Hi James, why not join us in the daily gratitude thread instead of stopping daily check-in?
It really helps me to write down everyday the positives in life. Even if I start my day a bit meh thinking I won’t come up with anything I’m grateful for, after writing I always catch myself smiling. Don’t stop daily check-in, I think it’s an important part of our recovery. It sure is for me…
Just an idea! 
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Im alive
I made it!!!
Super proud
Very tired
And no excuses, i will not pick up
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I love how our stories are so similar Pavlov. And I am so psyched that we are January 2024 sober buddies!!! I have been watching our group of newbies and it is quite strong.
@Violagirl Congrats on day 30. Don’t worry, the seed has been planted that it is an option to never drink again. But you don’t have to believe it right now. Just believe that you should not use any for this current 24 hour period time. Then reassess tomorrow if it was that hard, and maybe you can do it again.
Happy Friday friends
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Huge congrats on 30 days! Thats an awesome milestone. Please do yourself a favor and dont trip on the thought of forever. Focus on the present. Take it a day at a time. Way to go so far!
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The harder the fight, the greater the triumph. I am feeling that so hard this morning! Xo.
I saw a movie recently that made me cry (not much has that effect), and the main character was speaking about a debt owed to someone. He said how it wasnt a choice, and I jist felt the burn and tears. I know this feeling, when it is not a choice. There is something very powerful in that.
Wrote that rhis AM, and now off to sleep. Very tired, but had a good day. Added things to an SAF presented by all parties for fam court - CPS is on some BS, and I am asking our lawyer to ammend every area theu gloss over/take credit for things they did not do. It will not escape me to write at length and in great detail what they/this system has done to our family and is doing to others. But that is many steps down the road, one step at a time. But I will not agree to a legal document being put forward that is full of blatant self-serving lies. Institutions like these are very dangerous, in that they are so powerful and important yet they serve themselves. They perpetuate the very problems they claim to be trying to fix. I saw a post that said:
Whats the greatest scam that has been normalized?
The fact that a child can be removed from their family of origin due to a lack of resources and support, and be placed with a foster family who is subsequently given said resources and support.
We’re off in the city. Man having little kids is exhausting! Lol but i do love every minute of it. We bring them to the city and they are fascinated with the funniest of things. I just love being around them, watching my husbadn around thrm. So much about the future scares me and its hard to think about, but I am tryinf to hold on.
Hold on everyone. HOLD THE HELL ON XO.
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I just wanted to say, please dont stop sharing because you feel like its a negative vibe out to others.
For what its worth, life is hard and its okay to talk about it here. And when you shared your experience, I myself felt a little less alone. I wanted to say that ehen you initially posted about your situation, but I didnt want to overstep by talking about what I was going through (as i know it is different). Anyway, I understand the idea behind positive = positive, negative = negative but life = life. And a lot of beautiful things come from worki g through the hard times, and beautiful things can come of doing/sharing that with others. Now all that being said, I do appreciate what youre saying and think you have to do whatevr feels right to you! But when you said you didnt want to bring anone else down, I jist had to jump up like NAH AH! You gave me something when you shared what youre experiencing, and I appreciated it very much to know…
When we struggle but our eyes are open to the struggles of others, and our heart can still feel gratitude in the midst of chaos…that is a positive experience we give to ourselves and others. Xo.
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Have you ever been to an actual AA meeting? When I found this place, it was a Godsend for sure, and I absorbed as much advice as I could, every day. One thing I heard over and over was to give AA a try. I didn’t feel I needed it yet but kept it on the back burner. At 60 days sober I was feeling lost and stuck, ruminating my past, so I looked up meetings and found one right around the corner from me. It immediately changed my life and recovery for the better. Idk how your availability to meetings is, but I recommend trying one if you haven’t. Those online ones were okay for quarantine, but they are just not the same as in person. Just a thought 
All the best!
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@cat10 Great work on day 2 and getting through the dinner with water. 
Sounds like a wonderful and fascinating exercise.
@anon68572606 I totally get being in a slump and becoming overwhelmed with negativity. It is no reason to stop checking in or working on your recovery. In fact, you may need to work harder on your self care and mental positivity. Gratitude thread, the just for fun threads help me on this site when I’m feeling myself stuck in a negative spiral. Spending time outdoors and surrounding myself with comic relief (stand up comedy, silly cartoons or comic strips…etc) – laughter really does wonders. Sending some positive vibes your way.
