone in the stall, itās a trigger for me, too many automated responses send me down a spiral, so i have to hide it beside the trash can. I do my business, pick it up and leave the bathroom. This probably sounds very weird and strange behavior, but when your a porn addict, you canāt put yourself in your top trigger spot and expect not to fail. Putting it outside the stall sends the signal to my brain, āiām fighting you, and iām winning.ā Itās a daily hour by hour battle, and i have my days.
Iām trying to limit things that are simply āmental junkfoodā that doesnāt bring anything to the table other than pacifying me. If itsā not helping me grow, itās gotta go (or be limited somewhat).
Have a good morning, a good afternoon, and a good evening all.
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Day 45. Iām feeling more clear and level headed with each and every day. The thought of never having a drink again brings me joy and comfort now.
Hope you all have a great day today! 
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I wrote a one sentence opinion I have about a particular viewpoint that I do not agree with.
It has nothing to do with any particular person here or level of understanding.
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Good morning everyone, day 77. Idk why but i slept all day yesterday, I went and got my shot and when i got home i just slept, it was raining and crappy out so i donāt really mind to much. Today Iām not really sure what i want to do, Iām trying to find a ride to my home town so i can be with my girls and then leave to go camping this weekend. I love being on my own now, it feels really good and just relaxin and is nice to be responsible for myself and my own things and not have to worry about other peoples shit. It looks to be a nice beautiful day today so ill take that and make it into a good day. Yeah much love everyone happy Wednesday
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Morning Check In
Day 542
Morning TS fam! Hope everyone is doing alright today! I woke up again for the gym this morning. Hoping that Im now on a solid path of making the gym a habit again.
Today my plans are to do my morning recovery routine with my morning coffee. Take care of a couple phone calls from 2 diff drs (1 for me and 1 for my son to discuss the issue with his eyes). To read more of my DBT book. And to hit the dollarstore. Thats it! Nothing too crazy today. Hope everyone has a fantastic day! 
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I love everything that ur doing to keep ur addiction at bay. Im really impressed with how hard ur working at this! How do u find that Atomic Habits book? Ive heard good things about it and was considering getting it in the future.
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Iām glad you posted this today. Gratitude is one of the only things that has consistently kept me going through overwhelm with moving and settling in. Reframing this way is powerful! Glad it helped you.
P.S. Having a ever-positive and optimistic partner helps, too! 
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Wow! Sounds like u had a really productive day! How are u finding being on the gluten free diet? Has it helped? Hope u have another good day today friend 
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How is your sobriety going today?
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Find a new job already?
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Not yet. Being choosey, and the garden has me busy right nowā¦it is basically working me the same hours as a job.
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Day 207.
Iām kinda feeling better but still not at 100% after my bout with food poisoning. Iām tired and hungry and emotional. And Iām pissed off at the street food place that poisoned me in the first place.
Iāve also turned uber paranoid about eating anything. My husband made chicken yesterday and it was fine, but I kept checking it for pink spotsā¦ like obsessively and couldnāt really enjoy my meal. Iām almost scared to eat anything.
But on the other hand, Iām thinking that Iām overly dramatic and should just get on with things. Itās weird. Likeā¦ I was bad, but not bad enough to need a hospitalā¦ Iām just left with fatigue and food paranoia. Fun times.
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Hi sober guy, until now it is totally find, my difficult hours are in the later evening. My home is clear of alcohol. I have no craving, i wonāt buy shit on my way back home. Researched about other programs and possible keys today. I am on my way.
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Thank you!!!
(i have no idea why this paragraph is bold or how to change it???)
The Book is on Amazon: James Clear āAtomic Habitsā. If you read it, make sure you keep a journal cause it has so much information that you need read. I had to create a seperate chat in whatās app called, āMY NEW SYSTEMS.ā Just to keep up with everything he presented. Being 1% better everyday is the mindset. Goals wont get you there. Systems will. A system is just a daily habit you do. Systems followed daily = change. He also focuses on your mindset when it comes to becoming what you want to identify with. If you want to become a āgym ratā. You have to change your mindset and become the type of person that likes going to the gym. Having a set āsystemā of a specific time you put the clothes in the car the night before. You get your protein shake ready early. You create intension and make it easy on your brain to now follow up, youāve already done all the work! Just a great read.
Iām fighting everyday. I go home and i look at my wife and kids and iām filled with gratitude, the fact that there here despite the fact that iāve done so much to sabotage my marriage. Iāve never cheated or even flirted with another women, and yet the Porn is a cancer to my brain and itās been in my marriage for too long. It has to die this year. Iām committed across the board in my life to be better. I canāt just change one thing, i gotta change everything. Thatās why i focus on sleep, gaming, being selfish/self absorbed, how iām being āpresentā, how i talk to my family, how i react, my patience, it all has to be refined. I dont want to be my father and his father.
Side note: I took my kids to the library to return some books and once again, i ran into a guy around my age who doesnāt live with his kids. Itās a daily reminder: If you want to break the cycle, you have to fight for your marriage at all cost.
Sorry if i seem āintenseā, when iām on a keyboard, it all just comes out. Itās very theurapeutic! Thanks for the shout out!!!
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