583 days AF
Still going!
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My cousinās 50th birthday party was nice and not as hip and arty farty as I feared. Lots of family and (very) old friends of hers. I didnāt stay that long but that was just because I was tired. It was nice to see lots of folks I know from before. And see them sober.
I need to be out soon because Iām getting vaccinated this morning. After that Iām not sure yet. Might go straight back home. The weatherās not particularly appealing. Then again, if I wait for better weather I might have to wait until April or May. Iāll see. One day at a time right. Have as good a day as you all can friends. Sober and clean. Love from last nightās ferry across the IJ.
@peterc Welcome to Talking Sober Peter. This place has made the difference for me. Or my attendance here to be more precise. Take your time to read, to get to know the site and its members, support, get supported, gain knowledge, share, read, experience that youāre not alone. The opposite of addiction is connection. Weāre in this together. Welcome again and all success friend.
@Becsta Beautiful numbers my sober sister! Always such a pleasure to see you around 
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Hi guys! After a long time of isolation I try to get active here again. Currently Iām at a point where after being over some tough stuff (major depression and then an intensive grief ā this one isnāt completely over yet) Iām feeling paralyzed mentally not knowing how to go on. My life seems empty and although I started to make some new connections I donāt feel I would be able to get attached to others any more. I was never good at it, but now it seems impossible to achieve, and without it everything seems boring and pointless. So Iām not at my best, but I have a very good therapist and Iām still sober and I havenāt stopped being grateful for that.
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Oh, itās great to see you checking in with us. 
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Hey Tom, Iām sorry youāre having a tough time. You sound lonely but unable to handle too much socially. Iāve mentioned on here a few times that I tend to do the worst thing when Iām downā¦ I turn in on myself and donāt connect with others. You donāt see it when youāre in the fog, but being around others is the antedote.
Iām grateful to have seen your post today, and that youāve checked in sober. I hope things go well in therapy too, and there are better days ahead
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Itās good to see you! Youāre always thought about. Will be nice to have you here. Good to hear some good things amidst the darkness. Sorry that times are hard. Big hugs to you.
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Checking in sober 
Our youngest kids birthday today, heās 5yrs old! We are going out for a meal at an Italian place we like, he loves their spag bol 
later he will have cake and a little party 
Have a great sober day one and all
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Late night/early morning check in. Had a blast with coworkers tonight as we all saw 1am twice. I havenāt really spent any time with anyone outside work in a while so it was nice to get out of my empty house. Plus tomorrow is the first Sunday weāre closed since spring so no one has to work in the morning. I can finally sleep in for the first time in 3 weeks!
I offered to be DD for a few of them so it took a while getting home, but worth it to me knowing they all got home safe. Most of those who do drive are responsible and either only have 1-2 or are able to stop drinking for a while before leaving, which is something I cannot fathom. How does one just stop after theyāve started? Seems impossible to someone like me.
Had to eat a bit and wind down for a while but Iām finally ready for bed. No alarm in the morning! Thatās exciting 
Goodnight
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Day 134. Dad maybe discharged tomoro. Then I can settle him home and drive back to Cornwall. Itās so cold in Liverpool
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Itās good to see you friend. Still struggling with connecting in day to day life here too. But Iām still very happy to be connecting here. One day at a time as it goes. Hugs.
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Great that you made the choice to come back here. I am sorry for your grief but proud of you that through it all you kept your sobriety. That proves how bad you want it and how committed you are. Hang in there.
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Itās O dark early and I am getting ready to go to the airport to go see family in Ohio. Staying sober there will be pretty easy compared to home since none of the family and friends that I am seeing drinks. I will be really busy and will check in here every day, but may be short and sweet. Stay strong everyone. We got this!
Kim d22
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Checking in, Day 52.
Today I am using every tiny bit of patience I have to parent a very grumpy 12 year old, while making time for her brother. I always joke that I looked the same age in photos after having her brother, and aged a decade after her 
She was a high needs baby, and that hasnāt changed as she has grown. The hormones are kicking in and trying to help her manage that is hard work.