@zzz Hope the Motal Kombat helped. Not all my urges come from when I am feeling down – some are romanticized notions of when I used to have fun. I love your line of feeling like a gorilla in the jungle. Hope the relapse feelings have faded.
@catmama23 1 month AF is awesome work Lauren 
Wish I had better words for support my friend – screaming and pounding into a pillow are helpful. Grateful to see you doing so well with your emotional growth and your timers.
@kareness sweet of you to say. Hope you are enjoying your weekend and your head empties out that garbage. 
@steve92 so sorry that you are experiencing such depression today. How did the day go? Here if you need someone to talk to. Great to hear that you have managed another day free of your addictions.
@louloubelle Thank you for checking in with us on your 200 days of being addiction free!
@mesober Well done on your sober time! For me the withdrawals were easier to deal with as I kept my mind and hands busy. Sending you strength
@violagirl Nicely done with your 1 month of sobriety. I try not to focus on the “forever” part. For me, I am excited to have made it to 400+ days (when I couldn’t string together a few days). Try to just work on today . I try to remind myself of why i started down the path and what i have gained in being sober. Reminding myself that even my good memories of when i was drinking / smoking were not as great as the memories i am making in my sobriety.
@naomi I am sorry for the news your dad received today. Sending you big hugs my friend. Know we are right here for you Glad that you are able to get this time together with your family. Hope you enjoy those weekend pancakes tomorrow 
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Congratulations on 6 months @Dilettante 
Whoot whoot
My 6months coming up on Monday 
so it means we’re almost sober twins 
Have a great sober weekend everyone 
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@pavlovs_dog Great work on your 16 days. Thank you for sharing your story. I totally agree with how it is a two way street of support on these threads. Grateful you are here with us:pray:
So grateful for this too Dana. I am so sorry that you find yourself having to deal with overnight shifts. They really do a number on your physical, mental and emotional health. Hope that you find some time to rest. We do need to be able to have flexibility in our routines when wrenches are thrown in or we can find ourselves overwhelmed. Sending you love my friend. 
@noshame glad you made it home safely friend . What a lovely reminder -grateful that it helped get you through your shift.
Checking in on Friday evening…
401 days free of alcohol and weed
816 days free of cigarettes
Its been a lovely Friday. I didn’t get all the computer work done which is ok. I had a massive migraine which i was able to calm down with a nap this afternoon. Glad that i was able to get ready and head over to visit with my mom this evening. Got some errands run. Maintained my positive attitude for today. All in all a great start to the weekend.
Wishing everyone a wonderful addiction free day / evening! Sending you all so much love
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Sorry I missed your 400 days AFAF!!
Congrats on the 401 too
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Checking in Day 25. Very tired but wanted to check in and wish everyone a healthy happy sober weekend.
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Thank you Eric. Really appreciate you and grateful to have on this journey with me.
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Congratulations on you 200 days Loulou. Probably 201 when you get this. Anyway. EXCELLENT job 
Love it
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Day 709. I had a hard mental day today. I didn’t sleep well and I was snappy. I made it through work without tears or anger and took myself gently home. I fed my body good food and my mind good entertainment and I will live to fight another day. Be kind to yourselves folks.
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Great post Pavlov, nice to see you on the road to recovery 
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Oh yeas cravings was gone quite soon. My victory rate increased a lot. I made rage 
quit some players that is just really fun when happens 
I think many players fights when drunk on Friday. I need to use that on my advantage next ime
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From one moment to the next the sun is back. For as long as it lasts that is, so I better go out and enjoy it while I can
. Still journalling, coffee, breakfast and checking in here is the perfect start to my day, every day. Makes me feel present. Checked in with myself and checked in with the world. Have as good a day as you all can friends. Sober and clean. Love.
@Louloubelle 200! Yeah Louise! Awesome work!
@Pavlovs_Dog NA really helped me early on. But Talking Sober is my tribe. During my stay here I got better in in person socializing. Still, this place, with its huge bandwidth of people from different walks of life, cultures, countries, genders, religions or lack thereof, makes me feel right at home. I learned a lot from 12 step programs, but also from loads of other ways of looking at myself and my addictions. For me it’s choosing what helps and leaving the rest and that’s not cherry picking. It’s my journey of Discovery. ODAAT. I’m glad you’re here.
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