I struggle on and off with sweet things, snacks, and anything naughty to fill the gap left by booze.
One of the key ways to challenge that for me is finding food that feels like a treat but is, in moderation, healthy.
So, I like a small handful of (unsalted) cashews or a kiwi fruit, or plums. I love sunflower seeds too. Or a small handful of dried dates. Mmmmm. Sweet n tasty.
Try freezing grapes (or strawberries or raspberries or blueberries!) putting a bit of natural yoghurt on them and stirring in freshly squeezed lemon juice too. That feels naughty but isnāt. Maybe add some seeds or other nuts for crunch.
Iām no angel like I say but creating some nice, healthy treats that kid your brain that youāre being bad really helps me!
Just remember to be portion aware with nuts,fruit, dried fruit and other stuff. I have scales and if Iām unsure how calorific my portion is I weigh it. Not always, but enough to be self aware and stay in control.
With nuts and seeds watch out for added salt and sugar and stick with natural.
Hey thank u sooo much for ur insight and suggestions! I really appreciate it. I think thats something i need to work on, finding healthier snacks that are satisfying to me. And making sure my portions are correct thanks again!
Sorry to hear about your relapse @Cp25
Donāt give up on yourself Cynthia. You made it to 30 days thatās awesome. Try to find out what caused the relapse and work on. You can do it!
Glad you made it back home without stopping by for bad wine @Juli1 Toxic family members can be a trigger, donāt let it get too close to you. Weāre with you!
@Butterflymoonwoman what a busy week it is for you. Hope the MRI works smooth for your son und the results are positive! Take care of yourself to Dana and try to get some time to rest. Sending strength and positive thoughts your way
Congratulations on your first day in sobriety @SoberMama39. Glad youāre here with us. Read around the threads and find what works for you.
Wishing you all the best on your journey!
Thank u soo my friend i do tend to forget about taking care of myself, so I want to thank u for the reminder. Ill make sure to get some self care in and time to just sit and relax. Im behind on my New York Virtual Conqueror Challenge and so I do want to get back on track with that (which benefits my health)
I thought it was probably done while he was asleep as he is still so little, adds a whole layer of upset to you. My son used to have them regularly after his stroke and it used to break my heart when he went under and they would take him from my arms immediately. The room would go from a friendly, calm place for him, to me being pushed out of a room for a medical procedure. Please take good care of yourself, it is an awful lot for you to go through. I really hope it is good news
Thank you sooo much for relating to me, although I wish you didnt have to. I hope everything is okay with your son now
Being a medical parent has its own sort of trauma i feel. And self care is crucial. Its very easy to lose urself as a person, when the focus is all on their medical needs, procedures, appts etc. I dont regret doing that but at the same time, im a better parent for him, when i look after myself too.
How does one celebrate the birthday of their neice while spending time with their palliative sibling in the same room on the same dayā¦
My mind is a cluster f*** right now.
Iāve tucked tail like a dying dog to isolate myself in a bedroom, with gut twisting pain, tears pouring down the sides of my face, while the rest gather and try to make the best of their time together.
I am struggling to cope and especially struggling with how cruel and beautiful life can be all at the exact same time. Doing my best to pull myself together so I too can spend time with everyone.
Welcome to the community and a huge congrats on your start to sobriety! This is a cunning disease and it is super difficult at the beginning of sobriety. Hang tight and take it one moment at a time. If possible, create a clean safe space at home. For me, I had to change up my routines so that I would not feel triggered or have temptations. I also slept a lot and kept myself super busy as to keep myself distracted. Support groups like AA or recovery groups are helpful if have time to check one out. I was lucky enough to find this community and spent a ton of time here engaging with my fellow mates so that I did not feel alone. We are here with you on this journey - you are not alone. Lean on us if / when the urges get intense. Do remember that the cravings will pass.
Sending you strength my friend. I do hope to see you checking in here.
@chunkborealis SO grate to see you checking in. Sorry to hear about your loss Hoping you have a wonderful time planning your daughterās 2nd birthday party. @sadmemequeen How are you doing Megan? Grateful you had a good time with your Grandpa. I do hope that you are able to find a new doctor. Please note that this is in no way your fault. @peterc wishing you well with your detox. Just take it one day at a time. For me it was important to keep busy and keep myself away from my triggers. If possible, try to make sure you donāt have anything in the house to make you tempted. We are here with you so reach out if you are having a hard time. @sunny11 Way to go with 3 weeks ā keep going strong @jennyh I totally feel the pull of the holiday season and itās ties to our addictions. Our minds will spin many stories and yes that negotiating is relentless. Just remember to only focus on the moment at hand. Last year I did my first sober Christmas and I found that by having a few pitchers of mocktails at hand helped keep me sober. Just remember that we are right here with you if the urges or negotiations get loud. @timetochange Your dad has been through a lot. His body may need time to relax and slowly strengthen the muscles again. Wishing him a healthy and quick recovery. I hear you on the work / life balance. It is a fine line. I do keep reminding myself that I want to work to live and not live to work . Its even better when you enjoy your work. @deelzebub nice catch on the time. Hugs my friend ā you are doing a fantastic job and should be proud of your sober journey @trixie1 Way to keep going strong with 58 days AF! We all have our own paths of how to beat our addictions. I just did my first meeting this past week as well as I needed some extra support with the upcoming holiday season. I do hope your meeting went well. @brokenwolf Hey Richard ā I am sorry for the fucked up day you are having. Can we help in any way? We are here to listen. Sending you love and comfort @butterflymoonwoman Hope you were able to get some rest this evening. Sending you positive energy vibes for your sonās medical appointments next week. We are here for you friend - i know your emotions will be flying high next week. Sending you so much love
Or 302. Iām not sure how to count it as itās nearly 4 am and I havenāt slept. I really really need to sort out my sleep. Today I got up at 1 pm, ran some errands, then worked till 1 am, had my tea, watched two episodes of Six Feet Under (great show, a classic!) and now Iām in bed trying to sleep.
My sleep cycle is fucked and next Saturday Iāll have to wake up early because weāre going out of town for a memorial meal family thingy for my uncle. My husband bowed out, so Iām gonna be there alone.
I get it. I encouraged him to skip it because heās been so good at attending family functions these past few weeks and they do suck for him. Apart from me, no one really makes the effort to talk to him, even the ones who speak English barely bother saying more than hello. Butā¦ I hate it when heās not with me. Heās just so good at keeping me calm.
Rightā¦ Iām done rambling. Next week is next week. Now I gotta get some sleep.
Hope you all have a wonderful sober addiction free Monday.
Day 884. It was a decent day. Worked outside raking leaves and went for a nice long bicycle ride. The weather was unseasonably warm. Took the kids on a lantern walk. Also I begrudgingly turned 45. Wishing everyone peace today
Thank you so much friend!! I always, ALWAYS appreciate ur love and support. Im just going to take things 1 day at a time. Take each day as it comes and do my best. Friday will be the most anxious day out of the week for sure (and the days that follow as i wait for results). But ill be glad to hear that things are stable for him. Thinking positive
Whats causing the stress for u my friend? Have u had any down time from work lately? Or are u working this weekend? Excited to see u entering the 400s very soon!!! Yay!!!
Potential health issue. Just nervous and uncomfortable.
Iāll know more soon though.
No down time from work yet. But I am taking a week off starting this Thursday. So hopefully everything will work out.
Oh noā¦ i hope everything is okay. Im so glad to hear that ur taking a week off tho. U sooooooo deserve that! Thinking of u and sending u strength and healing energy
thanks again!
Iām glad you went home.
Just nervous and uncomfortable.