We managed to get out for a family walk. She wasnāt coming until the last minute, and then she managed to injure herself on the walk so it ended early and she is now even grumpier 
Now we are watching YouTube videos of skateparks to cheer her up. Oh we have moved on to flags.
So anyway, Day 52. I hope everyone else is having a more successful day than me!
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Good morning fam 
Up super early this morning with kiddies, and we are watching my sons favourite thingā¦videos of cars and trucks. I find his obsession with cars and trucks a little funny. Like Sesame Street sit down, because watching tractors plow is the hot topic.
Had a girls night last night and im so grateful for my new friend. I am slow to make friends irl. I am friendly, but an introvert and i have long been someone who really has to click with people for relationships to go somewhere. Anyway, i justā¦at 37 i have met a new friend and im just so grateful for her.
We went for dinner, thrifting (i have been curbinf myself here LOL) and to see Killers of a Flower Moon. We were out until 1am and I just cannot remember the last time I did that with a friend or one of my sisters. Probablg not since before my first kid was born.
Got home and hubby was here with 2 of our buddies, and it made me happy.
Friendships are an amazing treasure. I think hanging witj friends is a medicine in itself. I had a hard time falling asleep thinking of my sister beinf gone, though i think maybe the theme in the movie may have triggered that. But I am okay.
I am sober. I am grateful. Sure i get overstimulated and have shit days, but thinking about how diff our generation is then our parents. Frankly we more fucking tired bc our parents didnt worry about what the hell was going on with us 
Problems with a friend? She just jealous you fine. Problems in school? Get ur shit together. Sex talk? Dont get pregnant. You doing good? Great. You not? Quit being a shit. Boom basics. Meanwhile we overhere trying not to do what our parents did, but i know theres going to be consequences to teaching these kids about emotions and speaking they mind LOL.
Anyway I am rambling (as per the usual). Just yesterday I was having a tense dayā¦it went sount for a very small reason, and time out with my friend it was really good.
Going to dive deeper into findinf a job & figuring out how to hook our woodstove up to the old oil furnance flue.
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Day 400 af
Day 21 social media detox 
The sore muscles are feeling better but they still hurt. This is the consequence of the last days when I didnāt know when to stop.
No walk today, itās sunny but more wind again.
The plaques on my hands and feet keep on healing. Iām sure that the changes in my diet and tweaking my supplements made it. Iām off of sweets and junk food completely, same with gluten. I eat far less inflammatory food now, I try to eat as pure / clean as possible.
Time to hang the laundry out (I hope it doesnāt fly away lol) and then more relaxing 
Have a beautiful sober day friends, stay strong 
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@Deelzebub Well done! 
@DresdenLaPage There are some super nice vacuum cleaners these days! There is a shopping centre with a huge electrical store and you can try all these vacuum cleaners. Some are so light, cordless and have automatic emptying.
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I just finished my first shift where I walked to and from work. Itās only 4 blocks but my anxiety during my drinking years made me extremely anxious and fearful. This felt good and empowering. I walked to work at 2 am and home from work at 6 am. Iāve traveled to other countries by myself, lived alone for many years, scuba and sky dived yet these 4 blocks felt like a tremendous accomplishment.
Iām coming up on 21 months sober. I set an intention at the beginning of every year and my next year Iām getting back to fearless.
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@Becsta Congratulations
@Hidden Exactly. Having a fulfilling and present life, rather than one you are always sneaking, pretending, or checking out of.
@Tomek Nice to see you again.
@Sabrina Yay
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My vac is a stand up cleaner. I paid Ā£88.99 for it and it sucks all the dust up from my floor. I had one before that was an extended hand held one but I sucked up some coffee and it caught fire while I was holding it. I threw it out my balcony while it was on fire and then collected it once the fire had gone out. I donāt have it anymore
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