Checking in daily to maintain focus #64

@maxwell Oh dear friend – you are not the only one and you are not alone. Please get the notion that something is wrong with you cause there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Try to be gentle with yourself love. You are doing fantastic with 85 days. It took me some time to get my motivation to do anything other than focus on my sobriety. This alone is a huge feat and you should be proud of yourself daily! Take things slowly and tackle them with first things first and remind yourself that there is no clock on it – take it at your pace. :hugs: I am proud of your achievements Maxine :heart:

LOL I love everything about it and so well said. I agree that this was gold. BTW $1 to pee? WTF – this is something I haven’t ever heard of before – threw me for a loop. Would rather visit your town anyways. Maybe meet up and have Fika together :hugs: :coffee:
@acromouse WOW double digits on two timers!!! You are crushing it. Thanks friend. I am trying to deal with pain through lymph massages, essential oil rubs, deep breathing and a lot of Praying. I did start doing some acupuncture that was helping some but am unable to do that at the moment. I had given up all medications in Jan ’23 with maybe a handful of Aleve throughout the year if I had a really bad migraine. Did take the meds for a few days after surgery but am not putting any more medication in my body. Hoping that this will be a distant memory soon.
@jennyh lovely to see you popping in friend. You have been missed and thought about often. Glad to see you on day 3. Congrats on the move and the promotion. Both can be huge stressors. Just remember to apply first things first and keep pushing forward with your tools – you are stronger than the addiction and you know we all got your back. Be gentle with yourself and keep on reading – join in whenever you feel ready :people_hugging: OOF – just read your update – grateful that you quit your job – no job is worth your health and it took me years to figure that out. Glad you are here with us Jenny.
@timetochange not daft at all. We all have our coping mechanisms to get rid of the drinking that we then have to work on – mine was ice cream. I do enjoy some kombucha, a La Croix or similar sparkling water and teas for evening refreshments. Wishing you luck in reducing / stopping with the AF drinks.
@dresdenlapage HAPPY BIRTHDAY :birthday: :cake: :tada; Some interesting facts – thanks for sharing. Good to see you checking in.
@beachmouse WAY TO GO – 1 week milestone and going strong :muscle:
@ofmiceandroach check you out with 49 days! Great work on doing your research and prepping for the job. Fingers crossed that you get it but if you don’t then you have a goal set to strive for. Don’t give up on this. Wishing you luck
@tragicfarinelli 90 days! Woot woot – girl you are doing it and doing it well. Glad to see you working on yourself and your sobriety with such diligence. Keep up the amazing work. Hopefully you are free of all your pain.

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@lainenicole96 Not a broken record friend – you sound like anyone of us in our journey. I know I have been where you are for years and with all the good intentions I would set I would still shamefully buy my next bottle and cigs. It did not matter what hurdles or obstacles I set up for myself – I would find a way around them to get that fix. You are here on day 3 and that is fantastic. Keep up the amazing work and remember you can’t do this alone – we need each other and whatever support we can get to get rid of this addictive beast. :hugs:
@newbeginning1 YES 1 week and going strong. Great to see you checking in and glad you are doing well.
@butterflymoonwoman so grateful that you are all home. Hope your son continues to heal and hopefully you all get a better nights rest tonight. In my thoughts and prayers love- sending you hugs :people_hugging:
@lighter I am so sorry for the PAWS feelings Marie – they do come out of no where and tend to hit hard. Sleep is a great go to option to get some rest and settle these feelings. I do hope you are able to get a good nights sleep and wake up feeling light and airy. :hugs:
@TrustyBird I do like that number - 770 :tada: Thanks for the warning and heads up - i never would have thought that OTC mood vitamins would have over the daily dose of any vitamin without a warning label. Many of us take multi vitamins or have a vitamin regimen and this could be very harmful. Glad you were able to see the effects right away.

Checking in on Wednesday night…
462 days free of alcohol and weed
877 days free of cigarettes
Feels so weird that i hardly get to check in on TS as often as i used to. I am grateful for all of you and glad that we are all here helping each other overcome our nasty addictions.
Was without internet for most of today which really sucked. Glad i had some stuff downloaded for entertainment (although i never got around to watching it). Tried to read a book but only got a few pages in. Mainly kept busy with trying to make sure my mom was ok and managing my own pain. Did get the CT results finally and they show nothing - still not sure what the cause of the pain can be. Hoping to talk to my surgeon next week when she returns.
Staying positive and keeping my head high. ODAAT! Hope everyone has a wonderful addiction free day / evening. Wishing you all so much love :heart: :heart:

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After everything I did yesterday, I was pretty beat today. That’s how it always goes. I did respond to some emails and filled out paperwork that’s been lying around for a while. It’s something. Then we went to my parents to color Easter eggs. Same as every year, but nice. I’ll take the rejects for an easy snack at work tomorrow. Going to bed earlier bc I’ve been having trouble waking up these past few mornings. Have a good 24 :blush:

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Day 9

Sleeping is really enjoyable these days, Getting 7+ hours good sleep everyday Which makes my day so much beautiful than before !

