Checking in Day 72
Sending a very Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. Although I am living in Canada I am American and usually cook a small Thanksgiving meal for the family. We will be eating soon, my daughter is trying a new recipe…Hasselback potatoes, I made a Ham! Thankful to be sober and present:pray:t5:
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Congratulations on 200 whole days!!
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Morning sober fam 
Didn’t sleep too well last night due to a bad dream. Doesn’t happen often…
Going to meet a distant cousin today for the first time, who’s visiting Australia from Germany. Plan to go some places with her and a flatmate before work in the eve, looking forward to some swimming again too!
Hope you have a nice and/or productive friday guys! 
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Day 37. It was a good day. Went to 2 meetings this morning. Got together with a group of sober peeps for a meet up. Had a nice time woth fam. Got to spend time and play with my granddaughter:). Now relaxing before bed and wishing I had some icecream haha. Oh well maybe tomorrow. Have a great night my friends.
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7 days…no its not the Ring…im 7 days sober woop
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Congrats on a week!
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Hey ya’ll,
I feel I have been missing in action on here, and part of it is that I am nursing my son less so I dont have that time where I sit and read! Still wanting to check in & read a little.
Got the job at the daycare just have to do my CPR training which I have actually always wanted to do. I wish they offered courses during the week but it appears its a weekend thing. Just very busy for hubby to be on his own whole weekend but its okay. Very happy the interview went well and it sounds like what I am looking for in terms of flexibility and being so close to home! Its the school across from my kids school so thats just great, and where I volunteer is also across from my kids school LOL SMALL TOWN LIFE
Feeling good, and grounded. Which is interesting considering all the change. I have a real way about me when it comes to dealing with things and I am starting to actually see that in me and appreciate it, instead of coming down on myself for showing emotion or getting worked up. So what. Get a little worked up now and then, we all got a personality 
I have started writing my victim impact statement. The trial is not until Feb but of course thinking about it all the time and thinking of my brother in law, and what I will say and how I feel. How i feel towards him. Dealing with blind hatred is very complex; but so i find is dealing with the absence of it. There is just saddness. I find i am more angry at the system for failing my sister and women in domestic situations, and how the courts are set up to fail her still in the aftermath. It is just my feeling now and I am processing.
Off to the city tomofrow with my daughter for a little girl time. I notice i feel more confident in myself then I have perhaps ever felt in my whole life; EXCEPT when it comes to being her mom. Its interesting and Im kind of watching that part of me that constantly feels like a failure; constantly feels like I must be doing damage or am missing things. Interesting how our mind; heart & souls work.
Keep on everyone. Happy 25 xo…
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Checking in
Day 648
Was very much a relaxed day. Didnt do a whole lot. Legs are still extremely sore from my workout 2 days ago. I hope i didnt injure them. Got my sons formula from the hospital and went and grabbed my meds. Came home for a bath with epsom salts and then did a bit of cleaning after my nap.
Got a call from my sons school that there are a few kids sort of teasing him. One child apparently kicked his wheelchair and playing with his brakes. Im not happy about this obviously. I think the principal handled it well and so hopefully it wont happen again. But ya, im sort of stewing over this in my head. Im verrrrry protective over my son and im a strong advocator for equality and for making sure my sons needs are met. I am really going to have to learn to be polite yet firm when dealing with these kinds of issues in the future (hopefully there wont be any issues), bcuz the mama bear comes out in me toooo easily.
Hope everyone has a good day/night. Proud of every single one of us 
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Checking in on day 895.
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Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrated! Mine was okay. Worked 10-5. It was dreadfully boring. We used to get a great turnout, 200+ people, but ever since 2020 the numbers never recovered. Maybe 70/80. Then straight to my parents for dinner and games til 10pm. Long day with very little down time. And back to work in 11 hours 
I’m already looking forward to work ending so I can have 24hrs to myself. Pretty tired so I’m off to bed shortly.
I’m thankful for this forum filled with you wonderful people My family and the time we can spend together. My job, even when I don’t feel like going. Restful sleep 
And of course my sobriety. Goodnight!
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Day 768 AF
Happy Thanksgiving, fam.
It was a chill day at the in-law’s and my mom’s. Ate way too much. It’s only 9pm and I already feel like passing out. Looks like ima survive another holiday without booze. We don’t have any plans tomorrow. We’ll probably head back to the fam’s and finish the left over foodies.
I’ll catch with y’all later. Have a goodnite and stay safe!
ODAAT.
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Day 66:
Missed checking in the last couple of days, it’s been busy, but good. Went to see the Trans-Siberian Orchestra Tuesday night. If you haven’t had the chance to see the show DON’T 
. It is so over the top cheesy, at least in my opinion. Sorry if you love it 
Short work day Wednesday, prepped my home for Thanksgiving dinner and then went to dinner at my friends house.
Up early this morning, good Thanksgiving workout at my gym. Needed to burn off some calories before I stuffed myself! Came home and started getting the turkey ready. Big 17 lb bird this year to ensure plenty of leftovers. My kids, my mom, my sister, her husband, their son, and my brothers son (brother is in the hospital recovering from Diverticulitis) all came over. Great dinner: Turkey, gravy, stuffing, mashed potatoes, brussel sprouts, asparagus, carrots, rolls and of course pumpkin pie! I’m stuffed.
My sister and her husband drink. They had their drinks in water bottles, but I could smell it. The idea of drinking crossed my mind, but just stayed busy with the dinner. They left and so did the thoughts of drinking. I’m banged up with a food hangover no need to add the alcohol hangover on top of that!
All in all a successful thanksgiving and I’m excited to be off of work tomorrow.
