When I finally realized this for myself it was a revelation. Felt so obvious after the fact, but when you’re deep in it the obvious can be overshadowed by the delusion that substances are “helping.” So glad you’re seeing the reality and you’re doing so well! Keep going, amiga!
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Day 50.
Just checking in.
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I second this. It’s easy to forget where we came from for those of us who have been here a while and are more solid in our recovery. Or even if we just have a little time under our belts and have gotten the hang of how this community works, flows. I try my best to remember empathy and to try and put myself in someone else’s shoes when a reaction comes quickly to mind. We were all new here once.
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Yay, well done. I have seen you really persevering with this and battling on. You are doing so well!
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Day 1007,
Back home from the centre, gonna nap. My mother is here since my parents have viewers for their house which is for sale. She is now into town, wasn’t to nice just a minute ago. But I have to land at home so I forgive myself, need to digest the impressions from the centre.
Greetz 
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Day 251.
Just when I thought I was approaching beaurocratic hell finish line… my country had this to say, ‘BAM! WHAM! POW! Fuck you very much!’
There’s no other way to describe it. The possibility of my husband having to leave is very very very real. And I’m stuck here for at least a month. So he’ll have to go back to the UK by himself and come back when the papers arive. I had all the papers. I fucking had all the papers. But they cut (with scissors) my temporary ID card when they gave me the marriage certificate.
What in the dystopian misogyny is this shit? That temporary ID card fucking expires in a few weeks anyway. Why did she have to cut it now? I don’t understand the rationale…
And without it, we can’t apply for his immigration papers. Our best bet is to go to the immigration office and… beg…
I’m reaching the end of my tether.
My insane family is fucking with my head. The beaurocratic nightmare is fucking with my head. My workload involves 12 hour-days. I just can’t seem to catch up with any of it.
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I think what was intended is that they are typically way more vulnerable and easier to scare off in early sobriety. A lot of them are opening up for the first time to anyone and oftentimes the “help” comes off as condescending. I know that isn’t anyone’s intent (or at least it shouldn’t be) but it does scare people away and make them less likely to open up in the future.
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1 day no marijuana
135 no drinking
66 no vapes or cigs
Today started good
I must remember self control
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LOVED Home Improvement growing up! JTT was my first celebrity crush 
Every time I had covid, which was 4 times, it was radically different. Hope you recover quickly with some nostalgic TV. Congrats on 200 days 
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9 months! Congratulations 
You go girl!
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Day 389
Happy Friday folks i do hope everyone is well.
This past week has been good…ive been working on friendships a little…new ones…for some reason twice in the last couple of weeks ive been in the right place at the right time to be of help 2 people where theyve needed someone to talk to and ive been happy to listen…ive managed to help them both…im not looking for praise but to help another person really lights up my soul, i believe its one of my callings. One of the ladies ive helped has a daughter in the same class as my daughter…we were talking this morning and it turns out our daughters birthdays are very close together so in January we are going to have a joint birthday party for our daughters which will half the cost for us both which is great as id agonised over how id afford it with my ex not now paying toward our daughter…even more strange is that id already emailed the venue twice with a different date to what we have now agreed on when i thought id be doing it alone and the venue hadnt gotten back to me yet…now i know why…i was never meant to book that date…higher power at work i think 
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Same. Happened to me yesterday with one patient who was very anxious (I wrote about it in my check in) and later a man asked me how to get to the main train station dry (it was pouring).
People just come to me and ask all kinds of stuff, it’s like I’m wearing a blinking sign above my head 
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Quite often new members, with admittedly questionable ideas, get these ideas questioned too hard by too many long time members. Right from the moment they post their first post. Which often makes these new members end their memberships after only a couple of days. Which I am sure nobody wants. I’m asking for some consideration for these new members.
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Keep going, Trixie! You’re doing great💪🏼
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Happy Friday to all! Checking in on day 72. Wishing everyone a happy sober day!
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hey beautiful people! waking up with 12 days of sobriety behind me feels incredible. it’s like i have a whole new identity and i can’t even believe i was getting hammered not too long ago. it feels so far away now!! definitely hopped timelines into a new dimension with this commitment here. i’m finally saying YES to life, YES to reality, YES to self, YES and THANK YOU to God, i just feel like one big walking YES and i’m so grateful grateful i survived life long enough to get to this turning point. & i’m excited to create my art from this place so i can share this energy of triumph-from-tragedy far and wide, and connect with those who are struggling, and those who are working to overcome their struggles 
love y’all!
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I’m gonna officially apologise for being among those members who may have scared a newcomer away. To my defense, that wasn’t my intention. I just saw something I didn’t agree with and stated my opinion. But the last thing I want on my conscious is pushing another member to relapse.
And I’m working really really hard at keeping my unhelpful thoughts to myself on here. I’ll do better.
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Thanks. I’m not saying anybody is pushing anyone to relapse. Just that it’s not welcoming to this place. Which is exactly what is meant by the phrase that the newcomer is the most important person IMHO.
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Checking in day 383! Feeling pretty good- 12 hour workday today. I officially accepted a new job which is exciting- a little more pay, more normal work hours, and challenging/exciting work that uses a lot of my experience. Start in a month, have to put in my time at work soon. All in all should be a good change, but of course a little bittersweet.
Wishing everyone a fabulous sober Friday
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@just_laura THANK YOU! I hear on the mouse being adorable yet I too would be scared (they bolt so quickly that it makes me jump). I had some in my old garage and they would drive me nuts. Hope Kiki can protect you.
@juli1 HELL YEAH – 3 week milestone my friend! Love how much you are working on yourself and keeping to the commitments. Finding healthier ways to cope with life’s stresses. Keep rocking on my superhero rockstar!
@holysquid Super excited about 200 days! COVID – NO! I’m so sorry friend. Enjoy the tv time (I do take advantage of sick days and binge watch my fav shows – do love that Tim). I hope you don’t experience any crazy symptoms and that you heal quickly.
@Jennyh thank you dear friend. I do hope you are able to experience a chilled out day after your half day of work. Hopefully the weekend ahead is also relaxing. Love self care days – hope you were able to take full advantage of this afternoon. 
@timetochange Welcome home – glad you enjoyed your honeymoon. Well done on your 90 days!
@saturn81 Man I’m sorry to hear about your anxiety Michelle. I do hope you are able to find ways to calm it down. You are rocking it out with 26 days under your belt. Do know we are here if you need to talk it out. Hope your Friday is calm and soothing
@barber508 thank goodness that the withdrawals are starting to lessen and you are feeling a bit better. Keep strong my friend – it does get easier.
@trixie1 Way to go on your 1 week milestone! This is huge 
I can totally relate to doing too much when your body is able (its like we forget what we just went through. Grateful that this time you are taking note and will find ways to take breaks and be more gentle with yourself).
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