Currently in office, My appetite is boosted my stomach need food every 3 hours :slight_smile:

Yesterday had little cravings but I asked myself if i start my life will be like before and i compared myself today and before.

Sober life is happiness life :slight_smile:

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@JazzyS Endless hugs :people_hugging::people_hugging::people_hugging: I never considered acupuncture for pain :thinking:
@Mira_D I remember my daughter always reacting to changes in her schedule when she was little. Every time we had to reset the clock in spring and fall, when some holidays disrupted her kindergarden week, all sorts of stuff. I think it takes them longer to incorporate these changes and it shows in their behaviour. Now that she’s a preteen she is far more flexible. Some things get easier with age :wink:
@s_unrelax Great job Sarath! Be nice to your body. Feed it all it needs :mending_heart:
@TrustyBird Trying to come up with occasions where I’d put on shoes but no pants :thinking::joy:
@Lighter :muscle:t2::muscle:t2::muscle:t2:
@Wakikki Wishing you an anxiety free day!
@Doreen1 Congrats on 6 months. :clap:t2::tada::partying_face:
@Davina_Davis 90 days are great :+1:t2::partying_face::sunglasses: Freedom suits you!
@tailee17 Congrats on a whole month of sobriety :sunglasses::tada: and I see you’re having a mind set out for 104 :joy:
@Butterflymoonwoman Great news Dana! Enjoy your time of gratitude :pray:t2::hibiscus::hatching_chick:

127 sugar
25 UPF
11 PF
11 overeating/binge

Goals for today: not eating after supper time, setting up a good schedule for the day, setting a timer for HALT and prayer breaks, keeping food journal, mindful eating, learning to be in my body, surrendering to the present moment.

Woke up a bit groggy, strange crazy dreams still hanging in my brain. Shoo, shoo! :ghost: One more day of game design studies before the Easter weekend. Need to do the groceries today as tomorrow everything will be closed. Weather looks nice, looking forward to the short bike ride. Yoga later or maybe a meditation class friends have been advertising. Not sure. Anyways, nothing too exciting, one foot in front of the other :footprints:

Keep the peace, look at yourself in kindness, stay in freedom :peace_symbol::people_hugging::dove:

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Good morning :smiley:
Day 12!!
Last day in work for 4 days, here’s to a happy and sober Easter weekend xx

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Day 278. Thank u for everyones advice and ideas regarding alcohol free drinks

My plan is to save five pounds in an account for every day I don’t buy them. I would like to have them for social occasions eg Sunday meal with family or out for a meal.

Weather is still a bit rubbish. Hoping to walk the coast by pendeen this weekend wirh my dog

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Good day at work. Did some training early which is lucky because we didn’t get a chance to do anymore during the day.
The day went super fast, except for the mission to try to get home. Had to stop at the supermarket to get groceries before easter and then the motorway was jammed with people trying to go away for a easter break. Home just in time to say goodnight to the girls.

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@Timetochange

5 pounds everyday is nice deal !, You can have great meal at weekend

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I’m here, I’m alive and I’m sober.
30 days.
Guess I mixed up the counting somewhere but that’s what my timer says anyway.

Couldn’t get why it suddenly said 1 today, until I realized it’s not one day. But one month.

Feels good.
Yesterday I read a quote from one of those life coach accounts on Instagram that said.

“You don’t find yourself, you create who you want to be, so start creating”

Never thought of it like that before, it’s a good one. And I’m creative so I’m sure I can create something good this time :blush:

Had a nice trip to Gothenburg yesterday, but we all agreed on not going back for a while.

My brother called yesterday and wanted me to babysit his kids (my niece and nephew) for about a week this summer, my sister in law is working and my brother is about to start a Trainee program in Stockholm.

I think I managed to get out of that obligation, because we’re supposed to be at my cousin’s graduation on the west coast that week.

Love my Niece and nephew, for a few hours at a time. Not 24/7 for an entire week without any of their parents around. I’m to old for that :laughing:

Today our Easter Bunny helper wanted us to make our own Easter shirts. So that’s what we’re going to do.