Spent some time getting caught up on this thread. Congrats to all those stacking days and sending love and strength to those struggling, hang in there, it’s worth it, one day at a time!
Much Love!
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Got some stuff to talk through with my therapist this morning. Complicated stuff. Hope I dare to bring it up and be totally honest about it otherwise it’s no use. I do trust her (and some others in my life) so that’s a good starting point. And quite a statement to make for me, who for 50+ years didn’t trust anyone in the world. Including myself.
Four and a half years of continued sobriety gave me the possibility to work on my issues and the results are showing. Still a work in progress but the progress is there. In fact there will never be a finished product. Well, when my life will be over it will be but hoping that I have some time left. One day at a time.
Hope all you Americans made it through Thanksgiving unscathed. And everybody have as good a day as you all can friends. Sober and clean. I will. Love from Amsterdam.
@Alycia Proud of you for guarding your boundaries and practicing self care. You deserve a happy life X.
@JazzyS Hope your health issues will be dealt with in the best possible way. ODAAT in that too. Take care.
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@mossy91 Hey friend – hope today was easier for you. How are you feeling?
@butterflymoonwoman thanks friend. I am learning to be patient and yes accepting that it is okay to ask questions and not jump to decisions. I appreciate your support Dana… thank you my friend. Yesterday was a super emotional day but I am grateful for this place and my HP for getting me through. OMG Dana – I am sorry to hear that your son was being teased. Kids really can be so cruel. I do hope that the principal took care of this. Big hugs to your son 
@xlexenex Welcome to the community Chandler! Great work on your sober time – keep going strong
@rob11 thanks Rob – Grateful that you are already feeling relieved from starting sertraline. Hope you continued success with it
Awe thanks friend 
And yes – this is a mind blowing reminder – we are amazing beings! LOL on your source being Eminem. I do agree – we need to dream big and reach for the stars. Anything and Everything is possible. Much love Mulan – you are amazing.
@happyfeet Oh thank you so much Anne! I am grateful and really appreciate you for sharing your story. Am in a much better head space today and will figure this out the right way with a clear head. 
@alycia I am sorry that you have had such a challenging week. It is difficult when our loved ones create such a negative space and need to be cut off for our own sanity and health. Sending you love and strength to stand up for yourself. We are here if you need to talk cause I do understand how hard these decisions can be even when they are necessary. I do love all your crocheting work – grateful you have that to help keep your mind occupied.
@bomdhil thank you Thomas – Day 35! Love the caption too – 24//375 Grateful. I truly am in awe with how much the Gratitude practice has helped me on this sober journey. So blessed
@thewolf Great job on 200 days! You should fee proud of your accomplishments – keep up the great work!
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I wish you strenght for your appointment. But I guess it could be a relief as well to talk about it with your therapist. Most of the time (for me at the least) there is more fear ore worries before the event then during and feeling so much lighter afterwards. I wish you a big break trough appointment in a good way Menno!
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@Lotusflower Thanks Des! Hasselback potatoe? Had to look this up – looks yummy:yum: Hope you and yours had a wonderful Thanksgiving today.
Did I mention you crack me up 
all good love – you keep doing you in full confidence and assertion. No need to share - i just love this for you. Love that you are doing so well and you should be super proud of your accomplishments.
@residentevil Way to go on 7 days – 1 week milestone! Keep going strong
@mira_d So grateful that your interview went well. Wishing you luck and strength with your statement. Know we are here for you
@mno Thank you! ODAAT is so right and yes, this is how I will tackle it. Sending you strength in being open with your therapist. Hope you have a great session.
Checking in on Friday morning (it is now 1:18 am here) … Hope everyone who celebrates had a wonderful Thanksgiving. I was grateful that my brother did all the cooking and i was able to relax. It was a laid back day. I was glad that everyone was mellow and doing busy talking so i could slip out to rest. My leg has been bothering me all day and not sure why. I am sure it will sort itself out soon enough.
Grateful to have enjoyed my La Croix’s and kept my sober head! I also asked that any weed we smoked out on balcony or front porch - i did not want the garage to be a hot box. So grateful that my wishes were respected. Had a wonderful heart to heart 2 hour talk with my brother afterwards. I am so grateful to be surrounded by so much support.
Wishing everyone a wonderful addiction free day / evening! Sending you all so much love
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Day 6 AF 
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Well turns out the cold i have is covid, oh the joys…my face feels like its beating and my nose is pouring! On a lighter note i just broke wind and the dog growled at it which made me laugh
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Day 12 checking in
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Nighttime check in on day 645. Thanksgiving is over and I am so happy I went. I hugged my Mom, my sister wasn’t drunk and I spent a lot of time with my sweet nephew.
I cried as soon as I got in the car on the drive home. I still have a lot of unresolved emotional stuff around my family. I often feel not good enough for them and I don’t know where that comes from. I still have a lot of emotional work to do around my relationship with my Mother. I feel emotionally unregulated when I’m around her and I am often on the verge of tears when we are just in casual conversation.
I will not lie, I was tempted to drink when I got home and had my husband not been here I might have. He keeps his alcohol in the house and even though they are sickly sweet (to me) ciders I might have drank one. Instead I drank tea, ate a lot of leftovers, watched Mad Max (the original) and put myself to bed.
I didn’t drink and I did learn. My family is still a huge trigger for me so I need to watch myself here. I have decided that my theme for 2024 will be to operate under the assumption that there is nothing wrong with me. This may be confusing to some as I am an addict but there is nothing wrong with me. I’m just me. Maybe I skip Christmas. Onward!!
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