We’re also going to try and make our own marshmallows, make smoked salmon in the smoker grill outdoors, and coloring some eggs to bring tomorrow.
I’ve also promised to fix Easter eggs to all the kids tomorrow.

Swedish kids gets to look for big paper eggs with old fashioned pictures filled with pick and mix candy.

Wishing you all a wonderful Easter weekend.

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You’re always welcome for a Fika.

Yep,it used to be free to use the bathroom in some places. But they’ve changed it, so now you have to pay. It’s pretty common in Europe for what I know.

At least I’ve needed to pay for using the bathroom in both Germany,France and Denmark. Even if Denmark is pretty good at having free bathrooms.

When I was young you just need to put a coin in the door and you could sneak in more than one person. But they’ve changed that to probably for security reasons (I totally get that) so now there’s toilet guards and you need to pay for everyone, including the kids.

For what I know it’s only in the bigger cities though. In the smaller cities we usually Visits it’s free to use the bathrooms in the shopping malls. Still guarded thought.

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I had a very good evaluation with my managers about my experience expertise work yesterday. I got some great feedback, we decided to add another day of it which will make it about 50/50 between nursing duties and experience work. With some extra money. Only downside is that I’ll have to write reports about what I do as experience worker. I’ll manage.

Also went to my first live show this year. Which was nice, although since I’ve gotten used to getting up at 5 am it was kinda strange to be in town at 11 pm. And is it a Dutch thing for people to keep talking while the band’s playing? It’s bloody annoying anyway.

I’m off today, just the weekend to work and it’s 3 weeks of holidays. Yay! Feeling a lot more positive today. Although I still have my first assignment to do for writing class tonight. 250 Words. Some more coffee first. Have as good a day as you all can friends. Sober and clean. Love.

@MrsOdh Congrats Sophia! That quote is 100% spot on and especially so true for all our Recoveries. And yes, finding a bathroom for free isn’t easy in Europe and I know North Americans are rather shocked by that.
@Blondie75 Happy sober Easter weekend to you Sarah!
@acromouse Happy little bike ride Aga!
@Doreen1 Huge congrats on six months!
@Davina_Davis 90 Days is Big! Congrats!

That’s all I read at first. I thought ‘that’s strange indeed!’ And yes, it’s good to do some research into the dosages that these vitamin pills contain.

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Thank you.
I’m sure you’ll do 250 words quickly, it sounds a lot but it’s roughly 1,5 pages. Not so much when you think about it that way.

Love that you’re starting to write, I’ve always wanted to be a writer. Took some creative writing classes years ago. It was a lot of fun, but It didn’t help much :blush:

I’m sure yours is better though.

So it’s the same in the Netherlands? With the bathrooms I mean, I’ve only been in Edam but that was like 25 years ago. So I can’t remember.

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If it helps, I wear leggings under my scrubs for work. So I technically had pants on just not my outer pair.

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It’s about the same. I know about some free ones in town, but I’ll keep that a secret :sunglasses:. If you ever come to visit I’ll show you :upside_down_face: It’s becoming less and less BTW.

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Would love to visit some day. Your pictures are always stunning. And as I’ve said before, they do promote spring travels to Amsterdam hard here. Because of all the flowers.

If I go it’s for the chocolate not the flowers.
I know that one of my favorite brands, Tony’s have a superstore in Amsterdam.
:blush:

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Been there. Nice place. Quite a story too. Tony was a journalist who started this as a research project for an article he was writing on slave labour in cacao production. No intention of doing anything else with it. Now he’s an international businessman with a big company.

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14 days. 2 weeks’

Feeling great today and more solid than ever in my resolve to be sober. Reading “this naked mind” again has definitely flicked a switch in my mind.

Helps that I’m away on family holiday and not exposed to alcohol daily like I am at work. The finance industry is so booze centric it sucks.

Off to take the kids quad biking in the almost sunshine - spring is teasing us here in England.

Have great days all

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Here in the UK, pants are underwear :briefs:. :rofl:

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Love that story, and I really hope that they are as fair as they say they are. Also love that they make some gluten and dairy free chocolate. Had their advent calendar this Christmas.

It feels better to Think that the products you buy at least try to make a good impact. I do the the same with coffee. We have a brand here called Arvid Nordquist. They’ve got one kind where they give a small amount per package to women in developing countries so they can start their own Business, and one kind where they give a small amount per package the save Elephants.

I usually go with the elephants.
Buy local produce as much as possible and you know, just trying to be fair.
Unfortunately you can never know for sure.

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